A Contagious Smile Podcast
"A Contagious Smile" is a transformative platform embracing special needs families and domestic violence survivors. We illuminate the journeys of extraordinary individuals who've triumphed over adversity and aspire to ignite your own inner light. Through candid stories, we showcase how they conquered challenges and emerged stronger. Our podcast features insightful interviews with experts, offering resources that empower and uplift. Let us guide you in rediscovering your inner light – because every smile narrates a tale of resilience. It's time to share your story and rekindle your spirit.
A Contagious Smile Podcast
Mindset Mastery and Miraculous Recoveries: Shane's Business Insights, Family Adventures, and Martial Arts Triumphs
https://theshaneboyd.com/What if your mindset could be the key to unlocking unparalleled business success? Join us as we welcome back our inspirational friend Shane, who masterfully combines marketing, business acumen, and personal development to transform the way entrepreneurs think and operate. Shane’s boundless passion for reading and sharing knowledge is a testament to the power of positivity and perseverance. Our heartfelt conversation reveals how his uplifting posts have become pillars of strength during challenging times and highlights the mutual support that has deepened our friendship.
Ever wondered how a life-threatening accident could redefine your entire perspective? Tune in to hear the remarkable story of my miraculous recovery from a harrowing accident in 1999, and how it set me on a path of gratitude, faith, and resilience. We'll also dive into the joys and trials of family life, from the generational dynamics of living with my daughter and granddaughter to the pride I hold for my son in the Marine Corps. Listen as we share light-hearted family anecdotes and discuss how martial arts training has amplified my ability to overcome past injuries, offering a comprehensive look at life's many challenges and triumphs.
Good afternoon and welcome to another episode of A Contagious Smile. I'm so excited because, doing what we do, we have the opportunity to meet amazing people, and a while back we had the opportunity to meet Shane, and he is amazing, and what a gift this gentleman is, and I'm so honored to actually call him my friend because he is such a great person. He's a great human being and we've become friends and I hope and pray that it's lifelong, because he is literally just awesome. So he's been on with us before. We've stayed in contact. I follow him and I'm so glad that he is here to give us an update and just talk about some stuff. Welcome back, thank you so much for being here. I'm so glad that he is here to give us an update and just talk about some stuff. Welcome back, thank you so much for being here. I'm so glad that you're here.
Speaker 2:It's a pleasure, and I think this thing about you and thank you for calling me a friend and thank you for all the awesome things you said. I should come here more often. I feel really good now. Thank you.
Speaker 1:You have a welcome open door policy with me, so tell me what all you're doing Now. Anyone who doesn't follow him, shame on you, because you need to follow this man and I'm going to have every possible link and connection to him in the show notes. But he brings you positivity even on the days you don't necessarily think you need it, but you do and he's done that for me more than he even knows. So what have you been up to beside making people?
Speaker 2:smile.
Speaker 1:Very cool.
Speaker 2:Really at the core of what I do. I mean I love marketing, I love business, I love motivation, personal development. I love all of that, so there's no reason one can't do all of that.
Speaker 2:I mean really what I have done since the last time we spoke is put everything together into a marketing and mindset package that I work with business owners on, but it always starts in the same place. I mean, it doesn't matter if one comes to me because they want advertising help or simple mindset work. It starts with mindset. That's where my core focus is habits and mindset. If one can see behind me, yeah, I have a library of books. It's real. It's not a backdrop. Those are actual, real books.
Speaker 2:I, I that's only half my library I don't have the entire bookshelf put together, but I love reading, studying, mindset, habits, and then you have to pour out, because if you just harbor it all inside of you, you're just employed. You can't just continue to consume information. I love pouring it out. So I love working with people to help them with their habits and mindset. Because, especially a business owner, when you own a business man, you know what it's like. I mean, if your business is off, it's because you're off.
Speaker 1:So absolutely and most people don't recognize that.
Speaker 2:They don't see that no, and having been an entrepreneur now for the past 20 years, I'd see it. I know what it's like to have feast or famine. I know what it's like to have depression like stop you from doing things. I know what it's like to just be at just the foggy brains all the time and no motivation or inspiration. I've lived it.
Speaker 2:Yes, because of what I've been around and people I've followed and have mentored by, I've been able to share with others and it's really rewarding. You know, when you see somebody just get the spark after you talk to them and you know that they're going to use that to help something or somebody else. That's great man.
