We Break Down How Peer Support Builds Trust

We start with the kind of married banter you can only have when you know each other too well, then we turn toward something bigger: what it means to show up for people’s mental health in a way that is real, affordable, and grounded in lived experience. Along the way, we celebrate major milestones like an Evergreen Award for our contribution to the mental health space and exciting book news, but we also say the quiet part out loud about being taken advantage of and why boundaries are a form of self-respect.

We get into the everyday stuff too because life is not lived in neat categories. One minute we’re explaining “whittling” and laughing about pet peeves, and the next we’re talking about surgery recovery, injections, and how vulnerable it feels to manage pain while still trying to keep a household running. That mix matters, because mental wellness is not just theory. It’s the daily choices, the honesty with your partner, and the courage to admit when something is not okay.

The heart of the conversation is our peer-to-peer support directory and why peer support can be a game-changer for trauma recovery, domestic violence survivors, and anyone who needs judgement-free listening without the $150-an-hour barrier. We talk about why healing is not a competition, why empathy hits differently when someone has truly been there, and why men especially deserve spaces where they can speak without shame. We also touch on safety and responsibility, from family bonding at the range to firearm training, holster retention, and thinking beyond just “shooting dots on a target.”

If you’ve been looking for mental health support that feels human, practical, and accessible, listen now, then subscribe, share the show with someone who needs it, and leave a review with what you want us to tackle next.

Transcript

Welcome And Married-Host Chaos

SPEAKER_02 0:02

Good evening. Let me see if I can do it right. Good evening, y'all, and welcome to another episode of a Contagious Smile Unstoppable. I am the redneck Michael, and sitting beside me is my wife Victoria. How did I do?

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You're a dork.

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That's not nice. I have feelings.

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Where?

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Well, they're all robotic, but they're there.

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I have feelings too. One.

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No, that's a nerve.

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And your daughter gets on my nerve.

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Now she's my daughter.

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She is your daughter when she gets on my damn nerve.

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No, she will always be mine. So my husband's like, You never open this podcast. You need to open it. So there you have it, cornflake. Was it good? Did it work for you?

SPEAKER_01 0:47

Yes.

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Okay. Yippie Kaye. Now, how you doing? You see this? I'm telling you what.

SPEAKER_01 0:57

My wife is beautiful with her black hair. Well, it's more like maroon dark.

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Like a cherry. Black cherry.

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She's converting it from red to black.

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And everybody's going, whoa! Why?

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And she looks simply amazing. Her little green eyes pop out. Hey, have y'all been over to Amazon lately and picked up one of her books? Oh dear, Lord in heaven. I think she's written like 70-something books, man. They're not all on Amazon. No, but a lot more.

SPEAKER_02 1:29

Okay, he's getting on his gripe soapbox.

SPEAKER_01 1:31

No, I'm not. What's on the agenda?

Awards And Best Seller Updates

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We are talking about all the new stuff we've got coming on and going on and doing and and all that fun stuff. We just got another award. We got an Evergreen Award for our contribution into the mental health realm, which is awesome. That's our third Evergreen. And now 14 awards.

SPEAKER_01 1:58

That's amazing.

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And found out today that one of the books that I did is now on the best seller list for Amazon. And now that makes my third bestseller.

SPEAKER_01 2:15

And that's proven. Why did Michael say it's that proven?

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Because I'm gonna sip my tea.

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I'm not gonna say the interrogatory.

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And listen to you whine.

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No.

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It's my tea.

When Kindness Gets Exploited

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Those assholes out there that have taken advantage of my wife.

SPEAKER_02 2:38

You've been taking advantage of too.

SPEAKER_01 2:42

I'm talking about as of recently. Okay. My wife does nothing but bend over backwards to help folks and even with a metal back. She gets used.

SPEAKER_02 2:56

I can't do that.

SPEAKER_01 2:59

And y'all Karmer's gonna get you. That's all we gotta say. You know who you are, you piece of shit.

SPEAKER_02 3:07

Wow.

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I'm quite honest. Right? You come up with a sob story, you manipulate people, and you're a fraud. That's all it is. You're a lion. Fraud. I'm trying to be very nice. So that's it. That's all I gotta say about that. You know who you are. What do you do with people like that?

SPEAKER_02 3:35

What do they say in the South? Bless their heart. Or bless their thumping gizzard. I've never understood that. Bless their thumping gizzard. I don't know what that means.

