Five Packs Of Grits And A Side Of Reality

A blood test can be louder than any argument, and we start there: Michael’s A1C comes back at a 9, and suddenly “I’ll deal with it later” is not an option. We talk candidly about diabetes, cravings, and the awkward first days of a lifestyle change when the fridge is full of bread, pasta, ice cream, and old routines. We also get into GLP-1 medications, including the real-world differences people feel with options like semaglutide and tirzepatide, and why the goal is health, not hype.

Then we make a sharp but necessary turn into domestic violence awareness. We break down why people misunderstand what they’re seeing in public, how victims often shut down as danger escalates, and what it can mean to intervene in a way that de-escalates instead of inflaming the moment. From law enforcement protocol to lived experience, we talk about weapons access, permits, and why violence plus a gun is a combination that changes everything in seconds.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, so we share practical personal safety tips you can use immediately: getting your head out of your phone, using simple car settings to reduce risk, and what to do if someone tries to drag you toward a vehicle. We also share updates on our work, scholarships, and community support, plus a check-in with Eddie Raven Scott from Creepy Coffees and Flagstaff CreepyCon with an easy way to help the mission. If this hits home, subscribe, share it with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find these conversations.

Transcript

Welcome Mascot And Marriage Banter

SPEAKER_03 0:01

Howdy y'all. Welcome to another exciting episode of a contagious smile. Unstoppable. With Stucco, our mascot. Hey buddy. He can't talk right now because he's a dog. He's coming over here though.

SPEAKER_06 0:21

My babe.

SPEAKER_03 0:22

I'm here with Victoria. You're a author. Founder of a Cantage Smile.

SPEAKER_06 0:28

I got that recorded. You're in trouble now.

SPEAKER_03 0:32

Author, founder.

SPEAKER_04 0:33

Founder. I didn't say you were the boss.

SPEAKER_03 0:35

You I didn't say you was president.

SPEAKER_06 0:37

Everyone knows the CEO is the president.

SPEAKER_03 0:40

Everyone knows that Michael is the boss.

SPEAKER_06 0:43

No, I'm more female. You're uh male and more female.

SPEAKER_05 0:47

Y'all.

A1C 9 And A Lifestyle Reset

SPEAKER_07 0:47

Howdy guys, by the way, my husband is very feminine nature today.

SPEAKER_03 0:53

So I got word that uh my A1C is up, y'all. Up it's like skyrocketed. Let's call it what it is. I'm 6'1, I'm 283 pounds, and I've got one half, and that's where all my fat is. Okay. So kind of find out from the blood word that I have diabetes, right?

SPEAKER_06 1:17

Well, wait, wait, wait.

SPEAKER_07 1:19

So the cutoff is 5.7, and you, my fine feathered friend, are nine.

SPEAKER_03 1:28

So I'm a niner, ladies. Y'all get that? I'm a niner.

SPEAKER_07 1:31

Really? So you want to talk to all the ladies? I'll get Faith in here faster. You just said all the ladies, I'm a Niner.

SPEAKER_03 1:37

39 million ladies right now who are listening.

SPEAKER_06 1:39

I will call Faith in here so fast.

SPEAKER_03 1:41

Easy who's I'll call Melissa. Now you're name dropping.

SPEAKER_06 1:46

Yeah, you know what Melissa will do to you if you do something like that? Kim.

SPEAKER_03 1:53

I'll call the dead.

SPEAKER_06 1:55

I will. You won't get there first. Yeah, parch that.

SPEAKER_03 2:04

So it's it's kind of it's it's a wake-up call for this old fella. He'll be turning 52 this year. And now we got somewhat of somewhat of a lifestyle change just in everything I eat. Right? No big deal. Please advise everyone what you have for practice this morning. So after I got this news last night at 10 o'clock, I was told no bread.

SPEAKER_06 2:27

No, no, no. I walked up to you after hearing your results, and you were eating a fried onion blossom.

SPEAKER_03 2:34

Like an a from Texas Roadhouse.

SPEAKER_06 2:37

The onion blossom, right? No, that's outback.

SPEAKER_03 2:42

Okay, whatever.

SPEAKER_06 2:43

So the Texas Tunyon. And I pick it up and throw it in the garbage.

SPEAKER_03 2:49

Now, folks, two things. All right, maybe three. You don't mess with my hat, you don't mess with my tea, my sweet tea. You don't drop that no more. And you then should mess with my food, but I I I could stop, stop, stop. What about messing with your wife? Well, that's a gimme. No, you didn't say that. You said there's like three things you do not mess with. We've seen Michael jump in action when someone tries to mess with his wife.

SPEAKER_07 3:15

Well, someone told you tonight that when they saw me drive by, they were like, Oh, she looked good driving that truck.

SPEAKER_03 3:21

Snaggletooth?

SPEAKER_07 3:22

Stop it.

SPEAKER_03 3:22

I gotta worry about him.

SPEAKER_07 3:23

Stop it. Still, it's flattering. Isn't it flattering to you?

SPEAKER_03 3:27

Oh, it's very flattering to me. And we'll get to that in just a moment, honey.

SPEAKER_07 3:31

I can't wait. Call me honey one more time. Misha.

SPEAKER_03 3:34

Honey.

SPEAKER_07 3:35

Misha.

SPEAKER_03 3:37

And oobs. I w I woke up. Remembering I'm not supposed to have any bread. Okay? Bread. Alright, so I I can't fix my croissant sandwiches for breakfast. And I said, you know what? They said I can have oatmeal. So I wanted to discover and bananas. Bananas are fine, oatmeal's fine. So I said, alright. So I grabbed two bananas immediately. Bananas? Bananas. And wolf those down, right? Wolf. So hungry. Right? My coffee was percolating from creepy coffees. They're awesome. My my coffee. Coffee! It's coffee. No, you didn't. Coffee was ready. So I grabbed my coffee. I grabbed my cup of mud, just black, no creamy sugar, y'all. And another nanor, right?

SPEAKER_06 4:30

Another nanor. So that makes three.

SPEAKER_03 4:33

That makes three. I chugged my cup of mud, wolfed down that nanor, played some Xbox. Go for your man. I've got hunger pains. I said, all right, let's go, let's go find that oat milk. So I come across some grits. What? Grits. Girls raised in the South. There for our daughter who likes grits. They're instant. And you didn't have one or two or three. Instant though. Four. I had to read directions how to cook instant grits, y'all.