Speaker 1:I dig that yes, and the thing is with shane and I promise he has not paid me to say this he literally is the person that you hear. He actually cares. He's not one of these people who is like the balloon theory, where he blows the balloon up and then, when he gets what he wants and it's out, it's gone and the air's been let out of the balloon. He's not like that. He is genuine in every sense of the way. He is a gentleman a thousand times over and I go on there and I follow him and I look at everything he posts and it's not only truthful but it's motivational and it's so sweet and genuine and you can tell it comes from a place of endearment and honesty and he wants to see those he works with succeed and that's so rare these days. It's mostly like, oh, what are you going to pay me for? Okay, great, here it is Bye and that's the gist of what you get. But he's not that way at all and he totally stunned me. I have to tell you.
Speaker 1:Everybody knows what my husband and I have been going through with faith and immediately like there were times where I'm just sitting there and there's another surgery going on and there's another coding going on and something else is going on and I'm sitting there doing anything I can while the surgeons are in there with her and I look and I see all of these beautiful motivational things that Shane has on his wallet. It really helped push me through some really tough, tough times and for that I thank you. But then he shocks me by sending me a message that I have to ask him what he meant. I'm going to put him on the spot, but he sends me a message that some of my words. He just thought about it one day and I was just kind of totally confused because he's this person that does that for everybody else.
Speaker 2:What did I ask you?
Speaker 1:You told me that you were having kind of a difficult time and I popped into your brain and some of the words I had said to you, really, really, and I was like what's he talking about?
Speaker 2:Like, for example, everything you just said for the past few minutes. I mean it doesn't bounce off, I hear it, I love it, it makes me feel great. I mean I'm human, I still do depression.
Speaker 1:I don't want to say. I go through the phrase.
Speaker 2:I have depression. You do depression. You have to really try to be depressed. I still go through and do depression sometimes I've been through bumps in the past year or so and I just came across your feed and you popped in my mind and just the nice things you said and the things I was able to work with your daughter and talk with her. I was like that just made me feel just good. It just made me feel like so much better that day and kind of pulled me out of a funk.
Speaker 2:So that's what I think it was genuine. I mean, that was kind of going through a funk and you can probably go through my post or my reels and see kind of how I'm doing that day. Yeah, yeah, how about?
Speaker 1:I mean, for those of you who are listening, how about robin williams oh, one of my favorite human beings on the planet, and people don't realize how genuine he is or was and what he did for so many people exactly think about that man like you can't help but smile, right?
Speaker 2:I mean so many laughs and just good-hearted moments and things and he hung himself he committed suicide.
Speaker 2:So yeah, he you just don't know what another person's going through. So, yeah, even though I'm able to speak and motivate, inspire and help with companies and different things, I'm human. I still have human emotions, I still go through phones. So, yeah, sometimes, like that's, that's even why a lot of these books I have it's something you had said before just like yeah, oh, that's just awesome makes me feel like I'm making a difference in somebody's life. That's why I was inspired. I want to tell you that oh, thank you.
Speaker 1:No, when I heard robin williams, it's one of those moments where it's like what? And you and you reread it, and you reread it. And it's no, no way, because this is a man that literally went and hired homeless people to be extras on his movies and he would tell the people hey, you know what? We don't have a shortage of change. The craft services, all of the food stuff is for them. Bring your own food or go get your own food. All of the food stuff is for them. Bring your own food or go get your own food.
Speaker 1:And I had the privilege and honor of talking with one of Patch Adams co-workers, if you will, who literally is just the sweetest guy. He still tours with Patch Adams and he told me he sent me pictures of him and Patch with Robin and he said that they were just dumbfounded because he wanted to emulate everything patch did to a t. He wanted to absolutely bring justice to who patch adams was or is and he said this man would literally stop what he's doing if it was cold or raining out and like, go over to somebody who looks like they're cold and give them his coat and say I can get another one. And those people are so hard to find and your motivation just fits in that so perfectly, like a perfect little puzzle piece. What gives you your inspiration to inspire others? Who is your, who's your muse to help you?
Speaker 2:I don't know where everybody's belief system is as far as your audience, but I'm going to tell you straight Mine comes from my Lord and Savior, jesus Christ. Mine too, straight up, even though I fail him every day.
Speaker 1:I just also have learned from others, for example, I can't help but put a plug in for one of my mentors, joe Vitale.