SPEAKER_01 3:43

It means you feel sorry for them.

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That's like bless their heart, right?

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Like bless their thumping gizzard.

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Is it kind of like I'm gonna let you meet your maker a little sooner? I'm gonna help arrange the meeting.

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No, we advocate against violence. No.

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I'm just saying because I hear that slogan all the time.

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No, that is violent.

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That's a violence link. Yes.

What Whittling Actually Means

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So I need to ask you, what the hell is Whittle?

SPEAKER_01 4:05

Whittle.

SPEAKER_02 4:06

Whittle. So because he said to me the other day, I'm whittling. And I thought he said, Little. Not I am deaf 100% in one ear and like 88% in the other. And he said I was whittling. And I thought he said he was littling. And I'm like, littling what? Or literally. And I read his lips and I hear him, but sometimes, you know, he does have an accent. And I'm like, what? What the hell is whi whittling whittling? What is what?

SPEAKER_01 4:34

Whittling.

SPEAKER_02 4:35

You know, we even asked A-L-E-X-A, and she said she has no don't get her started. She even said she had no idea what you were trying to pronounce.

SPEAKER_01 4:45

So I have been in need of a back scratcher for a while. I have no clue where that. So I decided to go get me a piece of hickory and a piece of hickory and whittle me a back scratcher.

SPEAKER_02 4:59

Oh dear Lord in heaven.

SPEAKER_01 5:00

So I was out on the front porch whittling me this back scratcher, and my wife's looking at me on camera. What is he doing other than making a huge mess?

SPEAKER_02 5:08

But she still hasn't cleaned up. I'm looking at it right now. You s you still haven't even cleaned it up. You still haven't cleaned it up.

SPEAKER_01 5:18

It's on my agenda.

SPEAKER_02 5:19

Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 5:20

So yeah. So whittling is just hand-carving a piece of wood with a knife. You you will something out of a piece of wood. Most time uh it's a figurine, it could be a pipe, it could be whatever. A shilly. A what? A shilleley. Close your mouth.

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What is that?

SPEAKER_01 5:40

A shilleley?

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Yeah.

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It's a walking cable with a big knot on the end of it.

SPEAKER_02 5:44

Use the like a pogo stick.

SPEAKER_01 5:46

No, you used to bash things in the head with.

SPEAKER_02 5:49

Like a pogo stick.

SPEAKER_01 5:50

No. A pogo stick. Shut up. It's something you jump on.

SPEAKER_02 5:55

Like your pogo stick. Shut up.

SPEAKER_01 5:57

Woman.

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Okay, so then answer me this.

Household Hygiene And Pet Peeves

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Why is it my husband has my husband has this thing he does. Why do you like that? Wow, the hand's like, what? Let's not get intimate. Okay. No, no, no, no. I'm talking about like, why is it my husband has this huge pet peeve? He just spit his Louisiana teeth. No, you like you have this big pet peeve about cutting toenails in bed. He cannot depend it.

SPEAKER_01 6:32

Who wants to sleep in a bed full of toenails?

SPEAKER_02 6:35

You don't, you put like a Kleenex, which you know is a tissue, under your feet and you clip, and then you take the clippings and you throw them away.

SPEAKER_01 6:43

I have never used a pair of toenail clippers and had that bitch fall directly below my foot. Well, it's because your feet are like the size of ski slopes. It goes 90 miles an hour in left field, right field, air ball. It they go everywhere.

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So why do you go out on the front porch with the floor?

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Because just for that reason.

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Your finger toes.

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Oh, you're an ass.

SPEAKER_02 7:09

You're whittling your toes. Like seriously. Like I don't under I don't understand that.

SPEAKER_01 7:15

Like you don't spit in the kitchen sink.

SPEAKER_02 7:18

No.

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Do you pee in the shower? It of course. Who doesn't pee in the shower?

SPEAKER_02 7:22

My God. Do you seriously? Yes. You nasty son of a are you kidding me?

SPEAKER_01 7:28

Who doesn't pee in the shower? You no. I know a little girl in the room next door here took a shit one day.

SPEAKER_02 7:37

You took a shit in the bathroom of Chick-fil-A and left your drawers. Babe, I don't piss in the shower. That's ew.

SPEAKER_01 7:46

Everyone pisses in the shower.

SPEAKER_02 7:48

I don't piss in the shower.