SPEAKER_06 5:05

You ate an entire box worth.

SPEAKER_03 5:07

I ate five packs of grits. Oh my god. Two cups of coffee and three bananas. That's it. That's all I have for breakfast.

SPEAKER_06 5:16

Five packs of grits.

SPEAKER_07 5:17

And so when my girl Melissa heard this, she like went off the chart as she should. She was like, What the shit is wrong with you? Like, I was like, she's so my girl.

SPEAKER_03 5:28

You know how you're supposed to piss Armand to give a shot? She didn't. She just stuck it right in.

SPEAKER_07 5:32

After telling me I should no, after telling me that I should wax you.

SPEAKER_06 5:38

Anyway, thanks for like let's also add to this that don't ever say anymore that you serve me breakfast in bed every single day because you do not.

SPEAKER_07 5:48

I did not get my frozen neutral grain waffle this morning. He let me starve and I woke up with an excruciating headache, no caffeine, no nothing, no excuse necessary because it's not acceptable. He cannot say her breakfast in bed every day.

SPEAKER_06 6:02

Because I didn't get my frozen neutral grain waffle.

SPEAKER_03 6:06

Don't put that neutral grain shit in there.

SPEAKER_06 6:08

Okay, Mr. I had Insta grits. Don't put that instant in there. Just say I have five packets of grits.

SPEAKER_03 6:14

We're in Georgia, no self-respecting southerner. Do you know what grits are made of? Yeah, hominy. What? Hominy. It's cornmeal. What did I just say? I don't know. Alexa.

SPEAKER_07 6:28

Half the time you don't know what you say. Okay, no. Last night you got into a conversation with Alexa about how to pronounce the word chess as in the board game. No, you make the comment chest, like what you and I both have.

SPEAKER_02 6:48

No, Alexa, go to sleep. Good night. Sweet dreams. You two, honest, Michael.

SPEAKER_06 6:58

Sleep well. Alexa, how do you say the word C-H-E-S-S?

SPEAKER_00 7:10

C H sound.

SPEAKER_07 7:12

Alexa, ask Michael to pronounce it and tell me if he says it correctly.

SPEAKER_02 7:27

Alexa, I want you to delete this number.

SPEAKER_00 7:32

Isn't supported during a call.

SPEAKER_02 7:37

Hang up.

SPEAKER_03 7:38

Oh my god. Alexa, hang up.

SPEAKER_00 7:45

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SPEAKER_03 7:57

Thanks for the shameless plug there, Alexa. Now go to sleep. You say chest.

SPEAKER_07 8:04

It's not breast or a synonym for breast. It's chess. SS. Like not S T, not you know, it's chess.

GLP-1 Shots And Weight Loss Reality

SPEAKER_03 8:15

Anywho. So now folks, I'm having to clean out our refrigerator, freezer for breads, pastas, all the ice cream I was eating, the Dulce de Leche. The what? Dulce de leche. And the the Briars uh uh natural vanilla. Briars. That's what I said.

SPEAKER_07 8:38

Byers is not Briars.

SPEAKER_03 8:40

And what else?

SPEAKER_07 8:42

No more peanut butter.

SPEAKER_03 8:45

More PB and J, y'all.

SPEAKER_07 8:46

That's that's just well, because I told you you could have wheat bread, so my husband wants honey wheat bread. And I was like, it's only a lifestyle change until we can get your numbers down a little bit because it wasn't only his A1C that went cocoa for cocoa puffs, no more cereal either.

SPEAKER_03 9:01

Uh-huh. There's very little, there's 12 grams of shredded wheat.

SPEAKER_07 9:04

I'm talking about your cinnamon toast crunch that you used to have by the bags. And your cereal shouldn't be that much sugar in it. But and that's per serving, like a little bowl, not half of a you know, pasta making bowl that you use on the stove.

SPEAKER_01 9:20

Try.

SPEAKER_07 9:21

Yeah. So anyway.

SPEAKER_03 9:24

So tonight at dinner, I had myself unsweeted sea with limon.

SPEAKER_07 9:29

Yes.

SPEAKER_03 9:30

Did I say that right? Limon?

SPEAKER_07 9:32

Lemon.

SPEAKER_03 9:33

Okay, whatever.

SPEAKER_07 9:35

Anyway.

SPEAKER_06 9:36

So there's more news than that. Oh blood work. He has estrogen.

SPEAKER_07 9:45

That's just mind twisting. You have your estrogen levels are like 800 times higher than mine. Y'all hear that? And of course, Faith is like on the ground laughing.

SPEAKER_03 9:59

She's rolling it.

SPEAKER_07 10:01

She was like, so do you need to borrow a bra? Do you need a bra? Are you gonna get your peer in?

SPEAKER_03 10:08

No, I made my titties bounce.

SPEAKER_07 10:10

But we're jovial. We have to be after everything we've been through. So we are very jovial about it. But like, you know, he's he's taking it with decent stride. I mean, it's not in stilettos or anything, but he's he's he's they don't make him and that's not true. There's no way. Oh, we could ask drag stars how to do it. But needless to say, we're gonna do this together. My husband has jumped on the GLP one wagon. He's gonna he's on GLP now, and we'll see. But my husband can lose weight so fast it's irritating. Like, I know women would be like, I hate you, because he can lose weight so freaking fast. And when we dated, he was 220, wasn't that about 210?

SPEAKER_03 10:53

Uh about there, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 10:55

Yeah, so you're 70 pounds heavier than when we dated. And he is going to drop it so freaking fast. And see, I lost over 30 pounds without the help of GLP. And then I got on GLP, and for two months I felt nothing, saw nothing. I had the side effects, but I didn't see the results. So then I changed up to a different company, and I think I lost like two or three pounds. It was ridiculous and irritating. Then I'm now with Melissa, who I love, and she is becoming a lifetime sponsor as well. And I hit my 41 pound weight loss.

SPEAKER_03 11:33

Yay, congratulations.

SPEAKER_07 11:35

30 was without any GLP.

SPEAKER_03 11:38

She had even to lose because she wasn't fat.