Speaker 2:I have his newest book. I have a whole bookshelf of his books back here, a whole shelf of nothing but Joe Vitale. So if there's a person that I go to, it would be him. I go to his stuff. But I've also learned follow your muse, that old phrase. I know how I feel when I'm doing this. I know how I feel when I'm on a stage and I'm just leading, motivating, inspiring. I know how I feel when I'm working one-on-one or in a group and helping people. I know how I feel jazzed, I feel juiced.
Speaker 1:I feel, fantastic.
Speaker 2:If that's a feeling you have, it doesn't matter what it is a hobby, a business I don't care if you're gardening or if you're building skyscrapers. If that's a feeling you have when you're doing it, that's God's evidence for you, that is yours, that's a talent you have. And I direct it all right back to God and His Son, jesus Christ. That's where my own innovation comes from, because it even started crying out loud. It started in church almost 20 years ago-ish now, after, well, I've been married 22 years. So, yeah, 22 years ago, shortly after we got married and baptized and kind of became members of a church.
Speaker 2:Well then, just where I serve and serve still is a church of Christ, and you do communion on Sundays and they have opening prayer and that's all. I like it all Well men have to go up there and do that right. It's not paid staff, it's all men like their own members there well, I was on call to do it and I'll be damned if I didn't do well with it and I didn't even mean to no preparation for opening, prayer and communion.
Speaker 2:That was the impetus. Right there I realized I I can do this. This is actually kind of fun, you know. Yeah, yeah, people at church are always nice and they tell you great things, but I'm always like, well, that's they're supposed to, so I didn't listen to a lot of thought you know Right Right.
Speaker 1:Tell people who hadn't listened and they need to go back and listen to original episodes that you've been on with us A little bit about your backstory, which is so amazing to see how far you have come yourself.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, as far as the accident of 99.
Speaker 1:This blows my mind.
Speaker 2:That's how I refer to it now the accident of 99.
Speaker 1:The accident of 99.
Speaker 2:On my gratitude journal, which I have an app on my phone to have ever been grateful for every day in the morning.
Speaker 2:I'm grateful that God saved me from the accident in 99. Anyways, I'll keep it short and simple. Back in 99, I'm kind of dating myself. I'm old, but I was 22 years old when this happened, right so it's a while ago. Anyways, I was a nonbeliever, so, and I also wasn't driving that night, I had no worries about how much I was drinking. Well, I drank entirely too much. And on the way back home we was my now my wife, but my girlfriend and I were sitting in the back seat of this large work truck.
Speaker 2:And it was my friend who was driving. It was his work truck. We're sitting in the back seat. As we were driving home, I began to climb out of the window of the truck. Then, as they say, they hit a speed bump and they stopped Well in that stretch of where I lived there were no speed bumps.
Speaker 2:I mean, I was the speed bump, no fault to anybody but my own. I don't blame anybody for doing that. I joke with my wife for 22 years that she threw me out of the windows. Out of the amount of whatever.
Speaker 1:That's not good for.
Speaker 2:Melissa, it was my own stupidity, but so anyways. We were all inebriated. Nobody knew that they'd ran me over and they had no idea.
Speaker 1:And once we got back to where I was living with my brother, they helped me in.
Speaker 2:I mean, I was run over by a truck and I kind of got up and was walking back towards the truck and they were helping me back to the truck and helping me upstairs. It wasn't like I was dead.
Speaker 2:I mean I was talking, I was cursing the person that was driving. I mean I was talking, I was cursing the person that was driving. I mean I was aggravated. And my brother, who I was with at the time, when they went in and woke him up, they didn't know what to do. They knew I was kind of beat up looking.
Speaker 1:He was older.
Speaker 2:My older brother was going to wake him up. It's like midnight 30. And they said hey, Shane, he fell out of his time.
Speaker 1:Nobody knew when you have a head injury? Nobody knew.
Speaker 2:I still joke about it today, but the next day I wasn't waking up. And my dad. He was a great carpenter. My dad could rebuild a deck because he's really good with his hands when he was here, but he's no physician, okay. But they called him the next day and come look at me, and of course he had sage words of call an ambulance now right and they did.
Speaker 2:And I had to go to two hospitals. The first hospital they don't deal with head injuries and no mind you, nobody knew I had a head injury. They just knew that I wasn't moving. And once I got to the hospital and was x-rayed, looked at doctors were there, and nurses were there, and I'm not awake for any of this. A lot of this intelligence is coming from people that told me what happened.