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Well, you need to.

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What is the point in pissing in the shower when there's a toilet right there?

SPEAKER_01 7:56

So you go to the bathroom first, then get in the shower.

SPEAKER_02 7:59

You shit before you get in the shower.

SPEAKER_01 8:01

Well, that's because the sh my shit can't fit down the hole, the drain.

SPEAKER_02 8:05

Oh my god, in our forever home, we're getting two separate his and her bathrooms.

SPEAKER_01 8:10

We're gonna be showering together anyway.

SPEAKER_02 8:12

Uh-uh, not if you're pissing in that. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 8:16

You can have your first golden Hell no.

SPEAKER_02 8:20

I'm not that bitch. That is disgusting.

SPEAKER_01 8:26

I mean, see Why didn't you ask that question?

SPEAKER_02 8:28

Because I don't understand how you could think cutting your toenails in bed under a tissue is disgusting.

SPEAKER_01 8:36

It is.

SPEAKER_02 8:37

But then you pee in the shower.

SPEAKER_01 8:39

But it goes down the drain, the water washes the.

SPEAKER_02 8:42

But the acidic leftover gets all over the floor of the tu the tub.

SPEAKER_01 8:47

That's why I scrub out the tub.

SPEAKER_02 8:49

You don't scrub it that often.

SPEAKER_01 8:51

Often enough.

SPEAKER_02 8:52

I have an open incisions in my back. And I'm getting in there and you just pissed in the tub.

SPEAKER_01 8:58

I think urine is sterile.

SPEAKER_02 9:00

I don't know. You've you drank your own urine? Oh my god. Are you serious? Everyone's I've never tasted my own urine.

SPEAKER_01 9:09

Well, there's something you put on your bucket list.

SPEAKER_02 9:12

No, thank you. Why would I want to taste my own pee?

SPEAKER_01 9:16

You've never been that curious as a kid.

SPEAKER_02 9:19

No.

SPEAKER_01 9:22

Well, we're gonna get some hate mail for this, I think.

SPEAKER_02 9:25

Like, we we we need to pee pee.

SPEAKER_01 9:27

Like, okay, but your husband is nasty.

SPEAKER_02 9:32

Yeah. Well, we know some of the nastiness that's been You put a dog treat in my mouth the other day. Well, your mom ate dog treats. We have a video of it.

SPEAKER_01 9:41

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_02 9:41

Like she actually snacked on those bad boys. You piss in the shower?

SPEAKER_01 9:50

We've established this. We can move on.

SPEAKER_02 9:53

Do you pee standing up all the time or do you also piss sitting down?

SPEAKER_01 9:56

Oh yeah. When I first wake up in the morning, I can't see. I'm disoriented. I go sit down like a woman. I'm not peeing and have the shit go all over the wall, the back side of the toilet, and a mess for me to clean up. So first thing in the morning I go see Do you brush your teeth in the shower? No. Who the hell does that? That is so weird. That's weird. That is weird. How can you brush your teeth in the shower? How can you piss in the shower? Well, just you just let it flow.

SPEAKER_02 10:28

What about when it's that time of the month?

SPEAKER_01 10:30

Let it go. Let it flow. What?

SPEAKER_02 10:32

What about when it's that time of the month and it flow is there?

SPEAKER_01 10:35

Well, you know, for me, uh, you know, that time of the month doesn't do anything for me.

SPEAKER_02 10:40

No, you just get your bat wings.

SPEAKER_01 10:42

Oh.

SPEAKER_02 10:43

Not for me. I don't have it anymore. That's so nasty. That is so I'm oh my god. And you know what? I'll be honest and say that there are so many times when I take a shower that when I'm done, I take that long handle thing and I clean the shower because I can't hold my balance as an amputee and clean the tub. So I clean it while I'm in there, naked as the day I came into this world, and I scrub the tub in the shower when I'm done, and I don't pay in there. But I mean, it's like if I had surgery and I have an open store or my infection, you know, when I had the infection from surgery, and I don't want it, y'all to, you know, if we have multiple bathrooms, and I don't understand, but I'm always like trying to be respectful. So I clean the tub in the shower, and you're just pissing in it and walking out of it.

SPEAKER_01 11:44

Babe, I've told you a long time ago, if you don't want to know an answer to a question, don't ask me. Because I'm gonna be honest with you and tell you.