SPEAKER_07 11:41

Whatever. 30 I lost without any in the upper parts. 30 pounds I lost without any GLP assistance. And now I'm on I wasn't trip or simaglutide, but now I'm on trisepatide. And so I'm 11 pounds down from that, I think. Now this is supposed to be PG. Don't be all doing stuff with my gun over there.

SPEAKER_03 12:13

Anyway, yeah. So, fellas, we'll let y'all know how this all goes because not I'm not against this GLP one shot. Correct. But I'm not I'm not for it because you know, you know, some of us guys don't need to lose weight, you know, going on shots like that. And and and I and I believe I'm in denial. I'm not one of those guys. But it's helping to but it's supposed to help me when my A1C come down. Okay, so in that aspect, yes. I'll do whatever it takes to keep myself healthy for my wife, my daughter, because they need me, whether they admit it or not. I always admit I need you. You're my bitch. I need to stay around as long as I can. You're my bitch. I always need you. I will take the damn shot, I will take whatever other shots they give me, and I will change my eating habits. You know, should I have done it all along? Yes. But hey, it's better late than ever. So and I don't know if y'all know this about me, but I I I can flip a switch and just go to cold turkey.

SPEAKER_07 13:17

Not on everything.

SPEAKER_03 13:18

Yeah, on me, yeah. Not I don't want to do it on you.

SPEAKER_07 13:20

You can't do it on me. I won't. It's been disengaged, you said.

SPEAKER_03 13:25

Is that W-O-N-T or W-A-N-T?

SPEAKER_07 13:28

It sounds like A and T. But you said you could you disengage that switch when it came to me. So that's not even an option anymore.

SPEAKER_03 13:36

Fresh.

SPEAKER_04 13:39

I'm not even listening to you.

SPEAKER_03 13:41

Just you have to hear me. You I'm on your good side.

SPEAKER_04 13:44

I'll turn around.

SPEAKER_03 13:45

Ooh, baby. Now you come from.

SPEAKER_04 13:47

See.

SPEAKER_06 13:49

He's such a bitch.

SPEAKER_03 13:52

Seriously. Well, enough about me and my corns and bunions.

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SPEAKER_07 13:55

Corns, like your instant oatmeal or your instant No, that's hominy. What are you talking about? He just sometimes is so confusing. I mean, seriously. Seriously. It's a little confusing sometimes.

SPEAKER_03 14:12

So we got to dinner tonight. He's just gonna say that. There's that page. And in walks this guy with a t-shirt, and I just catch a a small glimpse of it. He's like and so I let the wife pay the tab, and I walk up to his fellow. If you heard that. And I said, Hey man, can I read your shirt real quick? He turned around and he and his shirt says, I'm the nicest asshole you'll meet today. Right? And and I'm wearing a t-shirt that says, I identify as an asshole. And so of course I had to hug him. And we had to bond, and my wife took pictures. I took one. And it was an endearing moment.

SPEAKER_07 14:52

So you're spreading ass.

SPEAKER_03 14:54

Probably. But he identified as me.

SPEAKER_07 14:58

He was older, so you identified as him.

SPEAKER_03 15:00

No. I identified as an asshole, but he was the nice asshole that you ever meet. Yes.

SPEAKER_04 15:10

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 15:11

I guess I do like to apply as him. Anywho, blah. Hooplah. So we'll be we'll be promoting Melissa here very very soon. And what she does.

SPEAKER_07 15:23

Amazing. Woman is like phenomenal.

SPEAKER_04 15:27

Not yet.

SPEAKER_03 15:29

Got a little legality to get out of the way.

SPEAKER_07 15:32

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SPEAKER_03 15:37

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SPEAKER_04 15:40

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SPEAKER_03 15:45

Where we have two upcoming events with them. One in Brunswick, Georgia, the other in Flagstaff, Arizona. Yes. So we're looking forward to those because uh the one out there.

SPEAKER_07 16:00

You thought that my husband could not be cloned. I don't know. Eddie and him are pretty in sync. It's kind of funny because like Eddie has my work ethic. Like we have the same work ethic. We work 20 hours a day, we work nonstop, it's all like go, go, go, go, go. And you and him have that same mentality. Like Eddie's like, I'm wearing, you know, chap to the list chaps to the event, and you're gonna wear a dress. And they're like, okay.

SPEAKER_03 16:31

And I'll wear a guilt.

SPEAKER_07 16:34

Anyway, when you see the third knee at his ankle. Shut up. Shut up, woman. Oh my god. What are they gonna report me for? What did I say? The truth hurts. Literally. Shut up.

SPEAKER_03 16:54

You weren't here, babe. I know. This ain't your 1-900 talk show.

SPEAKER_07 16:59

I don't have one of those. Should I should not? So here's a couple of things. I have been approached by and my go figure. A couple different companies to be a spokesperson for them. And I don't think that it aligns with what I do and what I represent, but I'm still looking into it. I but if it's not in alignment, I'm not gonna do it. But I had been asked, and I've done it before, where I've done coaching and mentoring for individuals who are either wanting to start a podcast, have already created a podcast, or are guests on a podcast and want to know how to get out there more or how to market more, or a plethora of different things of that nature. And so I was doing it quite a bit before the tobacco of sperm donor two and surgeries and all that other stuff. And so I am getting ready to roll that out again. So that is something in the pipeline that will be out very, very soon as well. So I can help bring light and fruition to you as a guest, you as a host, you as both, help you learn to market this right, how to interview, how to be interviewed, and have a great time about it because there is a blueprint to it. There really, really is. So and if you're a man and you want to have a conversation with Micah over here, then we can make that happen too.

Domestic Violence Beyond The Home

SPEAKER_03 18:35

Micah. Micah. So I'm I'm I'm gonna I'm gonna jump back to you up to go on a different topic here. Okay. And this is not about squirrel. Let me ask you is domestic violence a sinker?

SPEAKER_02 18:52

That's a trick question.

SPEAKER_03 18:53

Okay, answer the best you can.

SPEAKER_07 18:56

Most people would say they know about it, but not enough about it to really say they have an extended knowledge of it. Everybody has heard the term domestic violence, but people are afraid to talk about it. People are afraid to be involved in it, they're afraid kind of like, oh, it's the plague, I'll get it, or I don't want to be involved in it because I don't want to be one of those statistics. But with statistics as high as one in three in law enforcement and military, and one in four, and those statistics, people, are those that are reported. So if that's what's reported, what are the real statistics of what's not being reported? So, yes, people know about the terminology domestic violence. No, I don't think they have enough insight about the subject.

