When Your Truth Becomes Their Trigger

Have you ever been silenced for speaking your truth? Join us for an intimate conversation about breaking through barriers and finding your voice even when others try to quiet it.

Victoria reveals the surprising backlash to her evidence-based book "Dark Dark Who's There," including a cease and desist letter despite her careful steps to change names and redact identifying features. As the black sheep in a narcissistic family system, she shares how speaking truth often makes you "the dangerous one" they try to silence - a reality many of our listeners will sadly recognize.

The conversation takes an uplifting turn as Victoria announces her selection as one of 100 influential women to be featured in "Her Story," broadcasting to 127 countries. This raw, makeup-free telling of her journey overcoming abuse demonstrates that healing is possible at any stage with proper support. We also celebrate the upcoming release of "Dear Silence You Lost" on October 1st - a powerful compilation of survival stories from hundreds of people worldwide who've broken their silence about abuse.

Michael reads one particularly moving letter from the book, written by a son to his abusive father, illustrating how recognizing toxic patterns can break generational cycles. The letter writer's determination to never become like his father resonates deeply with anyone who's witnessed or experienced family violence.

We take a vulnerable detour as Victoria shares her recent surgical experience resulting in hearing loss, including the heartbreaking moment of hearing "I love you" in her right ear for the last time. Her frustrations with medical professionals who made light of her condition highlight the importance of compassionate healthcare and proper advocacy.

Whether you're healing from trauma, supporting someone who is, or simply seeking to understand the journey better, this episode offers both practical wisdom and emotional resonance. Visit our academy through thecontagioussmile.com to access trauma-informed courses, many available for free or minimal cost, designed to guide others through their healing journey.

What truth have you been afraid to speak? Perhaps today is the day to break your silence.

Transcript

Victoria's Book Controversy

Speaker 1 0:02

Howdy y'all. Welcome to another episode of Unstoppable here to Contagious Smile with Victoria, the sexy vixen that she is, and her husband Michael. Okay, howdy y'all.

Speaker 2 0:17

So let's talk about.

Speaker 1 0:19

God okay hold on.

Speaker 2 0:20

Before you go any further, can I please ask you to die on your back a little bit? Hold on before you go any further. Can I please ask you to die on your back a little bit? For those that don't know, I did go through this surgery, which I'm trying to get acclimated to, and I'm just gonna call it what it is it sucks?

Speaker 2 0:34

I'm just excited to be with you okay, great, but I can't afford to lose the only 12 of hearing I have left because I have nothing in the right, I can't hear, there's no eardrum, there's nothing.

Speaker 1 0:47

No vibration.

Speaker 2 0:48

There's nothing. I feel like I'm underwater. Whatever that sound is, I can't make anymore, and then my head was like four centimeters from me. Okay, so now let that go away.

Speaker 1 1:01

I'm sorry, as I was saying is that better?

Speaker 2 1:09

A little bit, yeah, thanks.

Speaker 1 1:10

So my wife has recently come under fire because of her latest book. Oh we're going back there. Dark Dark who's there Going there? Absolutely. So if you have not read Dark Dark who's there, I suggest you do to see what all the controversy is about. It is really ruffles of feathers. I'm just saying y'all get on Amazon, check it out. Victoria Curie.

Speaker 2 1:39

Cryptic, but I guess now that you put that cat out of the bag.

Speaker 1 1:44

Well, we can't say too much because you know possible lawsuit.

Speaker 2 1:49

Well, it's not a possible lawsuit. At this point let's just try to be as cryptic as we can. Because you opened this up. We received a cease and desist letter because, somehow or another, someone thinks they see themselves as a character within the book and every individual character in Nart Nart has been very carefully and I mean with such precaution made sure that their faces were adapted. Geographics are changed, meaning like, where are they geographically? Um, there is no photographs of distinguishing marks that would identify a person. There is no actual. I mean the names have been changed. But other than that, everything is 1000 factual and it's all evidence based. And so apparently you know when you're coming from a narcissistic family and you're the black sheep and this is a big no no, and so we receive a squash it letter.

Speaker 1 3:04

That's in the beginning phases, which it's just you know so we'll leave this up to your own substitution as to whom because we're not going to say that's right apparently.

Speaker 2 3:16

But I mean, you know anybody who's ever been black? She you know. But I mean they're, and I've talked to many people and I've talked to attorneys and and everybody's like, nobody is identifiable by like there's no.

