
A Contagious Smile Podcast
A Contagious Smile is a powerful platform dedicated to uplifting and empowering special needs families and survivors of domestic violence. Through heartfelt stories, we shine a light on the journeys of extraordinary individuals who have overcome unimaginable challenges. Their triumphs serve as a testament to resilience and strength, inspiring others to rediscover their own inner light. Each episode features candid interviews with survivors, advocates, and experts who provide valuable resources and insights to support those on their own paths to healing and empowerment. Join us as we celebrate the power of resilience, the beauty of shared stories, and the unstoppable spirit of those who turn adversity into hope. Let us guide you in rekindling your spirit, because every smile tells a story of courage and transformation.
A Contagious Smile Podcast
Jealousy, jokes, and the hard truths of narcissism—how one family turns chaos, grief, and healing into love, laughter, and boundaries
Good evening and welcome to another episode of a contagious smile unstoppable. My sexy, wonderful, sweet, loving, definitely not listening t-shirt wearing husband.
SPEAKER_00:Where is he?
SPEAKER_01:Oh, oh, okay. Let's just start this out fun. So my husband decides that he is going to create, and women know this, a shelving unit over this last week, right? Because we were having a big uh garage sale, if you will. And so my husband hears that there is a friend, friend, who may have left a voice message, and I hide nothing from my husband. He can access my phone, we know each other's passwords, you know. He'll be like, Hey, my text just went off. Can you go check it? No, I'm not going for your phone. But I started to hear it, and Safe and I were like, What? So I let my husband hear it. Well, we didn't finish hearing it until later. So my daughter is a little instigator, and so she's like, Dad, you got to hear the rest of this. So we let him hear this, and all of a sudden, my throws the hammer by accident. It comes out of his hand when he's hearing this, and it hits my martial art training dummy Bob, right? And he's like, What? All of a sudden, the whole shelving unit on the ground, like the whole thing goes into disarray. It's kind of fun, but I'm sorry. One of the sexiest things about you 25 years ago is a little jealous streak you had, and this was just it was hot. I'm sorry. We were cracking up laughing because it was funny, but it was hot. You are all red faced, but you know what? You should be flattered. It wasn't even, and you know what? It really wasn't. It wasn't I should be flattered that somebody, you know. I mean, don't say who, but I mean the oh, I'm gonna say his name.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, oh yeah.
SPEAKER_01:No, yes, no, yes, then this was our and then here's the thing is that it's not just that, it's the fact that, like, you know, there was no wrong intent. I mean, would I relate a message like that to somebody? No, I wouldn't.
SPEAKER_00:This message would have been perfect had I dialed one 900.
SPEAKER_01:No, okay, yes, no, no. Anyway, it was downright funny. So that was a little conduct room, if you will. That was fun. Of course, great thought it was great. So, all kids, if you are under the age of 18, please don't listen to this next little bit if you're uh my husband is really gonna get me out. So, parents pause and come back to this later or walk away because it is hilarious, but it's not for the youth. So our daughter Faith, our sweet, beautiful, innocent, loving, wonderful daughter, asks me while I'm driving if men get turned on by verbal cues. Right? Now let's remember, in case you don't know, I am completely 1000% deaf in the right ear. She is on the right side when I'm driving. I'm like, wait, what? What did she say? What was it? Do men get uh turned on when you talk to her to them? Fair enough questions, she's of age, right? She's curious and wondering would I prefer that she does this when I wasn't operating motor motor vehicle?
unknown:Of course.
SPEAKER_01:But she asks, and I'm like, I I assume so, I guess so. And she goes, Oh, okay, I get it. So a man's penis is like Alexa or Siri, they respond accordingly. So how do you not if you sit back and think about that for a minute? That's not right, it's funny. It's hilarious. It really is.
SPEAKER_00:So But not going around saying, hey dad, uh Alexa, Siri.
SPEAKER_01:Now what do you do? But it it really kind of is kind of funny.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Because, you know, I I mean it's hilarious. I'm I'm dying laughing.