SPEAKER_03 19:46

Does it stay at home?

SPEAKER_07 19:49

No. Not necessarily. I mean, are you talking about like, okay, but let's be let's clarify. There's abuse that can transpire anywhere geographically in the workplace or things of that nature. It also could be home. And domestic violence is considered under terminology to be where you reside in in that regard. It's domestic, meaning in place of where you live. But let's say you go to work and you're being abused at work by your boss or a coworker, or maybe someone you're dating, and then once in a while they come over to your residence and it's there as well. It's a fine line. I mean, to me, abuse is abuse and that should not transpire. Period. There's no reason for it. So it's kind of a technicality depending on who you're talking to.

SPEAKER_03 20:36

So if you were out with your abusive husband, significant other or wife at a restaurant, partner, whatever, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 20:45

And which I've unfortunately been at, okay a verbalcation.

SPEAKER_03 20:50

A verbal argument ensues, then comes a physical assault by the aggressor. Sure.

SPEAKER_04 20:59

The cops are up. At the residence or at the the restaurant. The restaurant. Right?

SPEAKER_07 21:04

Will you tell me they're copper? Would you charge them with abuse? I mean assault, battery, what would you charge them with?

SPEAKER_03 21:11

They're married. It would be domestic violence.

SPEAKER_07 21:13

Right, but not everybody knows that. That's what I'm saying.

SPEAKER_03 21:16

So former law enforcement, Victoria, or not no law enforcement at all, just want a survivor, sees this altercation at a restaurant, knows what's coming. Okay? Because they're blatantly loud. One of the aggressors blatantly loud, sees a physical assault.

SPEAKER_02 21:41

Do you step in? That again is a trick question.

SPEAKER_03 21:47

Okay. You're there, you're there with me and our daughter.

SPEAKER_07 21:54

I would step in.

SPEAKER_03 21:55

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 21:55

100%.

SPEAKER_03 21:56

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 21:57

Not a doubt in my mind. I step in when I see somebody degrading and belittling a special needs person. I can't be quiet when I see somebody, you know. We we actually talked about that at dinner.

SPEAKER_03 22:09

That's why I'm bringing this up.

SPEAKER_07 22:10

Right. If I saw somebody belittling anyone with special needs, I'm gonna step on then. But I I think that the question, like, if it was back in the time frame where I was being assaulted and abused, I absolutely would shut down. It would be a trigger for me. It would absolutely be a trigger for me. So no, I would not then. Now, without a hesitation. Like, and if how we sit at the booth sometimes or at a table, if you're sitting where I can't get out, I'm gonna vocally get loud enough to draw attention to where they're gonna stop and I'm gonna get space between them until I can get you out of the booth or I can get up.

SPEAKER_03 22:59

Yeah. I don't think it matters, folks, that if if you are more of a man, more of the of the woman than the aggressor in in that party, you know, that hey, I'm physically stronger, I can go there and whoop their ass. It's not about that. It's not about that. If it it's the fact that you you may have stopped that for that instant and saved that person's life.

A Survivor Story In Plain Sight

Guns Permits And Police Protocol

SPEAKER_07 23:22

Let's go one step further. Let's go, you know, one step further. I had been stabbed in public. I was in a hospital with idiot. I mean, it was a public environment, and he he put the well, I don't count it as one of my 12 plus stabbing. He put the tip of the knife in my throat because he found a camera in the bottom of my bag that I didn't know he had gotten into with photographs of the injuries he had caused me. And he brought me over to the window where he was getting infusions, and he took out his knife and put it to my throat and put the tip of it in my throat and it started to bleed. Now, if somebody, it was probably not long after that, he heard a nurse go down and said, What's all the ruckus in here? This is a hospital, other people are getting treatment, y'all have to be quiet. He immediately was like, Oh, the baby was kicking for the first time, and uh, we were just so excited and blah, blah, blah, because I'm pregnant, right? And he wouldn't let me turn around because if I did, she'd see the blood coming down my throat. So, with that, after the nurse had walked away, he was like, Go clean your F and mess up. And I went into the bathroom. Well, when I came back and I sat down, of course I shut down. I'm sitting in the chair, I'm looking at the ground, I don't want to make a noise, I don't want to move. And the doctor came in and asked what happened to me. And this was a military doctor. Oh, she's clumsy, da da da. And he's like, Dad looks really bad. And I had my eye was totally black and blue, and like the socket was all swollen, the jaw had been dislocated, you know, I had old bruising on me, and blind eye turned. Always. If we were out in public, what other people also need to remember and and recognize is that, you know, let's say somebody is there and they're they've been drinking. If they're at a restaurant, they're drinking, right? And then they get into a verbal altercation. Well, it's not really a verbal altercation, uh and in the regard of because the person who's being accosted is gonna start quietly shutting down, they're gonna pull back, they're gonna get quiet, they're gonna stop looking, they're gonna look at the ground, they're gonna really introvert within themselves, right? So, with that, and if you don't intervene, let's say they pull a knife, let's say they pull a gun, they're off-duty, and they're an off-duty officer, there are, you know, or they have a concealment permit and they're carrying a gun and they're so belligerent. Maybe, and I've seen this because had I talked to a male waiter when I was sitting with him, that'd have been the end of it. But I could have just ordered water, right? Why are you speaking to him? That would have been how you know it escalated. What if he had a concealment permit and he pulled a gun? And we're just sitting at a table and we don't try to de-escalate the situation, he's inebriated and maybe he's not even a good shot to boot. What if an innocent civilian, including the victim at that point, gets shot, right? If we can de-escalate the situation and get it where that gun is never drawn, first of all, I don't believe, and and I know I'm gonna get a lot of scrutiny for this, but I think it would be from the people who haven't been through this, and I love your insight on this. I think anybody who has been convicted of assault, battery, domestic violence on a partner, okay, if anybody's been found guilty on domestic violence, you shouldn't be able to carry a weapon. I don't think you should.

SPEAKER_03 26:46

What why not go further than that? Why not register?