Speaker 2 3:30

All the pictures, their faces are redacted and names have been changed and so there is no distinguished marks that say oh, that's you know, the elephant tamer or that's the dog groomer or or you know whatever, but the book is factually based without question, and you know there's some other issues in there that I never made a situation of, where you know, when you've copywritten a book and I have copywritten a book, a book and I have copywritten a book, there's copyright infringement. If somebody takes excerpts of your book without your consent and places it upon their social media platform and I'm not talking about only insert of book, say, such as dialogue but even the cover is copyright infringement and that had been done, uh, I guess, years ago and I let it go.

Speaker 2 4:27

I knew it happened and I let it go and I didn't pursue it, even though it is clear as day copyright infringement, um, and it's obvious that it's this book. Right, so it's. You know, I've had some people say they're just pissed that their feathers got ruffled. Um, you know, the black sheep is the one that they try to make everybody hate because you're the most dangerous and that's why they belittle you so much your entire life.

Speaker 2 4:58

So, um, you know here it is where we get this and it's just like are you serious and you and I have not sought revenge or anything on anyone ever. We never have. That's just not who we are. Um, we both, on both sides, have had plenty of opportunity to do it and never done it. Uh, we just want to help other people, but there there's not much you know to say about this, except, you know, I don't know, I just I'm kind of just a little like okay, well, how do you dispute evidence?

Speaker 2 5:42

Yeah, that's what, what's going to be and evidence ends up having to be disputed, then does that mean everything gets redacted and that shit gets real.

Speaker 1 5:53

I mean sorry, that's what it is.

Speaker 2 5:55

Shit's going to get real if that's what ends up having to happen. Self-identification is not the same as being identified as, but that's what ends up. Hey, rusty, rusty just wants everybody to know. Our sweet rusty boy is here giving kisses and some loving. Yeah, stucco's at mama's feet. Rusty's right here too. Yeah, don't go bowling. So anyway, there's that fun and excitement.

Speaker 1 6:24

So now that we've said that.

Recognition as Influential Woman

Speaker 2 6:26

How about I give you some news you don't know about? That's going to like totally shock you. He's going to be like I'm not surprised.

Speaker 1 6:33

Let me guess you're writing another book.

Speaker 2 6:37

I'm always writing something, but You've started another course. I've written three today.

Speaker 1 6:42

You've written three courses.

Speaker 2 6:43

Yes.

Speaker 1 6:45

Y'all going on our academy and check out these three new courses. What can I tell you? There must be 140, at least maybe 140 classes, courses that my wife has come up with the curriculum and put all this together and some of these classes are amazing. Some of them are free. Some of them, you know, you pay $4.99. What do you do? But definitely well worth it.

Speaker 2 7:23

Go check out the academy.

Speaker 1 7:24

You can get to it through the main website, the contagious spacom. All right.

Speaker 2 7:29

Are you ready, so I just learned while you were. You know that.

Speaker 1 7:37

Why I sleep or take a nap, or wow, I do have a medical condition.

Speaker 2 7:45

You know, women, the only great thing. I always have to find the silver lining, because if I don't I'd be really upset in my life by all of the. You know fragments that make me warm now. So I turned my right side to my head when I was talking gibberish.

Speaker 1 7:57

Really.

Speaker 2 7:58

Okay, so find out why you're know sawing logs that on september 30th, which is a week from tomorrow um, I have been chosen. I didn't tell you that I was doing this yet because I didn't want to jinx it or whatever. I have been chosen as one of 100 of the most influential women and I am going to be on television in 127 countries all right.

Speaker 1 8:38

Well, that's my wife. For you, another accomplishment well, it is um.

Speaker 2 8:48

It's called her story. It's going to be 127 countries broadcasted um and it's a. It's a global event and I was asked some time back and I did all of it and then we had to put in the submissions.

Speaker 2 9:04

We were, I was chosen oh that big thing and then, well, but I didn't know if I had it or not, if I got it right. And then I got this email while you're sleeping that they didn't in fact choose my story and, um, it's going well. I actually was wrong. You'll love it. I have hardly any makeup. My husband hates when I wear makeup and I was raw when I did this um interview where it's called she is me, you know, and I'm like basically she's me and it. It is the rawness of me and makeup. My injuries are pretty much showing of how I overcame, and so could anybody else. I mean, it's just raw, like almost makeup free. Very scary. Please put on sunglasses and take away small children so you don't frighten them because Halloween's coming Scary.