Speaker 2:They told everybody look, he didn't just fall out and bump his head. The tires had to run him over. Run over his head more specifically, because I had an aneurysm on what's my right side of my head is where the bleeding was really bad, and the left side of my head, my brain, was bruised. Now think about the impact for a second. I mean, I've been. I get multiple black belts in martial arts now as well, so I've been in different areas.
Speaker 1:And it makes a huge difference. I think that helped you with your pain, not realizing how bad it was.
Speaker 2:Really, yes, but think about that for a second. Both sides were injured from one accident. Well, obviously I wasn't putting advice Right and the tire ran me over and they had no idea. So they had to do surgery for me to live and to end that whole long story there. Within a month I was back at the gym working out a few days a week. Within a month and a half I was working half days and I mean and this is 22 years or 25 years ago, now is when it happened. And yeah, aside from multiple, I've had you get headaches. Okay, that's kind of normal. I'll get migraines. I don't complain about any of them, just part of it may last a day, it may last three days, but in all reality I've lived a normal life man. I was go to the gym, go to work, started multiple companies, got full custody of my daughter buried, then youth leaders and ministers and professional speaker and got multiple black belts in martial arts.
Speaker 2:I mean just a normal life right after all this. So that's why I said I thank god for saving me in that, because I've been able to do so many things afterwards how is your daughter, by the way, how's? She doing. She is okay. She is 27 years old and I'm a grandpa now no congratulations you don't look like a grandpa thank you.
Speaker 2:They, um, they. She calls small, she can't really speak yet. She's like 16 months ish, um, but my daughter and granddaughter live here with us, um, just the times we're in, so things happen whatever. But granddaughter live here with us Just the times we're in, so things happen whatever. But they live here with us and my wife and I kind of raise her, my daughter works full time. My son he is in the Marine Corps.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:He just finished up with Marine combat training.
Speaker 1:Good looking boy.
Speaker 2:If you have been in the Marines or loved ones in the Marines. He is going for recon, which is special forces.
Speaker 1:Good for him. Good for him. You know I wanted to ask you because you know you know part of my history too Do you believe that your martial art training helped you with all of the pain that you endured from the accident?
Speaker 2:It was actually backwards. I had the martial arts afterwards.
Speaker 1:You did it after.
Speaker 2:I started martial arts like eight or nine years ago.
Speaker 1:Okay, I always thought you had it before because I did all my training prior. But I truly believe you get so accustomed to your sparring and that you really build up that tolerance. So, like hitting you or hitting me isn't the same as hitting Joey bag of donuts because they're used to it. You know, we're used to it and they're not so.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and my, my son, he likes it. He would tease me a lot with that martial arts, because if anybody were to meet me face to face you probably can't tell too well here, but I have a pretty big nose, right, whatever I have on. My son he's always funny about that. Now, martial arts, you were in it, you would whatever, but my son he's always funny about that. Now, martial arts, you were in it, you would wear gear. I mean, you have pads or whatever and you can have a head like a boxing. Headgear is what I wear, right, but there's headgear that has a mask, yes, plastic, or a cage.
Speaker 2:I never liked it, didn't see that well with it it was annoying, okay, so I always ripped the mask off and it's used. I just use now a boxing headgear is what I use and it doesn't matter I mean, I can be a spar and I'm.
Speaker 2:I got a second grade black belt in two different arts. So I mean I do, okay, I can't be a spar on a green belt. I get punched in those. I'm getting a bloody nose, it just happens. I mean again, my son is always like dad look at your nose. It sticks out like three inches past your face. What's it? Your nose? Wear a mask, you know. Wow. Thanks, son, but no, it's um, it was martial arts training so much fun.
Speaker 2:It is so much fun, um, and at this point I um I still getting back into training. I'm doing more jujitsu now and less full contact. Um, actually, I think since the last time we spoke, I've had two seizures. So I, as far as getting full contact hitting, ahead, I kind of like. You know what I think I'm done with that at the age of 46.
Speaker 2:I know enough. It's tough defense. I'll just focus on jiu-jitsu right and do boxing. That's not going to be as full contact but still be a part of martial arts forever right.