SPEAKER_02 11:52

Did we drink somebody else's pee before?

SPEAKER_01 11:54

Yes.

SPEAKER_02 11:55

Oh my god, help me.

SPEAKER_01 11:59

Don't ask me why don't you think about the question before you ask me and think if I ask him this, he's probably gonna say yes. I don't want to really know, so forget it. Move on.

Surgery Aftermath And Shot Day

SPEAKER_02 12:14

I'm feeling some kind of not so healthy way right now.

SPEAKER_01 12:17

You want another pill for nauseas?

SPEAKER_02 12:20

The only pill I take is Zofran for nausea. That's it. And today they made me into a pen cushion because I still have this stupid reaction from my surgery, the spinal surgery. So I had to go get another steroid injection, the prednisone, which they put in my butt, and they were like, hey, we can't put it on the right side because that's where your device is. So we have to stick it in the left, and you're gonna be a little sore. Okay, great, thanks. And then they did all the lab draws, and then I have to do my GLP, and so I feel a little like a pincushion today. But oh my god, babe. Yes, like I now know that that song, you know, like don't put banana in my butt, don't put marshmallow in my butt. That was created for you.

SPEAKER_01 13:06

I thought it was for don't.

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Don't I cannot okay? Have you ever you know what?

Unusual Questions And Alexa Rabbit Holes

SPEAKER_02 13:20

I can't I can ask this because it wasn't with me. Did you ever have sex in a graveyard?

SPEAKER_01 13:25

Probably.

SPEAKER_02 13:26

What do you mean probably?

SPEAKER_01 13:27

Uh it's so long ago, probably.

SPEAKER_02 13:32

Where's the most unusual place you ever had sex?

SPEAKER_01 13:38

Elevator inside of a mall?

SPEAKER_02 13:40

With a janitor while I was outside waiting on you working hours? Slip.

SPEAKER_01 13:54

Well, what did McJagger say? Loving in the elevator.

SPEAKER_02 13:58

That's not McJagger, that's Aerosmith. And the words to that song is Loving in an Elevator, Lingerie, second floor, come on, I'm gonna love you a little more. Jackie's in the elevator. Now, I know you know someone by that name somewhere in your past, but that is how the song starts. And you're pretty good. And it's Aerosmith that sings that song, not Mick Jagger.

SPEAKER_01 14:26

Oh yeah, but Steven's got big lips.

SPEAKER_02 14:29

Oh my god, pogo stick. Like, seriously? Okay, I I can't. Okay, second most unusual place you ever had sex.

SPEAKER_01 14:39

No, what we're not doing this. This is fun! This is unstoppable. This is not. You gotta answer the question. Dr. Phil, this is not Dr. Ruth.

SPEAKER_02 14:50

She do you know she actually was a sniper? So I heard she was a sniper.

SPEAKER_01 14:54

Now, tell sniper in the military? Uh-huh. Interesting.

SPEAKER_02 14:58

Alexa, was Dr. Ruth a sniper in her time in the military?

SPEAKER_00 15:06

Yes. She was trained as a Haganah sniper in her youth. A what?

SPEAKER_01 15:10

Haganah?

SPEAKER_00 15:11

Haganah.

SPEAKER_01 15:12

She's German.

SPEAKER_00 15:14

A Haganah? See? A Haganah was the underground Zionist militia in Palestine from 1920 to 1940.

SPEAKER_01 15:20

Okay, stop, Alexis.

SPEAKER_02 15:21

Alexis, stop. See? All this unusual is not necessary knowledge that I have just floating around in my brain.

SPEAKER_01 15:27

Then stop asking so many questions.

SPEAKER_02 15:29

I don't ask that's how you learn.

SPEAKER_01 15:31

Okay, well, what did you learn about your husband today?

SPEAKER_02 15:34

You're a dirty, nasty slut who probably pissed in the shower because that's the only time you had long enough to go from woman A to woman Z.

SPEAKER_01 15:42

Now we're bringing up my past.

SPEAKER_02 15:44

No. Hey. Okay, we're not bringing up your past. True or false? You never drank my pea. True. I never gave you a golden shower. True. So it wasn't from me. So it was from somebody else. So that's not me, flesh of thumping gizzard. Hey.

SPEAKER_01 16:12

You just had to go there.

SPEAKER_02 16:13

I did. You hear my girl? Watch your head. You're don't hurt my boy. Stucco is laying here.