Speaker 2 10:01

The story of how I overcame all this abuse and got through it and now to be chosen for one of the top 100 women and go into 127 countries. That's such an honor. It's a huge honor. I can never do anything that just makes my husband go. Oh my god, I'm so shocked. Congratulations. What you set the bar high woman, I know it never gets you to be like wow, I'm so shocked, seriously, never, never.

Speaker 1 10:42

Exactly.

Speaker 2 10:42

No.

Speaker 1 10:43

Because you set the bar yourself.

Speaker 2 10:46

Well, some people do. I don't think so at all, anyway. So, needless to, say this is just about how you know, at any stage in your life, you can get through heartache and turmoil if you have the right support, and I have the right support. I'm looking at my husband. He is my support and strength and the love of my life. Why are you making that face? Because, tomorrow is her birthday y'all.

Speaker 1 11:16

If I can make it to hear there, and she turns the big your mouth, the big her birthday y'all, if I can make it to here there and she turns the big your mouth. The big. Well, I'll keep that part a secret.

Dear Silence Book Announcement

Speaker 2 11:31

Uh-huh, and October 1, we are releasing the Dear Silence you Lost and we got the books today. They look great. You haven't got to either, swallow a magnifying microphone because it's like a hundred times louder than ever. Why don't you open it?

Speaker 1 11:57

The book is only 160 pages, but it is compiled by Victoria Curie. It is written by well over several hundred people. No no, Right right. More came in, so people from around the world wrote in their small snippets of survival stories. And yeah, why don't you take one?

Speaker 2 12:26

and read it.

Speaker 1 12:28

Oh gosh, I don't want to start crying. You know how I am. You'll cry over this because you won't cry because your wife got top six, because I know my wife, you won't cry over the fact that your wife got top six or one of the top 100 books, because I know my wife. You're amazing, my wife is amazing. My husband is going to pick one of the three ones.

Speaker 2 12:52

Hopefully it's, I don't know, let's just pick one.

Speaker 1 12:57

Okay.

Speaker 2 12:57

Dear Dad, let's just pick one Dear Dad Is that a good one.

Speaker 1 13:03

You read it. You read that one, dear Dad, and I hope the listener who sent this in is listening right now.

Speaker 2 13:11

Trigger warning ahead of time.

Speaker 1 13:15

Yeah, because I haven't read this y'all. Dear Dad, I used to look at you and think you were a superhero. Let me turn the microphone this way. I thought your voice could fill a room because it was strong. I thought your hands were big because they were meant to protect. I thought our house was loud because that's just how families were. I didn't understand, not at first, but now I do.

Speaker 1 13:43

I know the sound of a slammed door before a fight. I know what it looks like when someone's scared but trying not to cry. I know how silence can feel like shouting, and I know that love doesn't leave bruises. You taught me that by doing the opposite. I used to count the seconds between your footsteps and her flinch.

Speaker 1 14:05

I used to pretend I was asleep so I wouldn't see what you would do next. I used to beg God to let it be a quiet night. Do you even remember the night she covered my ears with her hands? She was the one bleeding and still tried to protect me from the sound of your rage. You called her weak, but I never seen anything stronger. You said she was a problem, but I saw her white blood from her lips and took me into bed in the same breath.

Speaker 1 14:37

She was my superhero, my protector. You were nothing more than a piece of shit. How could you call yourself a man, a father, a husband? You said you loved us, but your kind of love felt like fear. I'm not writing this because I want an apology. I'm writing this because I refuse to carry your violence, like it's part of me. You don't get to take up space in my chest anymore. You don't get to control what kind of man I became.

Son's Powerful Letter to Abusive Father

Speaker 1 15:09

And you sure as hell, don't get to redefine love. For me, love doesn't scream, love doesn't bruise, love doesn't leave a child wondering which version of their father will walk through the door tonight. I'm not afraid of becoming you. I'm terrified of ever making someone feel the way you made her feel, the way you made me feel. But here's what you didn't see. You didn't see me watching her learn to breathe again. You didn't see her find her voice, her spine, her smile. You didn't see me learning what real strength looks like Quiet, steady, gentle and true. She survived you. I'm becoming someone because of her and in spite of you. This isn't revenge. This is release. You broke the sound of home for me. I'm rebuilding it without fear, in the walls, without you in the doorway. Don't make mistake my silence. I'm sorry. Don't mistake my silence for weakness. I'm sorry, don't mistake my silence for weakness. It was survival, but now I speak and I speak loud. I saw everything and I will never be anything like you.