SPEAKER_07 26:51

Well, because what if they're already registered? They should pull their registration, they should pull their permit. But some people are going to carry it anyway. Your sperm donor is convicted felon, and he had guns and didn't tell us about them. So I'm just saying they should not be able to be carried. And let's just say, for instance, as an officer, the deadliest call to go on for law enforcement is domestic violence, right? So let's say you and I are partners, we respond to a DV call. First thing we do is we take the couple, regardless of he, her, him, him, her, her, whatever the case is, one of us takes one, the other takes the other, we check stories, and then we go back to converse to see what the stories was told to each of us. You know, this is how the protocol is. And I truly believe that at that point, any weapons within the home that are registered or in the hands of the aggressor should be removed and no longer allowed to be had. I think they need to be removed altogether.

unknown 27:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 27:56

I mean, what is your thought on that?

SPEAKER_03 27:57

Yeah, that's good. Of course, you can't do that with uh, you know, cutlery in the kitchen. No, but you could see when I went all when I went all through this, maybe you put them in property for a temporary hold until you know pending further investigation or something, or especially if they go to jail, you know, you yeah, I would say definitely drop them in the property.

SPEAKER_07 28:18

Well, see, here's the thing. When I went through this, I was told by, and this was active military, and I'm very cautious with how much information or detail I provide. I was told by command, a different part of command, to remove any and all weapons from the house that were not my actual handguns, right? So I brought along a couple of individuals who were very versed in weapons, if you will, to help me find any additional weapons that could have been there while he was being quote unquote detained. And what I thought we had is the number of weapons in the house wasn't a percentage of what was found in the house, right? There were machetes, there were AK-47s, there were all sorts of guns I had no knowledge of. An individual that helped me went into the ceiling, found a way to get into the ceiling through the attic, and found all sorts of stuff. And I had never seen them before, I had never seen any of those weapons before. And what made me unhappy is I had just bought a Smith and Wesson. I had just bought this beautiful gun. It was in his vehicle, and they detained it while they took him on. I never got it back. He got it, they gave it to him, they did not give it to me, right? So we ended up bringing in. It was close to like 38 or 40 weapons, not mine, only his. Okay, mine stayed in my possession. And we laid them all out and took photos and took photos of the numbers on them and everything, the serial numbers and everything. And because the system is one in three, and it's not always, but very often turned a blind eye to all of them were returned to him. All of them. Right? Verbatim. I could go on the roof at any time I wanted and take her out, and nobody will touch me. And they said nothing. My egg and sperm donor sat there with their head in their ass and did not say a thing. Now, when I heard that, I had all these ear problems because my jaws kept getting broken, my eardrums kept getting busted open and stuff. I said, What do you mean by that? I knew what he meant, right? I knew what he meant, but I wanted him to say it. He opened the door. I wanted him to say it. Both my egg and sperm donor knew what that meant. Even my egg donor knew what that meant, which is saying a lot, right? And he said, Oh, I could kill you and get away with it. I could shoot you in your head and get away with it. Well, that's a terroristic threat. He says, I am going to do it, I'm going to shoot you, and I'm gonna get away with it. That's a terroristic threat. A terroristic threat in the state of Georgia is when someone other than hears, so other than the speaker and the person the comment is made for, hears this, it is a terroristic threat, right or wrong. Okay, so with that, I'm like, oh my god, finally, finally, finally. So I have two individuals sitting here at the table. It's gonna get done. This is it. I'm finally free. No. Why? Because we turned a blind eye. And those were my parents, my egg and sperm donor, who he said this to. What would you do if somebody said to you that I could I can't even say it about faith. I can't even say the statement. And set it at a table with you and I, first of all, the sentence wouldn't get finished. The sentence would not get finished.

SPEAKER_05 32:08

Right.

SPEAKER_07 32:10

I mean, it just wouldn't. If somebody had the audacity to try to make that statement.

SPEAKER_03 32:16

These few words come to mind. I was in fear of her life.

SPEAKER_07 32:21

Well, I'm disabled, so Yeah, she can't defend herself. No, I didn't say she, I said me.

SPEAKER_03 32:26

Yeah. Well, I I I would argue in in eyes of court, you can't defend yourself. Well, yeah. I would argue that.

SPEAKER_07 32:33

Okay. But it was some somebody was that dumb to make a comment about faith that way. I have a friend who has a a saying, and as soon as I say it, my husband's gonna say who it is. Ain't no thing but a chicken wing. Right? Umir.

SPEAKER_04 32:54

You know what? They snap. That's all I gotta say. He played a Ram Mustabai.

SPEAKER_00 33:02

Mostabai! Moshabai!

SPEAKER_07 33:05

Hey Romustabai. He loves your draw. Oh, and he also said you're a hell of a podcaster. And what was the last thing he said about that in that little dialogue? Listen to your wife. No, I have it. I took the soundbite. Listen to your wife.

SPEAKER_03 33:20

But Amir played a wrong.

SPEAKER_07 33:22

Listen to your wife. Moshabai on the blacklist.

SPEAKER_03 33:28

It was through 10 seasons.

SPEAKER_07 33:30

He always only on nine. Yeah. Yeah, he was only on nine.

SPEAKER_03 33:36

There's some videos up on our website, YouTube.

SPEAKER_07 33:39

They're getting out slowly.

SPEAKER_03 33:41

He's just he's also got this poem.

SPEAKER_07 33:44

And I was like, oh, thank you so much. And he was like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Because I didn't want to overstep and keep him because I was under the impression we were only gonna, you know, be 30 minutes or so. Here we are, like hour and 20 minutes. We're still jawjacking. He's like cried a bunch of times, we've cried a bunch of times. He's like, Nope, I want to read Faith's poem on air.

SPEAKER_03 34:07

That's because I have such high estrogen.

SPEAKER_07 34:10

Wasn't it that time of the month?

SPEAKER_03 34:13

It may have been.

SPEAKER_07 34:14

I think I think so. That was right because Faith offered you a pl uh pad to help you with your since we were talking about that at dinner.