Speaker 1:See, the the hard time I had, shane, was when, you know, I lost my arm and I, with the amputation, it was like you know, I used to teach and now how do I do that? Like I immediately started like getting back in my stances and working on my katas and things like that, and I'm like I'm so used to being on a certain side, you know, and it's like, how do I do that? What am I going to do with my amputated limb? I mean, what am I going to do? Like it looks like one of those things from the nineties, that little clown that when you hit it it bounds down to the ground and like you know, what am I going to do? And it was very hard for me to accept mentally for a long time because you put so much of your heart and soul. There is extreme dedication and training in martial arts. A lot of people don't realize the dedication that it takes and the focus that it takes and then to to literally be like how am I going to do this now? How would I do this? It's tough it.
Speaker 2:I can imagine it's more of a mental game for you. I'm not going to be on a side tangent, but that's what's going on. I have my limbs so I can't even say I know what that's like. But I would ask you have you heard of Bill Wallace?
Speaker 1:I've heard of the name. I haven't really researched. Okay, and I have one of his black belts.
Speaker 2:He was really big back in the 70s and 80s and he was working with Chuck Norris and part of his team, and he's he's an undefeated kickboxer. And at his time anyways, short story with him while he was in the air force, he flew out his right knee. Judo blew his right knee out, couldn't do anything with his leg. Essentially his leg is a kickstand okay and he still loved martial arts. And what does he do? He devised a system it's called a super foot system.
Speaker 2:That's one of the black dogs I have, where you only use one leg, three kicks. Seriously, his right leg is a kickstand, essentially one leg. He's using the kick with three kicks. You know the kicks, roundhouse, right, those are just only three kicks in his whole system and his black dog test was a three and a half hour test. I was there for three kicks. Okay, wow, left, right, left combination for your hands. But I'm telling you this he simply devised a way that he can use everything he needs to learn. Do you can keep somebody at bay with your feet alone? Absolutely, I would totally just switch sides and whatever limb is there, yeah, I would be on the fighting side and I would just master that. Whatever leg it is left and right, I'm good left side, that's. Yeah, I would make that my left leg kick if there's a jab. It's so fast do the same thing.
Speaker 2:So I would do it for you, I would just train you know, what some kata's won't work.
Speaker 1:You don't need that kata, right yeah, I got one of those um, they call them bob, I call it dax where it's the big life-size, you know, man, and I think my punch has gotten a lot stronger, like I used to compete and I would break boards and concrete and things like that. But I think my punch has gotten a lot stronger because I'm like just angry internally about the fact of losing my limb and so I go and I just kind of hit it and Faith is like I'm going upstairs bye, like she's just like okay, bye-bye, but it's like I'm not gonna give up all of it. And it's not just a training. A lot of people think it's just learning how to physically defend yourself. A training. A lot of people think it's just learning how to physically defend yourself. It is such a mindset, it is such a way of life like it incorporates your entire way of life. It's not just self-defense or being cool or you know. So many people look at it different ways.
Speaker 2:It's a way of life like you live your life in honor and in your training it's a lot of folks who are maybe going down a rabbit hole in audience audience, but it's leadership, it's confidence and when I had earned my first black belt, I don't know, four or five, six years ago, whenever it was, even as an adult black belt. You had to basically write a paper as far as how your black belt process helped you or what it did for you, and then stand in front of the class and read it.
Speaker 2:I mean that was like whatever 36, 37 years old, whatever it was, and one of the things was as silly as it sounds, but dudes, dudes will get this because we're all similar guys are. I know beyond any shadow of any doubt. Whatever room I walk into, I'm okay. I'm not saying I can take everybody, that's not it. I have self-defense. I know if something goes awry I'm going to be okay.
Speaker 1:And now, as a dude, we think about that.
Speaker 2:We walk into whatever. We walk into a store, we walk into a room, we walk into a stadium you kind of think, well, you know, if somebody gets all crazy and attacks, well, I know what to do, I will, I will know what to do, I will, I will know what to do and I can live this.
Speaker 1:You know that I, that's a confidence I have from that's a whole mindset. Yeah, absolutely yes, a thousand percent, thousand percent. Tell us about what you're doing right now. How can you reach out and be who you are for people who are listening?
Speaker 2:excellent, um, and since the last time we spoke I have in this. This came to me through prayer, because of course, I meditate and pray, but it's called the four square marketing method and you think about that. It's okay, it's a marketing thing. Well, everybody's stuff's a little bit different. I specifically work with small business owners and here's what I do the four square marketing method, the first square just picture the old game, four square, yeah. And if you play that, you bounce the ball into the four squares. And there's four squares.