Speaker 2 16:32

Signed your son, the man you will never be. Wow, now you have to understand. Some of the people who wrote these to me are 14, 15, 16 years old, with parental consent that came with. Some of them are 17, 18, 19 years old. Some of them are 30 years old. I had someone who was like in their 70s who wrote me yeah um, but to to the young man who wrote that good for you.

Speaker 2 16:56

I mean, you can tell that he genuinely thought every word, you can hear his life's experiences of what he endured and you can hear the dedication and honor he has towards his mom in that right there's a lot that's incredibly powerful.

Speaker 2 17:14

And that's just one of many, many, many letters of submissions that came in and they're all very powerful and you know they are hard to read, they are heartbreaking. There are some that are uplifting, but even the ones that really grab you and really grab a hold of your heart if you take a step back after and really go back and look at it. Yes, it's hard, it is triggering, it is sad but it's also so refreshing to see that they realized and they stopped and they broke the cycle.

Speaker 2 17:44

And they realized that they didn't deserve this anymore. And what a breakout for them right. What an uplifting moment for them and for them to share it with us. It's just amazing and I'm so grateful for all that. You're right, you can tell he did break the cycle.

Speaker 1 18:02

He could have said oh, that's what a real man is Right, that's what a father, a husband, is supposed to do to his wife. That's the way a woman's supposed to be treated. They're supposed to be beat, they're supposed to be hit. Yeah that push around. But no, he didn't do that. He did the exact opposite. Kudos to him. Kudos for shouting out. Kudos to mom For speaking up, and a real mom should do that. They should stand in the way of that, not tell you you deserved it because you stayed. That's right.

Speaker 2 18:36

Absolutely not. So y'all you know I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 18:38

That's right? Absolutely not. So y'all. You know I'm sorry, I think I stuck up. You did Y'all get on Amazon and pick up her latest book. It's out.

Speaker 2 18:50

It's supposed to be on October 1st. It's going to be with a master class that is valued at $497. I'm doing it for free.

Speaker 1 18:59

There's also a survival kit that goes with it.

Speaker 2 19:01

It's got its own mini collection for deer silence within the Safe Haven Phoenix collection on the Academy of all these different things. Help, then, donate five dollars, ten dollars, whatever you can, because that provides somebody else the opportunity to get the help that they need, the guidance they need, the healing that they need. These are all trauma-based courses from people who've gone through it and they're healing from it.

Speaker 2 19:34

What is going on with my puppy? He's. It's almost like you get a little ice cream from him. It must be Scott Hamilton from him. But there's trauma. Informed information that helps you get through the toughest times in this academy. So do you want to jump up here and talk to everybody? I mean, what is going on here, baby? He's just.

Speaker 1 20:00

All right. So what's next on the agenda?

Speaker 2 20:03

for.

Speaker 1 20:04

Change of Summer.

Speaker 2 20:07

Because you know he was amazing. We did reach out to him at Turnpoint about a year ago maybe, and we had not had the opportunity to have him on.

Speaker 2 20:22

I would have loved to have him on. I would have loved to have him on. I loved his concept and his philosophy like it didn't matter if you didn't agree with him. He would sit and listen to you, he paid you respect, listen to what you had to say and and had a conversation with you right and tried to help you see things, and that is something a lot of people don't do anymore, and so my heart goes out to erica and his two beautiful, beautiful kids.

Speaker 2 20:51

You know, these people are coming out saying that they're going to take care of them, um, financially, until the kids become an adult, and I might be wrong, but I think they said el Musk offered $50 million for Erica and the kids. I believe it was Elon Musk. It's like $50 million for your kids to raise to your 18. Are you serious? You know we could have done $5 million, right?

Speaker 2 21:19

No, I'm just saying it's just amazing that you know, know people want to help and turning point is going to continue legacy and this jackass did not kill charlie kirk as in the legend. He, he just created a million more charlie kirks, because I mean, when you think about it, I can't remember a time in history when you had the president the vice president.

Speaker 2 21:51

Um, you know, a good majority of the cabinet all under one roof, like that's a big no-no, you don't do that. And they were all there. And the very end, when Trump brought Erica back on the stage, it was not a dry eye. Not a man, not a woman, not a child had a dry eye anywhere in there. And she actually said she forgave the alleged assassin. Could you?

Speaker 1 22:16

forgive her. No, hell, no.

Speaker 2 22:19

No, no, but it's vengeance is not us to give Vengeance is not ours to give.

Speaker 1 22:25

It's forgiveness.