SPEAKER_01:Because, you know, she's like, so men get aroused by voices, so in turn, they are Alexa or Celie, and it's downright funny.
SPEAKER_00:So we've been busy. We had a good yard sale, our yearly yard sale at this time. We got another one coming, but um yeah, had a good yard sale, met a lot of people, a lot of good people. Turned out that uh some of the folks at the yard cell bought my wife's book, at least one of them. You got some new members to our academy.
SPEAKER_01:Welcome all.
SPEAKER_00:Got some new followers, and uh, if y'all are listening, I think your phone is picking up everything I'm saying.
SPEAKER_01:Wow, wow, talk to text.
SPEAKER_00:Hey, that's your phone. Oh, because I said Siri.
SPEAKER_01:Wake up, Junior. Well, okay, I'm I'm telling faith. You just proved it, ladies and gentlemen. Millions of listeners, Michael just proved it. This is hilarious. Oh god. Anyway, good job. Thanks, good luck. Hold on, thank you. Thanks. I'll be here for a while. Appreciate it.
SPEAKER_00:That's wow. Oh, let's see. What else?
SPEAKER_01:Okay, so let's talk for a minute, seriousness, okay, and let's talk about narcissism, right? It's a topic that narcissists do not want to discuss, and the black sheep can't discuss enough, right? So I say this all the time that it took me over four decades to realize what I can bring to the table. Trend can decades. You need to just have a 29th birthday. I did kickstand.
SPEAKER_00:You know what?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, see how that works, ladies. So here's what I'm saying. So I took four decades to really learn that I know what I can bring to the table, right? Narcissists, I'm still embracing your herbage. This is gonna be great conversation to have with our kids. So, anyway, so we know what we're bringing to the table. Narcissists want to cut the legs off the table underneath you, right? Because the last thing they're ever gonna do is admit fault. They don't have the balls to do it, right? They are so quick, fast, in a hurry to literally be like, hey, you know, I'm the shit, I do everything right, I'm amazing. Pat my back, stroke my ego. That fall under the Alexis theory thing.
SPEAKER_00:Really?
SPEAKER_01:Sorry, anyway. But you go through and you literally, the narcissist is just meticulous and control of, and they come off as just one way to when that door shuts, they care more about what people think of them on the outside than what their own family does on the inside, and that is you can't get more gospel than that. And when you realize what you can bring to the table and what they try to take away, that's when you realize you know what, I am more than just fine eating alone, I don't need them at the table because that is nothing more than something that's gonna turn your stomach. Because it's it's literally like, thank you for showing me that I deserve more. Because as the black sheep, you spend the majority of your life defending what you didn't do, like you're held accountable for actions that you had no involvement in. None doesn't matter if you're even in a geographic state or not, you are gonna be held responsible for their conundrums, their screw-ups, their f-ups. They're gonna be put on you. But the minute anything is good, they take full credit. Like, oh, look at me, I saved the day. Look at me, I did this. But what you don't know is you make yourself out to be this hero, but nobody knows all the pittings that go behind it that really have no involvement of you whatsoever. You know, for instance, if I wrote a book, which I've written one or two, the narcissist will be like, you might have written it, but you couldn't have written it had I not given you the material for the content of the book, right? Like these are things that are so true that if you're not a narcissist, you scratch your head and go, What the hell? That doesn't even make sense. What the hell? What the hell? And if one more person tells me I'm getting southern sounding, I don't know what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna blame it on my my loss of hearing because people are like, You your speech changes, and so people you know tell me. You don't want to look southern any I get southern in me.