Speaker 2:Well, in each square you have different things you're working on. The first square is habits and mindset. That's where I start. I mean, that's my coaching and consulting package Boom, habits and mindset.
Speaker 2:Everybody can work on that. I can work with a person and help them pretty much increase their revenue 30% by only working on habits and mindset. As a business owner, it's important, and if those of you already own a company, it's important. Think about it. I mean, if you're constantly walking around stinking thinking you've got poor habits and you spend money as fast as you make it, you have no spirituality. Your diet is horrible because you're eating nothing but junk food and micro processed food. Therefore, you got brain fog. All the things right that we just do we don't think about. Let's work on these seven areas of life awesome. And the second square is that's going to be strategy. You got your habits and your mindset sweet or cool above the shoulders. We're good. Now let's work on your strategy. You have a strategy for your podcast. This doesn't happen by happenstance. I mean, you have a strategy. Let's put together a strategy.
Speaker 2:The third one is implementation. Now, that's great. We can plan our goals, all you want to do the strategy and do the thing, but until you implement, nothing happens. Right, you can have all the goal books you want, but if you don't implement, nothing happens. And what I also do is a done-for-you marketing digital marketing system as well, if they so refine. And then the last square is track and scale. That's why I say I start with the mindset and habits. I get a whole separate program just for habits and mindset work, and then when I work with a business owner, well then I incorporate the four square marketing method. So I mean, that's where I go. You would think it's multiple things, but it's one large system and I took out the first section and made that its own 90-day program for people who aren't interested in this school.
Speaker 1:You also coach. Yeah yeah, I coach.
Speaker 2:I do one-on-one coaching and it's for Habits and Mindset and it's over. The seven areas of life For that one and this is.
Speaker 2:I'm not trying to plug anything, this is more like me, but you should that's not what I'm doing at all. Think about a wheel. Those of you in the audience think of a wheel. Now, the wheel has seven spokes. Right, it's a bicycle wheel and seven spokes, okay, and each spoke is an area of your life. I mean, you only have seven areas. We don't think about it, but until you do think about it you realize oh crap, you're right. Well, the seven areas, I mean the first one's mindset, your mental, then you have spiritual, then you have physical, then you have family, then you have financial.
Speaker 2:Then you have career, Then you have personal. That's the seven areas of our life. All of your life fits in there. Now look at those seven spokes and grade yourself on a one to ten scale. How are you doing in your mental game, your mindset? I mean, how is your family? How's your finances? I mean, how's your health? Okay, do a one through ten. Well, usually what happens is the spokes are all jagged. It might be a two over here, a five over here a nine over here.
Speaker 2:Well then, look at that for a second here. A five over here, a nine over here. We're going to look at that for a second. What kind of a ride are you going to have on your bike with a bumpy wheel?
Speaker 2:Right, exactly so, if we can take you from a two to a seven, eight, nine and keep your entire spokes at that same level you're going to have a smoother ride in every area of your life, and we're going to do it in 90 days, simply by replacing bad habits with good habits that's amazing and I'm going to make sure we put all of the link for every way to get a hold of you and the show notes.
Speaker 1:I have to tell you because I was actually thought about you after this, when faith was in the icu and she coded the day before this happened and we're in the icu, right, and I am literally like you. I slept in the ICU and she coded the day before this happened and we're in the ICU, right, and I am literally like you. I slept in the most uncomfortable hospital chair and my husband's like babe, I'll stay, go home. And I'm like, okay, we're, no, I'll go home when she goes home. Thank you, bye-bye. So, literally, she has. You know, she has her own podcast and she had scheduled Abigail Hawk, who is one of the sweetest women you've ever met, on Blue Bloods. She was interviewing the Blue Bloods cast and the show is ending, right, and Abigail is probably one of I mean, literally one of the sweetest women you've ever met. And so I literally was like Faith, let's reschedule, and she goes. No, and she goes. I have something I have to do and people rely on me and I was like you're in the ICU for crying out loud. So I had my laptop, I pull it up, I get on the zoom and I look like it's not, like I'm unpresentable. And here I am on set at blue bloods, like the whole set's right there. She's there, you know they're taping and I'm going.
Speaker 1:I'm like I'm going like this and I'm like I'm so sorry you know for this, but Faith is in the ICU right now and they're like, oh, we can reschedule. And she's like no, I'm good, I'm here. And you see, like so many, there's like 50 tubes and wires coming out of this kid and and she goes hi, abigail, so nice to meet you. Thank you for taking the time to come on and talk with me. I said I'm so sorry, there's no background and it's her in the ICU bed.