Speaker 2 22:28

I don't know.

Speaker 1 22:29

I'm not forgiving the idiot who did what he did to you, the idiot.

Speaker 2 22:34

You made it for him? Yeah, but I'm just saying, like you know, she openly stated that oh, it's done.

Speaker 1 22:43

That she.

Speaker 2 22:44

I don't know what's going on.

Surgery Experience and Medical Frustrations

Speaker 1 22:47

Our service animals are in our office with us during this podcast and both of them are just. I don't know if they feel something or they just seem needy right now.

Speaker 2 22:56

Well, I had to go to my prosthetic team, my prosthesis today and try to get them to like work on my. They can't get the fitting right for my nub, no matter how many times I've been casted and uncasted and casted again and they can't get it to fit and then, um, because my nub is not anchored the way it's supposed to anymore.

Speaker 2 23:19

It's not what do you call it it's twisted y'all it's twisted arm is twisted and so it doesn't go out right like everybody else's and so to get the um prosthetic or whatever you want to call it on there, and then they have to cast it and try to fit it and put sensors and then try to be either move muscle and all. I've had muscle transpositions, muscle transfers, nerve transfers, nerve transpositions, so it makes a little challenging. And so then they put a sharpie inside the market, my arm and try to get it to work. So it's pretty swollen, they said it would be, and I think they're sensing that too and I still have all my stitches from surgery.

Speaker 2 24:03

Those are all still lingering in there. So are you kissing the microphone? Yes, he is, he is. He's kissing the mic. So, yeah, you want to talk. What do you want to talk about? Stucco wants you guys to go on and see Stucco Squad. That's so much fun. I love the Stucco Squad. It's for all these gorgeous kiddos to go on and learn how to do things with Stucco, like take you know addition for example.

Speaker 2 24:35

It teaches you how to add Stucco helps learn how to add with you or learns how to subtract with you, and teaches you all the know how to handle being bullied at school or how to make someone have better self-esteem there's so many wonderful things about the stucco squad, and stucco is front and center in all of it. And who doesn't love a beautiful golden retriever?

Speaker 2 24:57

we've got two of them right here and so they are ready to go and play with you on the Step of Squin Academy. Right, boys, my husband is diligently in, but over there I also wanna check and tell everybody thank you who has reached out and text messages and sorry I'm asleep. I have not been sleeping even less than normal from the surgery and people have been like really just so sweet flowers and all sorts of stuff and I just want to say can we please, please, please work on? If you're in there to have a surgery, could y'all like, if you're in the medical profession, could y'all like, if you're in the medical profession, could y'all like read?

Speaker 2 25:47

an allergy ban I'm just saying is there a possibility of a reading of an allergy ban? Because, like you know, everybody who knows my husband and I, we have a um, unusual right sense of humor, right, and my husband went in wearing this shirt saying deaf D-E-A-F not listening and I got him a shirt and I've never had this surgeon operate on me before and he's a specialist, and I thought, ok, well, oh, I am so sorry.

Speaker 2 26:20

Wow, it would be a great icebreaker to make everybody laugh if he saw my husband wearing the shirt. So, first and correct me if I'm wrong, babe, we come, we get in there and they're trying to you know, fish for getting the iv in, and then one of the members of the team, um who you know.

Speaker 1 26:42

I'm always the protector. My husband will just flat out tell you who it was comes in and says what are we doing today?

Speaker 2 26:47

And I said you're making me deaf and I was mortified at the fact that this individual thought it was funny and downright started cracking up laughing and it was like I actually said what is so funny? Now, in fairness, I actually said what is so funny. Now in fairness, I'm not on Verset, I'm not on anything.

Speaker 2 27:05

I take zero before I go into the OR. So we are in pre-op and I was like what is so funny? And what exactly did she say? She was like that you're going deaf, I mean. And I was like it's not funny at all.

Speaker 2 27:20

And then I went over three times my allergies, you know, reminding them of what I can and cannot have done. And then we go back into, we're getting ready to go back, and I look at my husband and I said to him tell me you love me one last time in my right ear. And when he did, I didn't tell him but it, it literally was one of these heart-wrenching, heartbreaking moments for me, because when you told me I love you for the last time in that year, like I it just it just took me out, like you know, like swept me off in a bad way because it was like I'm never gonna hear that again, never gonna hear you say that to me in my ear again, and it was very, very hard. And then faith did too and it was like double whammy and so the whole way back to the or I was just like trying to capture it and you know, almost save it and just replay it, replay and replay it.