SPEAKER_00:You know what? PG 13.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, kickstand. So anyway, here's well, babe, no, this is October's domestic violence awareness month, and abuse is not limited to physical assault, right? It's not because I can tell you from someone who's been in abusive relationships most of my life, except now, thank God, that yes, bruises heal, you know, fractures can be set, breaks can be set, get a cast, yes, it sucks, it hurts, but you know what? That injury for the most part goes away. If you get a surgical scar, you know, I tell women all the time, you know what, it's closed and it's a reminder of what a badass you are because you conquered it, you overcame, you survived, right? This is a reminder of how awesome you are. But when you're told at like nine years of age that I wish that I had miscarried you, those are things that haunt you for the rest of your life. The words that you strive for as a black sheep are, I'm proud of you, you did a good job, great work, you know. How about something as simple as I love you? Those are things that black sheep never hear, ever, ever, ever. Because my husband will tell you, we were around my narcissistic firm donor, and he, you know, my husband was like, Oh, she's been in five magazines this month, she's on two uh two covers. And he was like, You should be proud of her. And he couldn't say it. He could not say, I'm proud of her. And he was like, Yeah, okay. Not can I see the magazines? Can you send me the articles? I even because we went through this wonderful window of like years of no content, and then he approached my husband, and then there's been nothing else lately, but I'm sure it'll come around again. I just probably jinxed myself, but he saw the magazines, and not once did he want to read the article, not once did he even want to look at the article, right? But here's the thing if faith came up to Michael or I and said, I wrote a poem, I drew a picture, I parted a hole in a piece of paper. Whatever it is, we stop what we're doing instantly, and we want to hear the story, we want to see what she's done, we want to see what she's doing because thank you. She matters that phone call you're on, and you know, that text message, that TikTok video, there's a pause button for a reason. Hit pause. You can reassume it later, you can go back to it later. That video, you're not gonna remember it in a year, you're not gonna remember it in a week, but you're gonna remember that beautiful poem that was written that she took the time to say, you know what, mom, daddy, you matter so much. I want your opinion. I want you to hear it, I want you to see what I do. And those are memories that not only do not only does my husband and I cherish immensely, but it means the world of faith because she's like, they're proud of me, they like my work, you know. It might not be our forte, it might not be our favorite topic of whatever it is she's writing about at that moment, but you can still say with wholeheartedness, she's a phenomenal writer, right? She writes with such emotion and sincerity and genuineness, and regardless of the topic, you can say that with certainty, whether you like the topic of it or not, right?
SPEAKER_00:And we get this all the time, you know, with our daughter. Uh, whenever she finishes a poem or a song or a short story or even a uh background on one of her characters for her book, she excitedly comes up saying, You know, mom, dad, I want to read something to you. I want you to listen to this. And then, you know, we stop what we're doing, we look her in the eye, we pay attention. Now, uh, if I can't hear, I I'll ask her to speak up, or we'll go someplace else, or we'll we'll stop the music or the TV or whatever, because we want to give her that underdivided attention because she's so happy, so excited to present this to us. And, you know, afterwards, after she's read it, she wants us to critique it. How was it? You know, was it good, bad, indifferent, you know? And we tell her, so you know, give give your child that moment, you know, or that loved one, you know, show them that they matter, you know, stop, pause that damn video game, pause that movie, stop what you're doing, turn around, look them in the eye, you know, show them, hey, you've got my full undivided attention. I'm showing you you care enough that I'm gonna stop the world for you, right?
SPEAKER_01:And you know what? Outside of your inner circle, do they really matter in a week or a month? Are you really gonna like you know, the thing is, and we always talk about sperm donor, and a lot of times we talk about your mom, but like, you know, my biggest condolences because we just had a death in the family and it was an immediate, you know, unknown, unexpected death. And we reached out to his mom, and like it it dumbfounds me how when somebody passes away, people I don't I don't even know, like how how do you explain it? That how some people just have this attitude about it.
SPEAKER_00:Um I mean I don't know. Sorry for the pause, but I'm I'm all lost.