Speaker 1:And she just was like on and on and on and I was just like who in heaven's name has a right to complain about a doggone thing? Like seriously, I'm watching her and I go, I have no right to complain about a thing, you know. And they're all dumbfounded listening and watching her and she's just like so what are you going to do now that Blue Bloods is coming to a close? She's like I've watched every season and I love it and she's recording, you know, quoting episodes and and I'm just watching her in total awe and it just dumbfounded me and I thought about your accident and everything that you went through.
Speaker 1:And you sit there and look and I just looked at her and when we got done with the interview and she looks at me and goes what? And I said, do you know? You coded yesterday, like do you, do you know that your stomach is wide open, like completely from stem to stern wide open. You're in multi-organ failure. You now you know you have kidney disease. Now I'm in the process of learning if I can start the transplant uh procedure and for a protocol, and she's just like I have a responsibility to get my show out and I'm just how can anyone complain about a doggone thing?
Speaker 2:that's so, so true and that she has such an awesome purpose. I mean, how many people could she really help? And is she touching lives right now that we don't even know?
Speaker 1:Well, she just put out her fifth book and people actually comment to her constantly about how she's been so motivating and I this is hilarious and she get kind of mad if she heard me say this, but we had to. We've been going back multiple times a week to the hospital for labs and things like that. And she goes in and she's getting lab work done and she doesn't know this lady and she's talking. And the lady goes I know you and she goes, you do. And she's like I do. And she keeps talking. She's like I don't know where. I know this girl from and no idea.
Speaker 1:After a couple minutes she goes do you have a podcast? And she goes yeah. And she goes is it a teen podcast? And she goes uh-huh, she goes my son listens to this podcast and he he has down syndrome and he listens to this podcast and he loves it oh my your face. And she goes yes, ma'am. And she goes. Can I have a picture of it? She goes can I have your autograph for my son? And I don't want to put it out because it's kind of embarrassing, because, shane, she's getting an autograph on a paper towel from the lab paper, right in front of, like, a bunch of urine samples and blood samples. She's standing there and she's autographing and she, I said, do you realize how much you help people? I mean, just your tenacity is so amazing. And to her she, she just doesn't see it. She's like I don't want to be famous, I just want to help people and I, I just I don't see what people see. You know, I just see me talking and she doesn't get it the great ones.
Speaker 2:That's how they think, and she is one of the great ones. That's the thing she's doing is so natural and so easy for her, where a lot of people were like I can't even see myself doing that. She's like what? So he? Yeah, that's her. That's who she is, man. That's so awesome. Thank you for sharing. That's great. Yeah, no, I mean doing a podcast. I love it, man I know.
Speaker 1:and then she gets people like dance mom abby miller sent her a message wanting her to interview her and and you know, I just I tell her, I said you have all these people, dermot Mulroney, who you and I are at the same age, and for Valentine's day sent her a message asking to be for Valentine's, valentine's. And I'm like my husband's not going to come close to this, like how is he going to get anything close to this kind of a Valentine gift? And I'm looking at, I'm like how are you not just like, and she goes, they put their pants on just like I do. And she goes, they're no different than me.
Speaker 1:And I said, but you know, this is a big Hollywood movie star. And she goes, it's a job, and that's how she looks at it. And she's like, okay, so they come on, they. And I didn't reach out. They reach out to me, they want me to interview them and you know they put their pants on just like I do, and some of them I have more followers than them. So what? And I was like that's the mindset this generation, for her generation, need absolutely.
Speaker 2:It's a whole other tangent there, but you're right. But maybe think of something. See, we're born without limits. We don't have mental constructs from where we're born, right? I think science and doctors have said we'll be afraid of loud noises in the dark maybe, or only two actual fears that we have as babies, right, everything else we learn, she just has able to block out all that nonsense. She didn't have to unlearn a thing. She is already there, basically enlightened, as one might say.
Speaker 1:That's so cool and you actually have spoken with her and she just thought the world of you, she thought you were so cool, she's like he's awesome and he's so cool and I was like that was really nice and she was like no, he's all, he's really really nice. And then I told her about your accident and she goes he was a speed bump. And then you know, at first you remember she's a little cognitively delayed. And then I remember it was like a couple weeks later we were driving, we went over speed bump. She goes that wasn't Shane. I was like what. But I mean, guys like you like are what makes this world different. And this world today is nothing like it was when we were younger.
