Launching A Mental Health Support Network With Real Resources

Transcript

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Howdy y'all! Welcome to another episode of Contagious Smiles Unstoppable with Victoria, Cure, author, CEO, founder of Contagious Smile.

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And a Contagious Smile Academy.

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And Michael Stucco and Rusty here in the room. Take it away, darling.

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Darlin. So we were notified that somebody thinks my husband's a little too curry. So apparently my husband's southern twang is a little twangy. And it's been brought to my attention that sometimes some clarity needs to be brought into the clarity.

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Is that like clearance?

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To pronounce some of the words you're trying to say.

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I enunciate very poorly.

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Well say how say corner.

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Corner.

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What?

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Corner?

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It's not a corner. Corner.

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Why are you laughing? Corner. You're deaf anyway.

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What the hell am I That's rude and that's rude. Don't make fun of my handicap.

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You're making fun of the way I talk, woman.

Care Coalition Partnership Announcement

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That should be See, I can't even say that in just and you you make fun of the Injust or in jest. Hey, it's all about how you say it. Tomato tomato. Excuse me. First of all, let's just back you up in a minute. I have been up and I barely slept. I went to bed after two and was wide up at three.

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Hey, talk to your employer.

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I don't have an employer. I have a partner.

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Talk to him.

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Who is Michael MacNiac, who we just partnered up and are rolling out the whole new revamped amazing care coalition. It's amazing because it's all about helping people in the mental health arena and how they before have always been, you know, just put aside and and not cared for. And it's wrong. It's horrible how some people are treated. And he's amazing. And I can make that public announcement now that uh you're coming to work for me on my team again. Besides on a contagious smile. Now you're you're coming to work on my team with me as your director, executive director, and uh whatever you the buck stops here. Okay.

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So wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. So I'm already the house bitch.

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Isn't that great?

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So what am I now? What is my official job title? If I'm coming to work for you. My assistant. My assistant, my ass. Your ass. Well shit. That sums it up, folks. Good night.

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You're part of my team. You're part of my team.

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Well, I'm part of you, all right.

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Stop it. You're part of my team. I have a phenomenal team. I do. I am so lucky. I have such a great team. And now you're a part of it. So there you have it. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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But look at all that the care coalition does. It's amazing. And we are, oh yeah. So on your calendar of things to do, you'll have to be a part of our live. We are going live Friday night at 7:30 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. And we will be going live. And Mac Nyak, who sometimes we call him that, and Mike, because now it's like Mike Squared. Mike, Michael, we're gonna have to fix that because that's gotta be Oh my god, it's like a Mike sandwich.

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Like no. No.

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Mike, I can just see me now saying Mike, what? What?

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Like it's gonna no, you just put that of two mics in a Victoria and 40 million listeners.

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Step up to the mic, talk to the mic. This is gonna be fun.

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You're so wrong.

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It's kind of fun.

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No, it's not fun.

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The girls are laughing.

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No.

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Uh-huh.

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Just no.

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Why?

Friday Live Rollout Logistics

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There's no mic sandwich. And when you hear this mic, no. Hell no. Okay? Did my accident come out? Hell no.

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Well, a lot of times I'm part of a stucco sandwich.

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That's that's your dog.

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Can I have a sip of your pineapple juice, please?

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Because you so, folks, just to update you, I've been on this G L P one. That's so tart. Staying with with my wife here for about three weeks down. And you're bitching, I was told that I am diabetic.

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Right. And you're bitching about the fact that the first week you lost four pounds, the second week you lost four pounds, and then this week you lost three. So 11 pounds, most people don't lose any weight the first like six weeks to eight weeks on it.

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They don't lose anything. Now, granted, I have cut out all sugar and bread, eating three tortillas in the three weeks.

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Yeah.

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Uh doing this.

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We're not going to get our Friday.

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We have to go early if we go for our and I am doing absolutely no exercise other than running your mouth. I've got a couple dumbbells, you know, I use for wrist exercise to keep my wrist exercise. What? Wrist exercise. What? To keep my video game, you know, dexterity down.

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Ridiculous. Running your mouth counts.

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No.

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Yeah, it does.

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No.

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Uh-huh. Anyway, so you've lost 11 pounds in three weeks, which is outstanding.

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Thanks, Melissa.

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And I mean, I'm a little jealous because I'm not losing that fast, but you know, hey, okay.

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And yeah, that's but I said that if y'all's doctor says your A1C is up, it's it's if it's 5.7. Y'all take it serious. Take it what? Serious.

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Serious? Like what's in the vehicle XM radio series? My God, woman. Just me. I'm a little more tired than normal.