SPEAKER_01:Well, no, because it wasn't, you know, like when somebody when we heard, we were like, we're on our way immediately, you know, and that's how it should be. But if you ever question, is someone a narcissist? Here, you know, here's a good checkout list if you really wanted it. When you call and tell somebody, hey, somebody that you've known for decades or whatever has just passed away, and instead, what do you normally do right on the bat? Are you okay? How are you doing? Um, how's the spouse? Right. But when you're like, let me tell you what's going on with me, right? I have to have this done. I have cataracts, I have this, I have that, I have this. Not how are you, not how are you handling things, not how anybody else, but it circles back around all about me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me. Like that's it. Not about how any other member is doing, not how any other, you know, person in the home is doing, it's me. And that, you know, is just you, you, you just don't even have words because, and the one thing you will learn time and time again from any psychology or psychiatry course, class, official person is that you'll never understand the mind of a narcissist if you're not one. It's dumbfounding because you can't wrap your head around the logic that they call logic. It just doesn't make sense. It's just, you know, like so many people um come out of the woodwork when something like that happens, and it's like, oh, what can I put my my hands on? What can I get? What can I, you know, reach for? And I'm talking about in generality, you know, they they just that's very normal when someone passes away. People just everywhere come out. What can I get? What's left? What's been, you know, what's here, what's there. And then when you ask, can you help me with this? I've got to do this. Can you help me with that? They're gone. They're no longer in the picture. There's a great, you know, they're two farts in the wing. And it's, you know, where where do they go now? They were great when their hands well were out, but their hands not out anymore. And that's just it dumbfounds me because what happens when that person gets that age and they have no one? And you know, one of the things that I I wish people would say more often to those POSs that have treated their own kids so bad, we're grown adults, right? But we're still someone's children, and we did not ask to be put on this planet. God put us here, and we're not preaching our religion by any means, but the individuals that raised us or gave us to someone else to raise still had an influence in our raising, and they chose to do whatever, if it was self-centered or not, but at some point in their life, they are going to want something and reach out, and that's when they do, they only reach out when they want something, not when it's a birthday or if somebody is sick, like when Faith was in the hospital and she almost died. We heard from neither side of our family. No one, not on Michael's side, not on my side. Your dad, actually. Yes, your dad did. He was in tears, yeah. Um, and and he wanted to come up and was unable to.
SPEAKER_00:We'll talk about that later later.
SPEAKER_01:Absolutely, that's as far as I'm going. But your dad wanted to come up and he was crying profusely, and he wanted to, but he was not able to come up. And other than that, we didn't hear anybody from anyone on either side of our family. But it's like I have cataracts, I have I have my head in my ass. I have, you know, what else we hear from other people? You know, oh my this one, this one is the one that really gets me. You have no idea what it's like to take care of someone who has medical needs. Are you freaking kidding me? You know, you just want to look at them and ask them one simple question. When you pass away, who's gonna come visit you? Are you gonna be cold and lonely in that box that's six feet down in the ground? Hopefully with dogs shitting all over the top of where you're resting. Because can you really lay at rest? Are you really gonna be at rest? You know, because nothing you think you do is wrong. Who's gonna come visit you? You know, to this day, God bless my grandparents, both of them, they have been gone for decades and decades. Like we're talking over 30 years. We still go to the cemetery, like we just made a uh when I was pregnant with faith, I made a golf ball Christmas tree, and I put it together with golf teas, and I put it at the headstone, and it took 20 years for it to finally break down completely, and we replaced it. And even though I know that that's just their physical self, I know that their spirit and soul is not there. We still go and change the flowers out and visit them and stuff like that. But you want to look at these narcissistic critics and look at them and say, Who's gonna come visit you? Who's gonna come put flowers on your grape? Who's gonna maintain your your urn? Who's gonna visit you on the holidays or you know, anything like that? And I can put hand to God and say, I still pray not only for my whole family every night, I pray for my ex, you know, that he gets the help that he deserves. Do I think he will ever get it? No. Do I, you know, revenge is not ours to give, and I know that, but and I've never sought revenge after him. I've never gone to his place of employment or where he lives or anything like that, but I'm human. And if something happened, I just want to hear about it. I don't think that's unfair. I've had over 100 surgeries because son of a bitch. I think it's fair for me to say I'd like to hear about it. I'm not gonna have any involvement in it. I'm not gonna, you know, make it happen, but I just want to hear about it. I don't think that's unfair. Is that unfair? No, my husband's like, no, but there's a hole in her backyard.
SPEAKER_00:You know me too well, babe.
SPEAKER_01:We are always on the same page. Like this weekend, it's been like insane. He would say, babe, I need you to and turn around and I'm already doing it, you know. Like that happens so many times this weekend.