SPEAKER_03 34:30

Dinner? Dinner. I wanted to pose that question. You know? A lot of times You know, folks Maybe maybe they're they're they're already a survivor. They're a survivor from day one. Or they they haven't been in a position. But like you and I we planned. Okay? We come prepared, but we planned. Right? Yeah. Alright, we have our escape routes, we have our exes, we know the the the the weak points that we're going for to try to end the fight quickly. Okay? De escalation. Right. We we don't have to be victorious, we just have to de-escalate or win as quick as as possible and put as much distance from us from whatever aggressor, right? What are you talking about? What are you talking about? Talking about everyone anyone in general. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_07 35:30

Absolutely.

SPEAKER_03 35:31

Right.

Simple Habits That Reduce Risk

SPEAKER_07 35:33

April is sexual assault awareness month. And I just want to talk about this for a minute because it it's such a challenge because like we've mentioned this before, how there's videos out there now where the guys are like having these girls just come up and kiss them one after one after one, right? And then then there's another where they're judging them solely based on the physicality. And I was raised in an era, I I really believe that I should have been born in like my grandparents' error because I'm very old school in a lot of ways. Like, even when I like my husband always laughs because when we dated back in 1812, I always was in a business suit, and that was my comfort 1813. So I was always in a business suit, and that was my comfort. Like I couldn't be in jogging pants and a sweatshirt. I was so uncomfortable back then. Now it's just the opposite. Well, no, that's not true because when I go to court now and I'm in a suit or something, I I'm I'm good. But like whenever we would go out, I'm one of these that you don't have to show all of that skin to get attention. Who you are inside should represent who you are on the outside. And it just, I mean, you know, and then parents are like, well, my daughter likes to dress in the booty shorts and and the tank tops. And here's my question: Who bought that for them? Who buys it for them? And I've asked this to parents before, babe. And you know what I hear? Well, they were blue jeans and she cut them. Okay, fair enough. Let's start there. You bought her a pair of blue jeans, she cut them into booty shorts. You let her out of the house in them? Okay. And you know what? Sexual assaults happen to people, whether they're wearing a dress down to their ankles or booty shorts, but you attract the attention that you're portraying, right? And in many different ways. And so when something happens to you, always report it because you could also prevent it from happening to somebody else. Now, that's kind of a double standard, being that you know, our society and our government turns a blind eye most of the time. But eventually, we don't need to be voiceless. We do not need to stay voiceless on these situations. I mean, it's just not, but it's it's having enough self-respect for yourself. Like I grew up where my egg donor would wear like short shorts and what do you call them? The spaghetti straps or tank tops. And and I would be in like, you know, a long dress or a long skirt, and she used to say I was a prude, like all the time. You're such a prude. And she's like, I dress like I'm your age, and you dress like you're my age. Well, you know, my grandmother, who was so classy, even when she was in her 80s, she looked like she was in her 50s or early 60s. She was breathtaking, absolutely stunning. You saw pictures of her back then. She was absolutely classic, just classic. And the thing is that she always held herself up in such a wonderful way. Like she was just so put together without price tags and expensive jewelry or, you know, whatever, but you had no idea how much money this woman had. It's all about the self-respect, you know, and when you're out there and you're wearing these outfits to school and you're trying to get attention, whether it's from, you know, one way or another, maybe you need to have the parent step back and say, why does she feel like she needs to get this attention? Is she not getting enough attention here? Is she spending too much time on the phone? Is she spending too much time on the tablet or on the computer? And maybe we need to do some more stuff. I mean, Faith is an adult. Faith isn't even a teenager anymore. We still go and we do stuff together as mother and daughter all the time. And she knows she better not even consider picking up an electronic at that point. Another thing that raises the probability of sexual assault is when you're walking, and Michael, I know you can add two cents into this. When you're walking, no, I'm being serious. When you're walking somewhere, I tell Faith this and she has stopped. But when you're walking somewhere, she used to have her head down in her phone everywhere she went. That is the easiest time for someone to run up and grab you because you're not on alert, right? Would somebody grab you if you're looking all around, you know your surroundings, you're walking with confidence, you're walking like I know what's happening and what's going on. Or if you're like towering down and kind of scooped down into your phone and you're not looking at anything but the ground in front of you, they're gonna go for that rather than the person who is staring around at what's going on and phone is not right there. That's what's gonna happen. And you need to take these extra precautionary measures to make sure that not only our kids are safe, but that you're safe, that your significant other's safe, your daughter, your sister, your mom, everybody is safe because there's no other way to say this. Right now, the world we're living in is screwed up in so many ways. It is just like if your daughter is going out by herself, whether it's just to school or maybe she's you know in a club or she's going, whatever, set the car where only the driver's door unlocks. That's what we do. And when I'm gone anywhere and the driver door is the only one that unlocks, nobody else can get in. You know, there's just such simple things that you can do that take two seconds that can save their life. And one thing that is so important, and and you know, I'm gonna get Michael to step in and say something here, is if somebody's trying to drag you away and they're trying to get you into a vehicle, you do everything within your power. Gouge their eyes, scratch their eyes, hit, bite, kick, punch, everything. Get a DNA under your nails. Do everything you possibly can not to get into that vehicle because you have a lesser chance of survival if they get you into a vehicle than you do of fleeing from where you are right there. Is that wrong or right as an officer's point of view?

SPEAKER_03 41:55

Yes, you're right.

SPEAKER_07 41:57

Well, kind of elaborate on it, Mr. I can't keep my eyes open.

SPEAKER_03 42:00

Man, I'm tired. I'm tired because why? Oh, yeah. But it won't seem up. Oh, good God.

SPEAKER_07 42:07

But I mean, seriously, I mean, talk about the statistics of that. It what what could you do that I haven't said when somebody comes up and tries to grab you and put you in a vehicle to stop them from putting them in a vehicle? And how the percentage just gets so much worse if they do take you away.

SPEAKER_03 42:26

Yeah. So like like Mo I've said, y'all make noise.

SPEAKER_07 42:31

Scream bloody murder, scream fire, scream rape. You're not you're just trying to get a you're trying to get attention at that point.

SPEAKER_03 42:41

Soft points, my head, eyes, throat. Okay, growings. Growings, growings. What is that? Some people are still growing down there. Oh dear Lord Heaven.

SPEAKER_04 42:52

No, I'm being serious. I'm serious too. Okay, full hair.

SPEAKER_03 42:56

Okay. Get DNA, drop it on the ground. Okay.