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And things are a little you picking on me because of Mike. Which Mike? Mike McNiac.

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He didn't even say his name right the other day.

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I was tired. You were what? Tired. Like what's on the vehicle? A tire. Oh my god, woman. You said tire. Tired.

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You said tire.

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I was tired and I slaughtered it as his name.

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Did you realize that everyone on my team has a different accent now?

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Yeah. Arnie's from India.

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Yeah.

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Jim's from up north. Up yonder. Mike McNack's from Costa Rica.

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He's not from Costa Rica. He's from up north.

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In Connecticut.

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Rhode Island. Yeah, okay. And then, and he said to me today, Victoria, you do not sound southern at all. Like, there's no southern twang in your voice. Wow. Don't say what I think you're about to say. Would you like a little southern in you? Like, I can just hear it now.

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No, we're keeping this PG.

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You've never kept it PG.

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Except for that slanderous Mike Sandwich shit you just came up with.

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I thought it was pretty funny.

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No.

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Anyway, so we're rolling out all this amazing stuff with the care coalition. They are phenomenal. I am so glad to be a part of it. It was an honor to be asked to be a part of this. And everything is just finally, finally, finally falling into place for everyone. And what I'm most important, like most proud of is the fact that it's gonna help so many people who get just pushed aside as if they don't matter. Hello? Where are you here?

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I'm I'm thinking I'm thinking about all the things that you've been doing for them. Yep. And now I'll be doing some of that for me. For you. For me. Because I'm your ass.

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You've always been my ass.

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Wow. I'm glad I've secured our marriage and manhood.

Working Together As Spouses

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But you know what? People have asked, how are we? Like I've been asked this numerous times. How is it to work together, husband and wife, and live together and be together and all that altogether? Is it hard? Is it challenging? Is it I mean, how is it for you to report to your wife? You've always reported to me, like, but still, I'm talking about in a work capacity.

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Easy, fellas. It's definitely not hard.

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Wow.

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That went on too long.

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That was a little cricket there.

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I enjoy working with my wife. She's phenomenal. She knows exactly what to do. And if she does it, she'll freaking learn it. And then learn it. Learn it. That's a sort of word. Learn it.

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That's one word?

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It's one word. Learn it. Learn it. It's like one syllable. Learn it. Anyway.

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So when you look at a time, is that an hour? Like it's an hour. It's an R. Hour as in you and mine.

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An R.

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What? I can't even say it. Do it again?

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R.

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I can't. I can't do it. Can't do it.

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All right. So y'all, y'all obviously can see how it is working with my wife.

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But I don't I think I'm I've always been told I'm great to work with and work for because I treat people with dignity and respect. You know, and we have fun. You have to laugh. Like you gotta laugh every day. Because if not, life gets boring.

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Oh, we hear you laughing a lot.

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I have a great team. And even though we are doing mammoth monumental things to help the mental health realm, we can still, you know, bring laughter and and happiness because that's what you want to do. You don't want to be gloomy and non-responsive, and just you just don't want to. And again, like who does all your sounds? That would be me. That was funny. Somebody said, Who does all your sounds? What kind of sound equipment do you use for your sounds? Me? Yeah. Or his country? His country slang. That definitely has something to do with it.

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So it's gonna be exciting to see what we can come up with here in the next. Oh, it's coming up on a month, isn't it? So five more months. We uh my wife's got a goal, a set goal here at a six-month period to see where the care coalition and contagious smile has shot forward.

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But you know me, where do you think it'll be, knowing how I everywhere.

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I mean, if y'all if y'all type in a contagious smile or you type in Victoria Cure anywhere, she's blasted just to the furthest reaches out there. So the care coalition is getting its name out there and and really, you know, like I said, my wife said, you know, making headway. So she's phenomenal at this job, and I don't mind to work under my wife, you know. More more to the point, I work beside my wife, I do small things, you know, what what did Mike say? Stuff that is beneath you. So I do the shit beneath my wife.

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That doesn't sound right.

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Literally, I'm harassed. You sit on your ass, which is beneath you, so that means I can never mind.

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I was just gonna ask a sit on the phone.

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See, I I did laundry today.

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You did?

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I did the dishes today.

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The sink, the kitchen's not clean.

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Yeah, this the sink is it's got two dishes in there. Your cup. Your cups.

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Because I drink tea all day long, but not the southern wine. I drink unsweet.

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I made you unsweet tea. But you're drinking it too. Another pot, yes. So see, I'm doing my job as a house bitch. Anyway.