SPEAKER_00:That's because you're my soulmate.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, my little ranch.
SPEAKER_00:Now I'm hungry.
SPEAKER_01:We just went to a steakhouse for dinner. Thank God for you know, special early birds because we're old. We try to go out to dinner one night a week as a family. The rest of the time we eat together as a family, no electronics, no hats, no nothing at the table. We sit and talk about our day. And I love that. My husband and I don't do enough, but we do cook together. Um, we don't get to do it enough. After the garage sale, we were both kind of pooped. And yesterday he took one of his manly naps, which he calls 10 minutes and I call four hours. And when he woke up, I had already made dinner and cleaned the kitchen and started, you know, doing other things. And then he had on Friday, he had to do something. And when he got here, I had already gotten everything from you know three levels down to the garage outside for the garage sale to you know have it put out. And I finished all the signs, which is pretty impressive, may I say, to I got the signs that didn't have the what do you call it?
SPEAKER_00:Corgate and board.
SPEAKER_01:Yes, they were just signs, and it came with which I don't understand, the stance. They were as it was a set, right? It came as a set, but it didn't stick as a set. So I taped, and you have to imagine it's kind of here's your comical left. Imagine a one-armed person, imagine like Jack Sparrow or Captain Hook or whatever, getting tape and like holding it, holding the post, holding the sign, taping the thing down, cutting the tape off, or it doesn't include itself back to the role that you can't get the thing done, you know, open back up, and did this to like 12 or 14 signs. I was pretty dumb proud of myself. It's not as simple as some people think. No, it's not, you know, go tie your own shoes one-handed and see how that is. You know, my husband says to me, How long does it take to piggy? You know, and I'm like, You pull your pants up with one hand.
SPEAKER_00:That's only because I won't come in and help.
SPEAKER_01:Son. No, but I want all my listeners to next time you go to the bathroom.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, now they're your listeners, and you are in there in the bathroom, one hand.
SPEAKER_01:I want you to pull up your drawers and your pants, one-handed, not one-handed for each side, one-handed for the whole caboodle. Like, seriously, try that. And then when you're in the shower, try. If you're a girl or woman, sorry, try shaving one-handed, your pits, everything, wash your hair one-handed, condition it one-handed, brush it one-handed. Don't alternate hands, keep the same hand going and do all of it one-handed, and you will get a smithering little texture of what it's like on a daily basis. It is not simple.
SPEAKER_00:It's not simple.
SPEAKER_01:It's not. It's so frustrating. It's like, you know, cutting a bagel. How the same crack do you cut a bagel? How do you, you know, like the first time that we had dinner after I became an amputee, and I'm like, how am I gonna cut my chicken? You know, how am I gonna to do what don't mess with me to do whatever? Um, it's not easy. It really isn't like my husband, bless his thumping gazer. We he laughs at me because we have our own individual way of folding towels, right? Yes, it takes me a lot longer. Fold a towel one-handed.
SPEAKER_00:That's not why I'm laughing.
SPEAKER_01:No, because he has he has this other way of doing it. You know, I'll make the bed, I'll change the sheets. I mean, it is kind of funny. We were changing the sheets the other night, and I'm trying to stretch it over, as everybody knows how you just stretch that that fitted thing over the mattress, and he goes to do it, it plops off, and it, you know, we just start cracking up laughing. And I mean, there's hardly ever a night where we're not like belly laughing in this house. I mean, it's constant, wouldn't you say?
SPEAKER_00:Yes, but you can't left field. What you remember where you were going with this?
SPEAKER_01:The fact that one-handed you could do all the stuff one-handed. Okay, then you went into laughter, but you we were belly laughing because we were changing the sheet, and I was putting the fitted sheet on the mattress one-handed, and then you went to grab the other side and it popped off, and we were laughing. That's not left field, that's straight in the center.
SPEAKER_00:Really, wife, you are an inspiration to others with either uh disability or deformity.
SPEAKER_01:It's not a disabled, whatever.