SPEAKER_07 42:59

Oh, you might page seriously, rich hand, you know, you do palm strike. There's so many things that you can do. But what is the I mean, it is a massive percentage drop of being returned unassaulted or alive if they get you in a vehicle. Right. And you want to do everything you can. I would rather heal from a broken hand or finger or nose or any of those things than be killed. I mean, if they're trying to take you from wherever they got you at that moment, they're trying to take you to a secluded area where nobody's gonna see whatever they do. And you have to do everything within your power to stop that from happening.

SPEAKER_03 43:45

That's a good subject there.

SPEAKER_04 43:49

Appreciate it. You're welcome. You're very squeaky. I'm on I'm I'm at the oil the chair.

SPEAKER_07 43:57

Oil the chair. That's how he keeps himself clean. He sticks himself in olive oil.

SPEAKER_03 44:05

You serious? Yeah. Did you just drop that on air?

SPEAKER_07 44:09

I did.

unknown 44:10

Oh.

SPEAKER_06 44:10

Okay, growings.

SPEAKER_02 44:14

How does this feel?

SPEAKER_07 44:16

W-E-B-S-T-E-R not included. Yeah. I'd have to see a redneck dictionary because I don't think growings is in there. I know Faith bought it for you. You can't find Squadoosh.

SPEAKER_03 44:29

It's around here somewhere, y'all.

SPEAKER_07 44:31

Which means he cannot find Squadouche. My husband's trying to become a Hoiter hoarder, and I want a Hoiter. Hoiter. See what happens?

SPEAKER_03 44:40

Can you get around me?

SPEAKER_07 44:41

Get a little redneck in me. It ain't little, so don't say it. Um only in that aspect.

Funding Scholarships And Keeping The Academy Open

SPEAKER_03 44:51

Are you really? Really? All right then. Anything going on with Faith this week that we need to talk about? No. Our Academy's good up front. We got new folks joined. We got uh new sponsors joined. We like even more sponsors.

SPEAKER_07 45:10

So we don't want to shut this down. But since he was fired from his job because of FMLA, which is ironic because this company just goes on and on about how they are, you know, all about the family, and they're so family-oriented, and that's all they do. But then you go to the website, what did it say? Like been a family-owned business for 200 years, and then like five paragraphs down, it says family-oriented business for 125 years, and seasons change all four of them, and they still don't care about family. So my husband was fired for FMLA, which is ridiculous. And we don't want to close this down, but we never, you know, have taken a paycheck from all that we do. And every dime that we get in this, whether it's books or academy or anything, and we're not charging what these classes are valued at. We're trying just to keep everything afloat. But, you know, think about it. We hope and pray none of y'all ever have to take advantage of these courses and things like that. But think about it this way: it's one and three or one and four. And if the time comes and you need us, we're gonna be there for you, just like we're there for everybody else. And right now, if you go to Starbucks, it's like six dollars or whatever for a coffee. Five dollars will provide one scholarship to a person that didn't have the ability to pay for it for themselves, doesn't have you know the ability right now to pay for that. And so we want to be able to provide that and give that to them, and that's what we're trying to do as well. What are you looking up?

SPEAKER_03 46:48

Creepy coffee.

SPEAKER_07 46:51

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 46:54

Why? Because we're gonna start selling creepy coffee here at a contagious swile.

SPEAKER_07 46:59

You better be talking to Eddie before you make that announcement.

SPEAKER_03 47:02

All right, Eddie.

SPEAKER_07 47:03

No, you didn't win.

SPEAKER_03 47:04

I just did. Win. Eddie, listen to the podcast.

SPEAKER_07 47:08

Oh my god. Are you kidding me? I cannot believe you just did that. You know what? I cannot believe you just did that. You can't do that. I can't do what? I just did. You cannot.

SPEAKER_03 47:26

See? You can't do that. So cricket coffees will be coming soon to a contagious smile. And uh, yeah, so we'll be selling a coffee. Coffee!

SPEAKER_04 47:47

I said coffee. No, you didn't.

SPEAKER_07 47:49

What a yappahead. We are also still selling keychains with precious pets in their name and a picture of them on them. They're so cute. They're just so cute. You know, we need to make Melissa one for her dog.

SPEAKER_05 48:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 48:08

Because that would be awesome.

SPEAKER_03 48:11

Yeah. Yeah, we do laser engraving on the side. I just got done with a beautiful platter.

SPEAKER_07 48:20

Yeah, it was uh a China platter, and it had our family on it. It had my grandparents and you and Faith and I on it.

SPEAKER_04 48:30

But it came out real good. It was gorgeous. Five hours.

SPEAKER_07 48:33

Well, you know, when you want it really good, it's gotta take some time.

SPEAKER_03 48:36

Yeah, well, I'm tired a little bit.

SPEAKER_07 48:40

Don't take my phrase. Who cannot take my phrase? Do you know my husband has a tendency, ladies? Do y'all ever have this? My husband talks in his sleep. And he will say some of the most freakiest things. Like he said to me, Oh, why did you wake me up? I was about to get on a train. I just jumped off a plane and I was having ice cream with nuts and bolts with the leprechaun. And I'm like, what are you talking about? And he's like, What are you what I just jumped out of a burning building? What are you talking about? And I started to record these because you can't make up this shit. You just can't. I don't even know. And he and the the dialogue of what he tells me takes longer for him to tell me than it does. He falls asleep. Literally, if I count down from two, he's asleep. It's not 10, it's not 30. You know, the average person, it's like 23 minutes or something like that for them to fall asleep once they lay down in bed. Alexa, how long does it take the average person to fall asleep once they get in bed?

SPEAKER_00 49:44

Most people fall asleep within 10 to 20 minutes. If it takes longer, it might be worth looking into your sleep routine.

SPEAKER_07 49:51

Okay. Well, then it's been a while because I saw 20 to 23 minutes. I take hours, but you're within seconds. I mean, seconds, you're out. And then he'd like, he'll be asleep for 30 seconds, and he's like, Oh, I just had this dream, and I was having nuts and bolts in my ice cream while I was jumping out of a plane with leprechauns and unicorns. Oh my! And it's just what? Like he asked me the other day, who were you sleeping with? What are you talking about? I'm in this bed with you. Well, I'm just saying, who are you in bed with? I mean, it's just it's comical, but really it's a little concerning. You have to stay awake because you and Eddie are gonna have a conversation.