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Yes, so we have our joint series that is coming out, and the first one will roll out on Friday. So a contagious smile will be releasing between three and four new shows a week.

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Wow.

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You're involved in those, so don't wow.

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Oh wow. That means no nap for me.

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Yeah, you have your first meeting tomorrow that you have to be partake in in the morning hours at AM.

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Crickets. Crickets. Crickets. Crickets. Eight o'clock. Ten.

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Nine thirty. Nine thirty.

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Okay, it's doable.

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Oh my god. Seriously. I don't know how some women do it. No, but I've been asked numerous times what about if you argue or if you have disagreements or discrepancies or whatever. We don't we I we we it in fairness, could you have worked? This is gonna almost be comical. Could you have worked with either of the others?

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No. Good God, no. Why? One was just an airhead, just no clue. And the second one was too mouthy. Just constant bitching and nagging. She's talking about my ex-wife, y'all. I've had two. So but we don't have that. We don't we don't have arguments.

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No, we really. No.

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So right now, folks, I may bitch and moan and complain here because I'm sitting in a chair. I've got this sciatic nerve acting up, and it's I'm getting old. I'm 51.

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You might want to be careful saying that because other people in the group, I'm the baby. Well, I'm 51 and and 52 and like how many days? How many days? Yeah, it's coming around the mountain.

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So we've decided to rearrange our little office here in our little home, and we're gonna be using one of those stand-up desk.

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Which our daughter Faith is gonna go bananas over because she really believes that it's hers.

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Look down here at our dog Rusty. I know with his that's common. That's common. And all you see is the red part of his eye.

Faith’s Interview And Resilience Story

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That's common. Hello. So the other day, our daughter Faith, amazing, wonderful, perfect daughter that I have, interviews with. Can I assist you with something?

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Can you change the word I to we?

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Our say hour again.

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Which one?

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They both sound the same from you. And she interviewed with Cheryl Prehem, who NBC, and Cheryl is like phenomenal. She was actually one of the very first correspondents on scene for the Columbine shooting back in the '99. It's wow. And Faith interviewed her and me, and we kind of all asked questions to each other, and it was so much fun. And the questions were phenomenal, and Cheryl was phenomenal. Faith did a fantastic job, like fantastic. She was so spot on. Questions were written and asked, and and talked about the academy and talked about the stucco squad and her journey, everything she's overcome. She's such like a powerhouse in her own right. I mean, you know, they said she would never make it at birth. She has been through it, but she's always so positive. Like she is so positive and upright and full of life, right? And she could have taken the the road of just saying to hell with it. I don't care. Why me? Why is this always and just you know, given up and become like, you know, a recluse. And she never did that at all. She's so just happy, and everybody who gets around her says she's infectious, and she's amazing. I mean, she's just an amazing kiddo. She really, really is. She is. And then what she get, and then what she does say when she acts bad, she's yours, but the rest of the time she's mine.

Caregiving Realities And Self-Care

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I can't wait to see how she acts at creepy con coming up.

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That's I was just gonna mention that. It's awesome. Oh, hello. I just heard from Eddie and Dawn that Skippy from Family Ties is gonna be there. The actor who played Skippy from Family Ties. I don't recollect the movie The Incredible Shrinking Woman with Rick Morales, one of the kids is gonna be there. What's the clown? The only reason I don't remember the name of that Terrifier. Yes, that that person, whatever, is gonna be there. I don't know who, but I got it on the DL that someone from one of the only shows that I watch that my husband's like, this is so boring. The pit is gonna be there. Oh Lord. That is my husband does not like that. I watched like medical shows. And the thing is, is that combined with faith, we have well over 175 surgeries now. And I have watched the actual operation of every single one. And the only one that ever bothered me was a pediatric tracheost a pediatric tracheostomy placement. Because that's hard, because I knew that was her, right? Like I knew it was a baby, and she was only like the time that she got her trach placed, she wasn't even five pounds. And then she's put in a medically induced coma. And I got her what's called rattle socks because she was in a medically induced coma and you couldn't even stimulate her, so you couldn't even rub her hand, but she could wrap her hand around your finger, but you couldn't rub her in any way because she had these stitches in the new trach and all this. And if she moved or jumped, her socks would rattle, and they would let you know, anyway. So that was probably the only one, even the amputation didn't bother me, like, but that watching a pediatric tracheostomy, that was that was hard. But that's why it's so important for caregivers to take care of themselves. I know what's coming, here it is, and just not just that, but like the care coalition has so much resource and information for caregivers as well, because it is really hard. It's it's you know, hard on the the family as well, and that is a challenge that needs to be what are you doing?