SPEAKER_00:You have possible you have accepted the challenge and you have proven time and time again that you can overcome it, and you're doing it one-handed. I mean, who who ties a shoe one-handed? Okay, you you made a bow. You you you tie yours in the double double knots, yes, okay. You've written 42 books, right? You run a successful company podcast.
SPEAKER_01:It's not just a podcast, right? We have a company, we also have an academy.
SPEAKER_00:You've written over 128 courses.
SPEAKER_01:134.
SPEAKER_00:Okay, I was close. But you do all this one-handed. So you are an inspiration to a lot of us. I'm speaking for all y'all out there in podcast land.
SPEAKER_01:Well, we do have some listeners that are not big fans of ours.
SPEAKER_00:That's right, we do, don't we?
SPEAKER_01:They're listeners because they're nosy. Yeah. Okay.
SPEAKER_00:Hi, Dick.
SPEAKER_01:That's not who I'm talking about.
SPEAKER_00:Hi, Rich. Uh Ma.
SPEAKER_01:No, it just said hi get it.
SPEAKER_00:Who else?
SPEAKER_01:Who else listens?
SPEAKER_00:I don't know, but there's too much silence.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. There there are some people who tune in to hear what we're up to on our podcast.
SPEAKER_00:Um, forgetting somebody, I'm old.
SPEAKER_01:Well when you have somebody who runs their mouth a lot, a lot gets more gets covered.
SPEAKER_02:Okay.
SPEAKER_01:But we do. We have a few people who, you know, don't approve of us supporting and helping other people. Um, because it rains on their brain. They don't want to provide validation. When they when you're a narcissist and and you have been called out, they don't like that because they no longer have that control. And the one thing about a black sheep is the narcissist feels they have complete control over the black sheep. And that's why that black sheep role, the black sheep role is given to the one that they fear the most because they're the most, you know, honest person. That's why they belittle them and pull them down so hard so that they have no self-esteem, self-worth, and that they literally feel as if they're worthless, and that everything they do will never ever be good enough, and that the narcissist is the saving superhero who cleans up all the messes and has to fix all your screw-ups and has to come rescue you time and time again because you make so many bad choices and you've done so many bad things. But you know what? And you and I both can relate to this. If we had better role models it growing up in the form of people who actually gave a shit beside lying down and getting yourself knocked up, and it does take two to tango. I mean, one spits and one fertilizes. I mean, you know, but at the end of the day, there's a lot more to parenting than you know, pushing out a child and laying down. If you're going to be responsible enough to lay down, then you need to be responsible enough to parent. Or, you know, so many people want children who can't have them, don't have a child for a freaking tax write-off. I mean, because no adult, I say this, this is like one of my go-to lines. No adult should have to spend their adulthood recovering from their childhood. And and so many are. So many are. But if you can't hold yourself accountable because nothing you've ever done in your life you can ever say you did was wrong, everything is everybody else's fault. Nothing is ever your fault. It's always because somebody else did it, you know. Man up, drop your ball sack, and say, I screwed up, I did. I'm not perfect, I'm far from perfect. I but you know what? So many people have done so many other things in their life, and they can repent and they can get forgiveness. But at the end of the day, you know, we have dedicated our life to helping other people. We don't sit there and use people. We don't, if somebody needs us, they know we are right there unless we are helping somebody else, you know. But the very few times we have said, Hey, we need help from certain people. They have grabbed ass and ran, literally. And it's it's ridiculous because so many of them will only come around when they need something. And it's a big screw you, you know? But to how you can do so many things. I mean, for instance, why do people care so much about materialistic things more than they do their loved ones in general? I mean, I don't understand that. Memories are what fills the heart, not the bank account. And then I have a roof over my head and clothes on my family's back. And there is food in that in that fridge and food in that kitchen. And I don't care if it's baked beans and cereal. And we have five shirts and pants each. But you know what? We're wealthier than the millionaire in the house that has the coldest museum you've ever seen, that can't put their hands on the walls, has to wear shoes throughout the house, and and you know, takes people for granted and and uses people for whatever they can get out of them and then disregards them because he no longer needs them. There's a big difference. Are you doing your phone again?