Speaker 2 28:18

We get into the or, and I'm like, okay, you know they're supposed to like move you to the other bed and a lot of times if you're on their set you're already out, and I'm just like, okay, well, let me tell you because they don't know me, this is not my normal team and and I'm you know, I'm the one who makes everybody laugh and and so I'm like, what kind of music do we listen to?

Speaker 2 28:36

oh, he doesn't listen to music at all. This is a big surgery, this is a several hour surgery and he's not listening to music, quiet. And so I had said, um, okay, well, I want to go over again a couple of things, because my allergies are really bad, and so I said I don't want to go to sleep until the very last second, which is normally after they do a timeout. That didn't happen. Next thing, I know they like. I asked the fellow, you know, can I ask why this would be funny?

Speaker 2 29:09

And he was like I don't think it's funny at all, and then I was like she's right here, isn't she? He says, yeah, great, and I told her again I did not want to go to sleep until absolutely last second, blah, blah, blah. And then I wanted to go over the allergies again because I knew what would happen and next thing I know I'm out. Like they didn't even warn me, they didn't normally they say okay, we're starting the purple fall.

Speaker 2 29:33

We're starting, you know, the lanocaine. They, they tell you, they tell you that they're starting this is going to burn because we're starting the lanocaine and this is going to burn because we're starting the Atlanticade and this is going to burn because we're doing the front of the fall. Maybe a minute countdown for 10 or whatever. Nobody does that. So I was out and then when I got into post-op immediately it was like within.

Speaker 2 29:56

A couple minutes. They were just do you need to be admitted? No, I don't need to be admitted. And I wonder if they knew now, because I look like I ate a puffer fish from the movie Hitch and I look huge, my ear was huge, my face was you know whatever. And then I found out that one of the things that I'm allergic to they used to clean what they call the field prior to doing surgery. So just read your dog on. Right Do your job, brac Right, do your job Know your patient.

Speaker 2 30:26

I mean, I tried to tell them numerous times, it wasn't like that?

Speaker 1 30:28

No, you did tell them, you didn't try.

Speaker 2 30:30

Right, but I mean, it wasn't like I wasn't trying, you know, it wasn't like whatever. And then take into consideration that I don't care. I say this so I'm. You know, whatever it doesn't matter if it's one surgery or a million surgeries or 150 surgeries, it's still surgeries and it's a big, dumb, long deal. And losing your hearing is not having a inguinal atomy or anything right, it's a big deal and it's very life-altering. Like I was profoundly deaf in this ear but I'm still trying to get acclimated to it and it is quite challenging it. It is quite. I feel like I'm under water, I feel like I have my ear full of fluid, my ear still glued and because they did it stitch down so you can't see in the inside my ear anymore, and literally it was just like. That's a big deal and to make light of it and laugh in front of your patient's face, I think is is crummy, to say the least. I really do. And if I was advocating or had that been?

Speaker 2 31:31

faith. Oh, oh, hell, no, no, no, no, we wouldn't, it would we would have had a very different outcome at that point. I think, I do point, I think and I'm proud of my husband because my understanding is for once my husband stayed awake for this one.

Speaker 1 31:48

Ha ha.

Speaker 2 31:50

You slept through the whole thing. Most of my surgeries you slept through.

Speaker 1 31:54

That was strategic Seriously. Seriously, you like that no.

Speaker 2 32:01

But you stayed awake for this one. You were kind of irritated with this one before I went back. So, yeah, yeah, faith was like he stayed away and it hurts my heart because, like when I'm driving and and faith is sitting beside me, like if I have the air conditioner on, I cannot hear her right.

Speaker 2 32:21

Or if I'm trying to hear, like I love listening to megan kelly. We all know this. So if I'm listening to megan kelly and she tries to say something, forget it. I can't differentiate the two, um, and then she will literally just be like carmia carmia and she just gets going right and I'm focused on the road.

Speaker 2 32:42

I don't touch my phone while I'm driving, um nothing. So I'm, and then, when she's done, she looks at me like well, then I don't even know, she said anything right. And I feel horrible, horrible, horrible. And then I'm like babe, you gotta speak up. Oh right, right, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. So it's, you gotta get acclimated to it and it sucks and I'm glad it's me and not you guys, because it's.