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No, stand up.

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Are you falling asleep?

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It's okay.

Mental Health Month Resources And Free Q&A

Newsletter Signup And Academy Invitation

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You're not 110. Don't fart in the room. He can clear you know what? It's like it's like Simba. You can clear a savanna after every meal. It's like in that that's Pumba and Simba. Seriously. That's you and our daughter, because the two of y'all just no doubt can turn somebody green. You can. So back on this. So May is mental health awareness month, and we are going to roll out so much resource information, tips, tricks, unknown facts, powerhouse voices that can help you any and every way. Live, we're even gonna set it up where who gets this opportunity? You can go and talk to not only myself, but Mike, who is a 30-year veteran attorney, free. Like you can come on for a QA and talk to us free and get questions answered and the advice and some guidance. And I mean, attorneys are hundreds and hundreds of dollars an hour, and and here we go, where you're gonna be able to talk to us and get some guidance and some clarity and all of the head hurt. So that is another thing that we're gonna be doing on top of all of these podcasts and everything else. So yeah, there's a lot coming down the pipeline here as well. And if you would like to get into our newsletters, we just sent out our first newsletter today for the Care Coalition, and it went out to over 4,000 people, which is amazing. And we welcome you to sign up and get on the email list so that we can start sending you some amazing information and also even sending you some recommended reading. We funnel through tons of articles and decide what's really worthy, and we pass it on, and we just think it's a helpful nugget of information. So we want to pass over to you. And if you add on to our newsletter, then you'll be able to get those little tidbits all for free as well.

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And if you haven't joined the academy, my wife has put together, please jump on. It's free to sign up. Most classes are free, and peruse through the classes. She even have has one here on how to start your very own podcast.

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There's even a podcast planner.

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Yeah, it's so much in there, y'all. There's there's like 150 some courses. So go to contagious smile.mn.co.

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Mary Nancy.co.

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And that's all it's or just go to a contagious smile's website and go all the way to the right, and it says Academy link.

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There you go.

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So please, you know, she spent a lot of time, a lot of effort on that academy, and it's it's it's helped win an award or two. Three. So get on there and and check it out, see what it's all about.

Hope Messages And Episode Wrap

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And if you can't afford it, most classes are free. There are some that are five dollars, and that's just to help us with the cost of the platforms and everything that we are enduring with it. All you gotta do is reach out. That's it. No questions asked, and we give you a scholarship that takes care of any of that. No questions asked, because we truly do not believe that the contents of your bank account should decide whether or not you get the help you deserve. And so that is why we do this, because we know what it's like to go through this and go through it alone, and we don't ever want you to have to do that. So we want to be able to provide any and all resources for you so that you can start or continue your journey of healing because you're worth it. You are worth it. And even if right now is a dark moment and you're questioning the light of whether or not that it's just flickering, that still can start a wildfire. And you are worth it. You are someone's world. You belong here for a reason and a purpose, and whether or not you think it right this minute, you do. And if you question that, reach out to myself, you will get me. You can reach out to my husband, you could reach out to anyone at the Care Coalition team, and we will tell you you are worth it, and we will help you any way that we can. And that is something that you know we never had access to, and it's so important that you know that you do have that access. So that's that. And as you always say, you have survived, you have survived 100% of your worst days, and that is a hell of a track record. And on those days where you have moments where an hour is just pure and utter hell, and you're like, damn, this is horrible. Remember the fact that you used to have 24 hours of utter hell, and look past it. That hour will pass, those days passed. This will pass, and you're better for it. Even the tiniest step forward is still making the past in the rearview mirror, and that's why we don't focus it on behind us, we focus on the head. And the road ahead is so much better than the one that we left behind, and that's so important.

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Oh, yeah.

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And I am asking for a little forgiveness tonight because I have had about an hour or so of sleep, and we're doing a huge, massive rollout on Friday, and I've been trying to get everything up and going and ready. And so I am literally beyond fumes, and that's saying a lot, being that I normally work like crazy 20 hours or whatever a day, anyway. So I didn't get more than like an hour or so at most. And so I am going to have a shorter episode tonight just for that very reason. And we will be back. You will get a special episode Friday with the rollout of This Is What It Takes, which is the episode release of Mike Magnac and myself doing our podcast with all sorts of special guests and little tidbits, nuggets, and treats as well. And so uh forgive us for tonight's episode as it's a little off center for us, but we're kind of running on fumes, but we are consistent at that, and we will always deliver our word, which is we will be here for you no matter what.

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Thank y'all for listening to Contaus Smile podcast Unstoppable with Victoria and Michael.