SPEAKER_01 16:21

No, we have Rusty, Stucco, Amber and River all that here. Unstoppable show.

SPEAKER_02 16:29

Well, we're talking about the nasty habits of men.

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And like your dog doesn't need his own shit. And then licks you.

SPEAKER_02 16:37

Uh they lick you.

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Baby. I give him a toothbrush.

SPEAKER_02 16:42

Do you want to talk about all that you've had licked?

SPEAKER_01 16:44

Or by who? Let's talk about something else.

SPEAKER_02 16:46

Uh-huh. Go ahead. I'm listening.

SPEAKER_01 16:47

Let's

New Website And Merch Plans

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see. You got a new website coming up?

SPEAKER_02 16:50

Yeah, it's for you. See you get. It's all about you. Next.

SPEAKER_01 16:53

Are you serious?

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Next.

SPEAKER_01 16:56

Y'all, my wife has created a beautiful, just absolutely stunning website for adjectives. For our clothing apparel. And it will be ready here soon.

SPEAKER_02 17:09

It's not only clothing apparel.

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No.

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No.

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But that's a good start.

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It's keepsakes, key rings, engraving, yada, yada, yada.

SPEAKER_01 17:20

And if y'all know anything about my wife, she's overachiever.

SPEAKER_02 17:24

Sounds like Carson. She says that about faith.

SPEAKER_01 17:27

Oh yeah? Well, pay me.

SPEAKER_02 17:31

What are you talking about?

SPEAKER_01 17:32

Don't you get paid for doing a spotlight on somebody? Cameo? If they paid. Not like you paid Carson because y'all are buddy buddies.

SPEAKER_02 17:42

No, I have his private email. I have his email. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:45

But uh I'm on Cameo and he is- I think my wife is up to like 12 pages on this website for you? Website.

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21.

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21.

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Yeah, you were sleeping nap two today when I got to 21.

SPEAKER_01 17:59

Uh, I did a lot of work today and out in the yard.

SPEAKER_02 18:02

I love when you make me laugh. It's so therapeutic. Wait, let me wait. Make me laugh? I'm waiting.

SPEAKER_01 18:09

I'm handsome.

SPEAKER_02 18:10

That's not funny. It's accurate.

SPEAKER_01 18:12

Oh, shut up. It is not.

SPEAKER_02 18:13

You are. You are a hot, hot, hot dude.

SPEAKER_01 18:18

So what else we got going on? What is it? Got anything else going on?

SPEAKER_02 18:24

I'm working. I'm working, working, working, working, working. Like I work.

SPEAKER_01 18:29

Oh.

Peer-To-Peer Support Explained Simply

SPEAKER_01 18:30

Y'all, she has this this this peer-to-peer support. It's absolutely wonderful. Check it out. How can they find it?

SPEAKER_02 18:39

Oh, I can tell smile.com.

SPEAKER_01 18:41

And it's in the top tab.

SPEAKER_02 18:43

It's in the menu, and you can go to the peer-to-peer directory. And we're even giving you free consultations with some of like the best. And if you would like to join us, there is a place for you to apply.

SPEAKER_01 18:54

So what is peer-to-peer?