Speaker 2 33:06

But you know can't change things. I just, I just wish things would be so. You know, we're introverts and we like just to kind of be here and we don't bother people. All we want to do is help people. Some people have sticks in their asses. I'm saying, and it's like misery loves company. I don't think that I have ever found a more truthful quote right. That's more applicable right now, because if you're unhappy and someone pisses in your cornflakes, do you want?

Life After Hearing Loss

Speaker 2 33:41

to make that a buffet one, like seriously, I mean, that's just the best way to sum it up and it's ridiculous. You know, look in the mirror and then just be like wow, and then you know. One other step I guess I can say which is kind of ironic, babe, is when you are and I don't know how my husband's getting reactive by saying this. But not only does misery love company, but when you have to have someone else do your work for you, you know, when you have to, like psychologically, in a negative way, spin it, for someone else to not realize what you're doing because you're unhappy and you have to put it off on someone else because you can't do it yourself, is a coward, it's misery.

Speaker 2 34:39

It's misery like it's miserable you know, my husband has this shit eating bread on his face. But I mean, you know, I went through great lengths. I mean, it took me months to make sure every name, every photo, everything was redacted. Every every story in there is factual.

Speaker 2 34:57

But there was no way somebody could say that's the dog breeder, you know or that's the lawn care guy or you know whatever, but to be like, oh you know, and then the hot potato pass it, but then act like you know you're the groundkeeper. It's just, it's dumbfounding to me and that and you know, that's one of the things I've learned for 40 years on the couch of therapy is that's why you and I will never be those people, because we don't have the mental makeup to be so corrupt. And what's the other word?

Speaker 1 35:35

I'm looking for Crosswires twisted the sequel, the sequel.

Speaker 2 35:47

The sequel. I mean, why can't you just live your life? No one's bothering you, why do you have to just interrupt?

Speaker 1 35:56

shit Right.

Speaker 2 35:59

But sometimes you can't walk stuff back.

Speaker 1 36:03

Nope, this is a good episode. Yeah, great episode. I love it when we do it together, I mean really. I mean yeah, Well, shit.

Speaker 2 36:19

And he's been giving me such a hard time. Don't pick. Don't pick because the thing that he sent me home with looks like I had a cup on, like a man's cup.

Speaker 1 36:26

No, that was your buddy. I won't mention his name, but his initials are Joseph.

Speaker 2 36:31

His initials are Joseph. What do you still haven't given him the one that you promised?

Speaker 1 36:35

A real buddy, he said it looked like you had a jockstrap on the side of your head.

Speaker 2 36:41

It didn't look like that, but you know, and then you know it was a pretty big shot I guess I borrowed yours. Hey, well, all right.

Speaker 1 36:54

That concludes today's episode.

Speaker 2 36:56

Holy crap, that was the wrong way.

Speaker 1 36:58

Hey, who's got the torn shorts? In other words, other news. Can we edit some of this Absolutely? Not I need to talk to your producer.

Speaker 2 37:13

I am your producer.

Speaker 1 37:14

Well who does the?

Speaker 2 37:16

editing I do Well shit what would you like to see happen in the next year with us?

Speaker 1 37:28

For me to lose 50 pounds.

Speaker 2 37:32

Can I lose 50 pounds?

Speaker 1 37:33

You don't have 50 pounds to lose 40. No, darling 30. No, darling.

Speaker 2 37:38

No, darling man, watch how you tell your wife that certain things are certain.

Speaker 1 37:43

Oh shit, Are we going there?

Speaker 2 37:45

I'm just saying, like you know, at our age phat is not relevant, like we don't. Women don't listen to phat and when you're like hey, that's fat. We think of put the donuts down.

Speaker 2 37:59

You're kind of fat, not you know pretty hot and tempting fat right. So you know I I have not been one to do the glp shot injections. I have not, um, because I am someone who's very conscious about keeping myself as healthy as possible, not weight wise, but so, god forbid, um, our daughter needs my kidney, she will have it, and so I have not taken any of those. And because of all the surgeries I've had, I've never taken pain medication. I ate my pain and I did put on weight. I was in the mid-epidemic and so I've lost well over half of it and I have more to lose.

Speaker 1 38:44

And I've gained it.

Family Dynamics and Humor

Speaker 2 38:46

And I have never said a word about my husband except how hot he is. And hot I didn't say fat, I said hot and how good looking he is. And so the other day my husband made a remark about something being fat, and then he tried to walk it back and said oh no, I mean PHAT. I mean PHAT. Yes, I doA-T. I mean P-H-A-T. No, you don't. Yes, I do, I do, I do. Oh shit, like that's what I thought. So, man, come on now, get your foot out of your mouth and say it correctly. Don't be like. Women don't want to hear that body parts are fat. I've never called you fat. Do I need to go back and tell you?