SPEAKER_03 50:32

Yes, dear.

SPEAKER_07 50:33

Yes, dear.

SPEAKER_03 50:35

So, for those of y'all asking about our two new members, uh River Rose and Amber Blaines. Those are our two white golden retrievers.

SPEAKER_06 50:46

Do you want to come on the podcast right now?

SPEAKER_03 50:48

And they are growing and eating healthy and shitting everywhere.

SPEAKER_07 50:55

That's nice. You can call, and we'll put you on the podcast live with us, and we'll put you on through speakerphone. Eddie said he's calling.

SPEAKER_02 51:07

Oh god. This is gonna be great.

SPEAKER_03 51:12

This oh, we have uh Will King from King's Forge. He's awesome. He's a brother to me. It's been in movies and stuff. One of his was in a Denzel movie!

SPEAKER_07 51:31

One of his was in a Denzel movie.

SPEAKER_03 51:34

We've known Will for No.

SPEAKER_07 51:36

Oh yes, no, no, no, no. We've known Will for over a decade. You just got previewed to meeting him because of my brotherhood with him.

SPEAKER_03 51:47

So Will is known for his tomahawks, swords, and knives, and he is world renowned. His swords have been in several parts of the carriage. Hello.

SPEAKER_01 52:04

How d go ahead and say it. It's coffee talk. It's coffee torn for coffee talk with all the coffee people. I love it. I love it.

SPEAKER_07 52:16

So we're on air right now, and we were chatting, and you know how my husband has diarrhea of the mouth. And he we were talking about you and how smooth the coffee is, and and then he was like, a contagious smile is gonna start selling creepy coffee. And I'm like, yo, ho, why don't you wait and let's talk to Eddie? And he's like, I just did. Eddie, you're reformed. And so he said, I just talked to him. I said, No, you didn't. So I said, I'm texting him. And so I texted you, and now you're on with us. And yeah, so get your foot out your mouth on this one there, big boy.

SPEAKER_01 52:51

Well, that's just well, first of all, hi everybody. Can you see me on the radio? It's an T here. I'm Eddie Raven Scott, Creepy Coffees Podcast, and the producer and the organizer for Flagstaff CreepyCon, which is going to be held October 10th in Flagstaff, Arizona, where Victoria and Michael and Miss Faith are coming out to do speaking engagements to sit there and sell some coffee with coffee talk for everybody. And some other cool stuff like that, I must say. And big news, I just found out today I spoke with Danielle Nicole, who is part of Ghost Adventures, the television series. And she is coming to be a guest at CreepyCon, as well as we're trying to, she's gonna try to get Patty the medium to come as well. So the list is filling up and it's gonna be good and we're gonna have a good time. And the coffee, the coffee, the coffee is it's smooth and great tastings, such as myself, and great tastings. I love it, can be ordered through you guys or on creepycoffees.com or at creepyroasters.com, and it's now available in K cups as well. So we do K cups and Old Bean. So whatever your preference is, is we've got the light, which nobody buys because that's like drinking swamp water, but it still tastes good. And then we've got the medium, the dark, and the house one, which I recommend to everybody because that's what I send to everybody for samples. That's what you guys got. You got a couple bags of I think it was house.

SPEAKER_06 54:50

No, it was medium.

SPEAKER_01 54:51

Was it medium? Okay, well, it's just as good. And yes, so buy it, support it, help us bring Victoria to Flagstaff. Every bag of coffee you purchase, I will donate one dollar towards a contagious smile. So let's get the credit cards out and let's start buying some freaking coffee.

SPEAKER_03 55:16

Listen to that.

SPEAKER_01 55:18

Okay, I that's this is not rehearsed either.

SPEAKER_07 55:22

So no, this is not we never rehearse. No, we don't have to rehearse, it's totally unscripted, and I had no idea he was gonna say that.

SPEAKER_01 55:29

Well, no, you shouldn't have put me in a position where I got to give something back. So now tell me about putting my foot in my mouth.

SPEAKER_06 55:43

Right? He never said you. I told him you were like my brother.

SPEAKER_07 55:48

I said he put his foot in his mouth.

SPEAKER_01 55:51

No, no, not really. That's okay. Look if he got you a dollar a bag coming to you anyway, just for putting his foot in his mouth. I guess it's better than putting his head somewhere.

SPEAKER_06 56:01

Well, his head right now is in his ass.

SPEAKER_01 56:03

Well, that's what I was gonna say when we were talking coffee, but you know how it goes.

SPEAKER_07 56:08

I know how it goes. But you know what? If you told me to get a dollar for every hag, we'd all be millionaires.

SPEAKER_01 56:14

Yeah, this is true, but we're we're working on it. We're on our way. You know, you know, creepy cron is gonna be a huge success. We're already knocking it out of the park, and we're doing everything we can to support a contagious smile. And I hope Faith has gotten my stories that I sent her and collaborate on a story or a book or two, and we'll just talk about it over coffee. We'll we'll come up with a a coffee table for a coffee table book, so it'll all be one big complete thing.

SPEAKER_07 56:52

I love it, I love it, I love it. And muck sticky is supporting creepy con. That's phenomenal. Who doesn't love some muck sticky?

SPEAKER_01 57:03

Right, right. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_06 57:09

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 57:10

Well, you go back to your audience and tell them I said hi.

SPEAKER_07 57:14

Well, you're on air, everybody hears you.

SPEAKER_01 57:17

See the smart ass.

SPEAKER_07 57:18

What else is new? So my husband will call you when we finish here in just a minute.

unknown 57:23

Okay.

SPEAKER_07 57:30

Okay, so my husband has a phone call to go make. I'm gonna wrap this up because he has to go and talk to uh Mr. Eddie about why he just put a size 16 size shoe in his mouth. I mean, he's got a big mouth, but you're gonna really big all right. So I'll talk to you later.

SPEAKER_03 57:48

I'll jump over to Creepy Coffee and buy his coffee.

SPEAKER_06 57:52

Yes. Go buy his coffee. Coffee talk.

SPEAKER_03 57:56

You go to our website too and buy us a coffee. But that's different.

SPEAKER_07 58:00

Okay, say bye bye.

SPEAKER_03 58:01

Oh yeah, bye bye.

SPEAKER_07 58:02

Bye-bye.