SPEAKER_02 18:56

Okay, peer-to-peer, even though some of us are not, I am not a licensed clinical social worker, but we do have one on staff. We have also we have other therapists, we have other people who are in the field, we have somebody going through for their doctorate. We do have a doctor on there. Anyway, so there are people who are not doing therapy in regards to like a psychiatrist or psychologist. They're not psychiatrists or psychologists. They are people who resonate with life experiences because they've been through them themselves. And now they're helping others navigate through the healing process. And they all offer something uniquely different. They're amazing. And they're, I mean, like you can go on and meet with every single one of them free and get to know them and find out which one's best for you. And they're at a fraction of the cost. We also offer sliding scale to help. And it's because like I went through this whole thing by myself and I never want anyone else to do it. And nobody has the money to pay $150 for an hour. And then what I don't like is, and I'm not taking away or discrediting anybody who's gone through the training because I've done a lot of that training. But if you asked me, Victoria, would you rather meet with somebody who has legitimately lived through those experiences, or would you want to re-go to somebody who has gone through the education? A hundred out of a hundred, I want to go through somebody who you know can empathize and understand the process. Because when you've gone through this, I bet you I can't even tell you how many people I have worked with over all these years. But when you get to talk to somebody who understands, there's more of a trust, there's more of an opening, there's more of an understanding, there's more compassion, there's more of a comfortability for you to tell your truth, you to tell your, you know, your side. And that to me is so important because it's already uncomfortable to go to someone you have no idea who they are, and to say, I went through XYZ. And a lot of times, and I I don't, you know, discount therapy. I've been on a therapist couch for 40 years. And the thing is that, and I love the person who who has helped me, but they also couldn't understand at certain levels what I went through and endured. So to have someone say, I didn't go through that exactly, but I understand and can listen and just value you and understand how hard it is to tell your story and to be there as support is huge. I mean, it is huge. And I tell people all the time, I can't tell you how many people have said to me, you know, the thing is that I'm very timid about coming to you particularly to talk to because I know your story, I've read your story, I've heard your story, you know, meet you every day, yada, yada, yada. And the very first thing I say, like clockwork, it's not a competition. It's one kick, one hit, one punch is one too many. No one has the right to put their hands on you in an unwarranted manner. I don't care if you're male, female, trans, I don't care what you identify as, but you do not deserve to have hands on you in an unwarranted manner, period. It's just not okay. And so when people come to me and they're like, oh my God, I went through this and I, you know, he only hit me once or twice. And so I really don't feel comfortable talking to you. Don't know, don't look at me and say, you know, I don't want to talk to you because you've only been through, you know, whatever, and I've been through whatever. It's not a competition, you know, it's like hair, the perfect analogy for it. Hair. You can cut it all off and it's gonna grow back, right? It's hair. It's like the first time when we were at our make a wish trip, and I had that beautiful three-year-old with lymphoma, and I gave her a pair of scissors and she made me look like G.I. Jane all day long. And I was, and you know, my daughter is like, Oh my god, mom, your hair. I was like, It's hair, it'll grow back, right? So don't and what I'm saying in comparison is like when I had all of a sudden short, short hair, nobody would have known the day before that my hair was down in my thighs, right? So don't compare, it's a horrible analogy now that I'm listening to myself. Don't compare that because at the end of the day, you need someone who understands and can be there and give you compassion and understanding and empathy and and unconditional support. And that's invaluable in your for in your course of healing, and that's what peer-to-peer support is. And I apologize for that whole hair analogy because now that I really think about it, that's really not a great analogy. I'm sleep deprived, so I apologize.

SPEAKER_01 23:51

You do that?

SPEAKER_02 23:52

No, even though I do have to get up quite early in the morning.

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I went in a snuggle with my puppy earlier, and she licked my hand after she ate her shit outside my hair, my face, my ear, and would not let me go to sleep. Try to kick her out.

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And she came in here and hugged me so sweetly, like put her head on my shoulder, it was so sweet, and just hugged me. It was the sweetest.

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So a contagious smile.com, look at and research peer-to-peer and what Victoria just said it was all about, and then join, you know. A lot of times, a lot of times you want me to make some coffee.

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No, I want to go.

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Have that horse.

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You wouldn't do that for your wife?

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I'll do it for my wife.

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What a good pogo stick.

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Are you serious? Yeah. I hope they didn't hear that.

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Pogo stick.

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A lot of times folks just want someone to to talk to, to listen, right?

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Without judgment. And people who've it gone through this, they can give you that. They can talk to you without judgment because we have been exactly where you are, right? There's the big difference.

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It it's it's hard for us guys to and we have we have that on our panel. And you know, others what we went through. You know, for me personally, it is a stipulation, it is a it is a pride thing. It is something that we have to overcome. You know, a lot of times, in my opinion, and and my experience, we bottle shit up, we hold it in. And that's just the way, you know, we've been dictated all our lives. You're you're a man, you keep it in, you don't cry like a baby, you know. Your feelings, you know, keep them inside. So having a peer-to-peer support where you meet another man that has gone through something similar, you know, hey, this guy can relate. You know, he understands me. You know, I don't I don't have to hold my feeling feelings in because he's been there. He he knows what I was feeling. Whether it was physical abuse, emotional, financial, mental, you know, whatever it was. So Peer to Peer by Contagious Smile. Y'all check it out and come aboard. We'd love to have

Range Time And Family Bonding

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you.