Speaker 1 39:31

what body part you said was fat? That was different.

Speaker 2 39:33

It's not different.

Speaker 1 39:33

It is different.

Speaker 2 39:34

It's totally not different. In 25 years it's not different. Have you ever said that to me in 25 years? No. Thank you Now what Good night y'all, thank you. Now what?

Speaker 2 39:45

good night y'all and you have to imagine I gotta get Faith in here one day because they're so funny. On the way back tonight we stopped at Zaxby's to grab a bite. Yeah, it was horrible. We were gonna grab something because it was gonna take way too long. And so the minute he goes up to get the food, we have the drinks at the table. She takes some of my unsweet tea and maybe shared it with him and his sweet tea, and she had this look on her face where she's trying to keep it straight.

Speaker 1 40:18

Why were y'all sharing sweet tea with me, or unsweet tea?

Speaker 2 40:21

Oh, she was just trying to ruin the taste for you.

Speaker 1 40:25

Oh, she was just trying to ruin the taste for you, but why were you sharing tea?

Speaker 2 40:27

We weren't. She was taking Because I didn't have a lot of tea. Well, that was before you did that. So when he brought his tray over with the food on it, he knocked the drink over and decided to make his fries a la tea instead of a la mode. So his fries took a swim in the river of tea.

Speaker 1 40:47

Three quarters of my cup went on my food.

Speaker 2 40:52

Yeah, and I offered you mine. You didn't want them.

Speaker 1 40:55

I figured it was going down the same hole Coming out. The same hole Was that Probably I ate dripping soggy tea-covered fries Cheese fries. Yeah.

Speaker 2 41:10

And she has this look on her face and she has like the perfect timing. She's like listen to you, sweetheart. She's like as long as you treat my mom good, you're safe for now. And then she's so funny because she like pulls out of her little satchel purse that she carries these scissors. The two of them are hilarious. I mean, y'all absolutely make my face hurt because y'all are so funny.

Speaker 2 41:40

I'm telling you, grumpy old knight has nothing. She'll go by him and he'll be like what? And then she'll be like why is the empty jug of tea right in front of the garbage can like? Why can't you put that in there? And he was like kitten and she's like slut and it's like non-stop back and forth. It is the funniest doggone thing you've ever seen. It's hilarious.

Speaker 2 42:03

He'll come in and be like where's my daddy home and she'll be like it's non-stop, it's hilarious, it's so cute. And then he the other thing she does whenever he's like, oh that kid, she rolls up her sleeve and shows him that her entire forearm is tattooed for him, and then he just shuts up and she's like yeah, that's right. Who's like yeah, that's right, who's wrapped? You're wrapped, that's right, you're wrapped, it's so cute, it is so, so cute.

Speaker 1 42:29

What father has a defense against that?

Speaker 2 42:32

You love, worship and adore that child.

Speaker 1 42:36

Because she's mine, she's my little squiggly.

Speaker 2 42:39

I cannot believe you call her your little squiggly. That's right, I mean that's not appropriate what you call her your squiggly?

Speaker 1 42:49

Yeah, she is. That's not appropriate. You can call her your A.

Speaker 2 42:53

I'm not going to call her my A. What's wrong with you? I'm going to call her my A. You know what. I'm going to turn to the right. She's one of your werewolves, my what.

Speaker 1 43:03

Werewolves.

Speaker 2 43:03

What Were? Huevos? I'm a caller, what?

Speaker 1 43:05

are you a caller In here, good?

Speaker 2 43:07

night y'all.

Speaker 1 43:09

Thank you for listening to Unstoppable With Victoria and Michael.

Speaker 2 43:15

Hey, does that mean you're going to be nice and then I can have an English muffin with cream cheese?

Speaker 1 43:19

Y'all wish her a happy birthday tomorrow.

Speaker 2 43:22

Can you wish like? Can I have an English muffin?

Speaker 1 43:24

You can have whatever you want, sweetheart.

Speaker 2 43:26

Sweetheart eating fat.

Speaker 1 43:28

You're not fat.

Speaker 2 43:29

You're echoing in my non-echoing ear.

Speaker 1 43:32

I just want to make sure you heard me.

Speaker 2 43:34

I think Japan heard you Really? Yeah.

Speaker 1 43:39

I'm really that alone. Good night y'all.