SPEAKER_00:Um texting your daughter.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, now she's my daughter. Now she's my daughter. But you know what? This man is so wrapped around her finger, it is unheard of.
SPEAKER_00:Me?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, you you are such a girly.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I'm daddy's girl.
SPEAKER_01:No, you're a girl daddy.
SPEAKER_00:I'm a girl dad.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I'm the girl. She she said earlier, I'm when I'm great and I'm good, I'm moms. When I'm a smart ass and I'm pranking, I'm dads. But if she looks at him, daddy, I wanna watch it. Okay, what do you want to watch? Dad. Okay, what it doesn't even have to be dad. It's like death, and that's it. Or dot. No, that's yes in Russian. That's yes in Russian. But like it literally, she just has to uh and okay, what do you need, princess? What do you need, Kookie Ookie?
SPEAKER_00:Like so I didn't tell you, I was at Subway today, getting our lunch.
SPEAKER_01:Not her, she didn't eat Subway during our break. Oh no, you got Subway, you got her pizza.
SPEAKER_00:You got see standing in the line at Subway was another dad and his teenage daughter, and she was holding on to his arm just like just like yep, and and I said to that man, I said, My daughter does the same thing.
SPEAKER_01:And where was she when this happened?
SPEAKER_00:Right there beside me. And you were all red with the face, and I just said I said, Pete Nut, see, you're not the only one, and you wouldn't care as long as she was. Yeah, I'm not embarrassed to have my daughter hug my arm.
SPEAKER_01:You open see what I love about my husband, and he is so off the market, he is not, no, just no, is he opens the door for her? He you do, it is so sweet. Like, is she still eating? Because it does take her a little bit longer to eat than everybody else.
SPEAKER_00:That's because she enjoys my cooking.
SPEAKER_01:No, the fire department enjoys your cooking because you set the alarm off. He she sits down there with him, and then he sits down there with her, and they're just they're so cute together. It is, it is the cutest little thing, it really is. And here's the thing: I told him two nights ago, he's gonna say, no, no, no, is that in my grandfather's eyes, I could do no wrong, right? Nothing, and he I was the grandbaby, not because I was his granddaughter, but grand in his eyes was like top of the line, right? Couldn't get any better, you were grand, and I was his baby, so I was his grandbaby, but I could do no wrong. So I saw this from my own eyes the other night when she said something that I knew was complete horse crap, and my husband took her side, was like, absolutely, that's right, Nina. And I'm like, Oh my god, my grandfather's right here again, because he was the exact same way, and he knew my husband knew that what she was saying was bogus. He knew it, but he was not going to tell her, he was just gonna be like, Whatever you need, baby girl, whatever it is, sweetheart.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, come on, I'm not that bad.
SPEAKER_01:You want to get her in here? No, okay, so it was it was oh, I want to go make a snack. Will you come down there and oh supervise and watch me? Okay, sweetheart, okay, baby girl. And I was like, you know, dumb and well, that girl is not gonna go downstairs and make something to eat until you've told her like 15 times. We have to tell her like 15 times it's snack time, and until you do that, she is not gonna go down there. He's like, Oh, yes, she will, because she's my daughter. Yes, she will. This man is so wrapped around her finger, it is not even funny. And he's just grinning from ear to ear.
SPEAKER_00:You say I'm getting no defense, I can't say anything.
SPEAKER_01:And I love it because my husband says all the time how much he loves us, and you know, I told her earlier at dinner, I said, I still look at my husband and I still have a crush on my husband. Even after all this time, I still have a I get like childhood crush on my husband. You know, he always runs his hands down my face, and I've never had that feeling from anybody else. And after we broke up the first time, I wouldn't let anybody else do it because that was his thing, and it was just the and it was even when we were together, it was before the abuse, and I always felt just the sense of safety, even though I didn't need to be protected, it was just how I felt when I was with him. It was amazing, and then for him now to talk about how happy he is, because I've seen how unhappy he was when we weren't together, when we weren't why are you looking for faith? I'm not you you just turned your eyes and looked the other way at the same time of answering me.