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And I have to say, before we wrap up the show, because this is not a normal long show today, I want to give a shout out to my daughter who our daughter absolutely yet again outshot you at the range yesterday.

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Oh Lord.

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Like he said, all right, do a headshot. And boy, did she ever she unloaded and she goes, You didn't say which one? Wow, that is awesome! That's my kid. I mean, she is a hell of a good shot, and I love the fact that she's getting a lot better. She she outshot you.

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She did. I I accidentally killed the hostage.

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That's that's great. Yeah, that's great.

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So why why do I take my daughter to the gun range?

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Now she's yours. Or I have it recorded earlier where you said she was mine.

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It's it's just something her and I do, like uh movie night every Saturday.

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Boy.

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So it's bonding time, and I always want her to feel safe around firearms.

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Are you gonna tell her how to whittle?

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I'll teach her how to whittle. Oh, you bought her a knife.

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I did. So she knows how to handle and manage one.

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So, you know,

Carry Training And Holster Safety

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we believe in gun control. Both my wife and I carry. If you have the proper training, there's nothing wrong with, you know, a legal, non-felinous, non-criminal, non-violent individual carrying a firearm. You know, we were at the restaurant tonight, and and a fella walked in, and and when he sat down at the bar, his shirt peeked up and I saw the butt of a holster. You know, yes, he's sitting at the bar, but he wasn't drinking alcohol. You know, there's nothing wrong with that.

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Hell, you go into Wally World and you see people carrying their on their overalls and stuff.

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What gets me is these these ignoramuses. What? Ignoramuses.

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What is an ignoramus?

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You know, it's one of them people you look at, shake head, say, bless this thump of gizzard.

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Oh, now you can say it.

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Goes into Walmart, open carry in a level one holster. Okay, some people might not know what a level one holster is. A level one holster has absolutely no safety retention. Right. I mean, you might as well be walking around with a paper bag hooked to the side of your belt. No, that'd probably run in there.

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Or just carrying it, really.

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Right? Anyone can come up and grab your firearm with absolutely no resistance, okay? Like I did, I did mention a legal, competent individual who's had training. Okay, train yourself to handle your firearm correctly, right? That doesn't mean just shooting dots on a target. This doesn't mean having a three-inch grouping. It means weapon retention also. It means safety, it means indexing. All of this. You're so hot. It means looking down range at your target. What's behind my target? If I miss, if I fart while I'm getting ready to pull the trigger. Right. The minions what happens if my bullet goes through the target? Right? What is downrange? What is behind? Is there kids? Is there home? So get the proper training if you're gonna carry and don't be dumb. Can I say that? You already get it. Okay, don't be ignorant. Okay, at least get a level two. You know, a level three is is absolutely the best, but uh at least a level two, a level two holster has some kind of locking feature to where you have to manipulate And what about for us amputees who couldn't unlock? That's why you have careful.

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I can't wait to hear what you said.

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Great husbands like me that protect me.

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You're not always with me.

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And I carry your purse.

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But you're not always with me.

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That's that's right.

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So then what do you say?

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But you're a badass martial artist already.

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Well, thank you.

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But I mean how many black belt you got? 18?

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Where the hell did not even Bruce Lee has 18? I have two. Not even, I don't know where you got eighteen.

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Why do you have two? What isn't one enough?

SPEAKER_02 30:33

No, it's degrees. Well then just have one black belt with with And then I went and studied a different form, the martial arts, and then I got really big into the weapons, like throwing stars, which I love, and nunchucks, which is a little challenging now.

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You throw nunchucks?

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You are less your thumb fingers.

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Take us out now.

Final Laughs And Sign Off

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No, I brought us in. Oh lord, y'all. This is a short episode from a contagious smile.

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At least we need to get some coffee.

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Yeah, be sure to check out peer-to-peer support. Did you say pew pew? What? Peer peer. That was three words. Peer to peer.

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Oh my lord in heaven.

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Peer to peer.

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Why can't you talk like that all the time?

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Because that's dumb. Who's that's like saying olive oil? Well, when you say that who says olive oil?

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Used to say elephant shoe.

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It's oil.

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You used to say elephant shoe to me all the time.

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Elephant shoe?

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Yeah. If you say that and mouth it to somebody, it looks like it says I love you.

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Well, I love you, elephant shoe.

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Okay, pillow step.

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Good night, y'all. Here at a contagious smile. Peer to peer.

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Oh my god.