Speaker 2:It's so scary.
Speaker 1:It is such a scary place and time, right now it is.
Speaker 2:I want to focus on that. But you're right, you can't help it. You just try to stay in your world and just make your world a better place, because when you make your world a better place, you of make in the world a better place right, I tell her make one person smile a day.
Speaker 1:It doesn't cost you a thing and it really makes a huge difference in someone's life. You don't know what they're going through, you have no idea and you just doing that one thing can make a world of difference for someone. What is your advice out there for?
Speaker 2:everybody. This is something I was just talking the other day about. Very simple, we don't hear this enough. A lot of times, we have this desire, this, whatever it is, it's a desire. It's this thing inside of us you dreamed about. I don't care if it's been there 10 days or 10 years or 50 years. This desire for something, whatever it is, this desire for something, whatever it is, it wants you the same way that you want it. It's yours, it's already yours once you begin moving towards it, so whatever it is.
Speaker 2:It's there. It's there on purpose. That's basically the divine God, the universe. I say God gave it to you. That's for you to step into and make it happen. If the way was impossible for you to achieve it, you wouldn't have that desire. Therefore, whatever you want wants you back.
Speaker 1:So how do you begin? How do you help somebody begin?
Speaker 2:Oh gotcha, how do you begin, you just have to take the first step. You don't have to see 200 miles down the road. Now I'll take the analogy from Jack Canfield. Yes, drive from New York to California in pitch black darkness, but all you need to see is a few hundred feet ahead of you at the headlights.
Speaker 1:You just need to take the first step.
Speaker 2:That first step could be as simple as writing down a gold card. The next step could be as simple as reading a book, because it'll give you an inspiration. Find somebody that does or has already achieved whatever it is you love and want to do so badly. Find that person, read that person's book, watch the podcast. Listen to the podcast, watch the YouTube. Kind of follow that individual, because if you do similar steps you're going to get similar results. But it comes down to the very first step absolutely.
Speaker 1:I would like to have you on more often. You can't go this long without. I know we've had so many life changes between us going on and I'm so glad that the kids are doing amazing. I can't thank you.
Speaker 2:I am so awesome to hear about faith. My gosh, what an awesome person she is.
Speaker 1:Thank you I'll make sure that you send her your regards and I want to make sure sure I have, I think I do, but I want to make sure I have every which way to link to you. Everybody needs to check him out, everybody needs to go and start following him because he gives you such inspiration. And you know, what annoys me more than anything is like my husband will get in bed and he just scrolls and scrolls, tiktok in it and I'm like you know, no, no, like that's ridiculous. But during the day, take five minutes, go look at Shane's website. Go look at Shane you know it's the Shane boy because there's also an athlete with your name. But go and go check him out.
Speaker 1:Look at his positivity. Like who doesn't need more positivity in their life? I don't care who you are, you need it. So his videos are only a couple minutes at most and they just make you feel good, they make you feel better about yourself. So who doesn't need or want that? So you should every day get up Thank God you got up that day, because some people didn't and you should check out Shane's moment of happiness of the day seriously moment of happiness.
Speaker 2:I am going to write that down and steal that. I can guarantee it well, I am glad I hear that again yeah that's.
Speaker 2:Yeah, as far as my instagram handle, it's the shane boyd. That's not for vanity. There's a football player in canada, shane boyd. Um, the shane boyd is where you're going to find me on instagram, facebook's. I mean, I had to do a different shane michael boyd, shane michael boyd, that's. I'll find me there somewhere. Website is for my, for my business, so I just be Shane Boyd dot com and then for habits and mindset. I try to keep that one simple too.
Speaker 1:It's new habits, new life, dot net, and we're going to have all that out there for everybody to click on for you. But again, follow him. I'm going to beg him to make sure he comes back on sooner rather than later. Again, I hope he realizes that he's stuck with me lifelong because he's just a great guy. He just he's a good person, he's genuine. And those are so far in between these days and I just want to thank you for your friendship and your genuality and just being a gentleman and my best to your amazing son, ra, and your daughter and her cute little one and your wife, melissa. I just I want to thank you for being who you are really it's not easy being me.
Speaker 2:It's a pleasure. Thank you so much for having me. It's always fun. I appreciate you thank you.