SPEAKER_00:I hear it. Maybe it was a dog at the door scratching.
SPEAKER_01:No, and you keep checking your phone. No, because I'm texting faith, no, but I knew how unhappy you were in your previous two, and when I would talk to you only as friends after I learned about the first one, it broke my heart to hear how sad you were. Like it just your disposition, demeanor, everything changed dramatically, and I hated it. Now you're nothing like that. Like I've saved voicemails from him, and I let him hear it, and he was like, I can't believe I was like, like, that's not me, right? No, it's not you, you're not that person anymore. Oh my heavens. Hey, come here a minute, Fates. We're on air, and I want to ask you a couple questions, real quick. You say so I was saying earlier that you're not necessarily a daddy's girl, that he's a girl daddy, because he is wrapped around your finger. Do you think I'm right or wrong? And what do you tell everybody when you're good? Who do you belong to? And when you're bad? Yeah. And I did tell your joke about does talking dirty is that. So let me tell you what happened. Welcome, Alexa. So let me tell you what happened. So it's not S I R I here starts talking. And right after I say what you told everybody, you know, the joke, he starts saying, okay, but I'm not S-I-R-I. And the next thing I know, the phone starts writing everything he says. And I was like, I'm telling you, you validated this completely. Absolutely. Oh, yeah, I had to go back there and do every single word. But we were talking about how you could do no wrong in daddy's eyes, and he said that's not true. Is that right or wrong?
SPEAKER_02:Well, I'm wrong with my eyes.
SPEAKER_01:When you're not here, all he talks about is how much he loves you and adores you. I said, You are a girl dad. You know what he said? I he says, There's nothing I can say to that because it's true. Oh no, I heard no.
SPEAKER_00:Thanks.
SPEAKER_01:Well, he was like, Well, when I went to Subway earlier, I was like, No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Point Freeman, you didn't get her Subway, you took her to get pizza. You got Subway, she wanted something else, and you took her to get it. So true. He tries to play tough guy, but he really can't because he is a big softie. Don't you think so, K May?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, yeah, such a softie and stucco come and visit.
SPEAKER_01:Stuck will be.
SPEAKER_00:So he came to change the subject.
SPEAKER_01:No, he didn't. He came to say that you're very soft when it comes to your little girl over here. He is a girl dad.
SPEAKER_00:Me or the dog?
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Do you think that uh you can't say whipped because that's not appropriate, but like when it comes to being a dad, she can't do anything wrong in your eyes.
SPEAKER_00:She can. No, like right now.
SPEAKER_01:I'm not going to fart. That's your breath. No. If she says daddy, I want to watch. I told him I was telling our audience, Faith, you don't even have to say daddy. All you have to do is say that. And he, what is it, precious? What is it, Press? What is it, Princess? That's all it takes.
SPEAKER_00:What really?
SPEAKER_01:Oh, you have crowd removed, and Benny Crocker over here goes and makes you homemade potatoes. You know what? Proval point. Ask him if you he can make one of his famous coffees for you in a minute.
SPEAKER_00:Uh yes. Anything you want, Princess. See? Will you make me one? Um, sure. We got time. Do we have time?
SPEAKER_01:Why don't we have fun?
SPEAKER_00:Because we got a shower, got a bed. It'll be a movie with her.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, wait, so you're gonna watch a movie with her as well?
SPEAKER_00:Yes. And then I can make your coffee. What? No.
SPEAKER_01:Ladies and gentlemen, do you see my blink? Do you see my don't lick me, dog? Don't call that boy my dog. It isn't. Stop licking him. He's a good boy. Would you like to take us out since he's always, you know, jumbering around? Yeah, dad should do it. Okay.
SPEAKER_00:Alright, y'all. Y'all be listening to Victoria, Faith, and Michael, along with Stucco and Rusty, our service animals. Thank y'all for listening to Smile. Unstoppable. Well uh we'll be back on next week. And please go check out our website, jump on the Academy, uh, take some of those courses in there, and uh let us know in a comment or review. Bye bye, y'all.