Cup Of Mud with Victoria Cuore and Michael Solomon

“A cup of mud” turns into a whole philosophy tonight. We start with the messy, funny reality of married life: coffee orders that confuse strangers, typing versus dictation, getting roasted by our kid, and yes, losing at bowling even when the lane has every possible advantage. It’s light, it’s chaotic, and it’s us.

Then we pivot into something heavier: what happens when post-op care feels rushed, inconsistent, or flat-out disrespectful. We walk through a follow-up appointment after a serious reaction, how allergy concerns get handled (or ignored), and why reading your chart notes matters when what’s written doesn’t match what you experienced. We also talk about access problems like months-long waits, “five to seven business days” replies, and how patient advocacy becomes a survival skill, especially when you’re healing, in pain, or dealing with hearing loss and mobility risks.

From there, a news story about a shooting stopped by a civilian opens up a candid talk on situational awareness, responsible concealed carry, training, and the small habits we use in restaurants and on the road to reduce risk. We close with what we’re building at Contagious Smile: peer-to-peer support rooted in lived experience, plus a heartfelt moment of condolences for Jesse Tyler Williams and a recommendation to check out her work.

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Transcript

Cup Of Mud And Couple Banter

SPEAKER_01 0:02

Howdy y'all. It's Michael from Contagious Miles Instable here with the lovely and sexy Victoria Cure who is an awesome freaking wife. And see, I didn't say anything about your books.

SPEAKER_02 0:15

Yay, but it's not over yet. So what shake and bacon?

SPEAKER_01 0:22

I'm drinking my coffee. So I go into Oh Lord. The place that can I say the name?

SPEAKER_02 0:29

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 0:29

Okay. I don't want to get sued. I go into Dunkin' Donuts, y'all, and I tell my daughter, get them three maple donuts.

SPEAKER_02 0:37

Get them three maple donuts.

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And I and I told the gal behind the counter, I said, I'll take a cup of mud.

SPEAKER_00 0:45

My Lord and he large.

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And she said, what? I said, a large cup of mud. And she looked at me quizzically and I said, what? Hot coffee. Looked at you what? Quizzically. Like, what the hell is he talking about? And I said, What? Am I old? Of course our daughter pipes up. Hell yes, she he's old. And then and then the old lady behind me starts laughing. I guess I'm in the same boat with you.

SPEAKER_02 1:15

She better not be in your boat.

SPEAKER_01 1:17

Easy greasy.

SPEAKER_02 1:19

I'm just saying. Come on, pogo stick. Tell me.

SPEAKER_01 1:22

So does anyone else out there say a cup of mud when they're ordering a car? Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 1:27

I mean Or is it just me? Probably just you.

SPEAKER_01 1:30

Y'all know we're from Georgia. We're in the U.S.

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Unfortunately.

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Yeah.

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No offense to the other Georgia peaches that are out there.

SPEAKER_01 1:38

Thinking about moving up to uh thinking.

SPEAKER_02 1:40

And then we don't know exactly where we're going yet.

SPEAKER_01 1:43

Well, fine. I just won't give out our location.

SPEAKER_02 1:46

Fine.

SPEAKER_01 1:46

I've already said we're in Georgia.

SPEAKER_02 1:48

Well, I know, but we're away from Georgia.

SPEAKER_01 1:52

It's kind of hot down here.

SPEAKER_02 1:54

It sucks down here.

SPEAKER_01 1:55

So I come up here tonight, say, babe, let's do our podcast.

SPEAKER_02 1:58

This is gonna be hilarious.

SPEAKER_01 2:00

Waiting on my babe to come on. She's over here dinking around, doing something.

SPEAKER_02 2:04

I'm building him another website because I haven't done enough of those.

SPEAKER_01 2:09

And so I start jamming away over here.

SPEAKER_02 2:12

No, you are being okay. Stop and freeze. I am one-handed and I type. I don't dictate, I type. And you, McPherson, go over there and you're like, ooh, I can dictate. So that is the laziest thing.

SPEAKER_01 2:28

They don't know what we're talking about yet.

SPEAKER_02 2:30

To go on a computer and do work.

SPEAKER_01 2:32

So I started typing a word.

SPEAKER_02 2:34

And then he's like, ooh, I could be even lazier.

SPEAKER_01 2:36

I just decided I'm gonna start writing a book. I come up here, waiting on my wife, and I start typing away. I've got maybe a paragraph, right?

SPEAKER_02 2:46

And I'm oh, you can't got my dissertation in there, you got a set.

SPEAKER_01 2:49

And I'm jamming away, right? And I'm thinking I'm at like a hundred words a minute. And I asked my wife, how many words do you think I'm at a minute? I said, I used to be at 45, right? And I'm jammed like I was like, hey, my forearm's getting tired. Like I said, I got about a paragraph done.

SPEAKER_02 3:03

They got a set.

SPEAKER_01 3:05

And I was like, can you dictate on this thing now? Back in my day, we had to buy something called Dragon Naturally Speaking.

SPEAKER_02 3:13

And you had to plug it in and it goes, crank it up, yeah. You got phone.

SPEAKER_01 3:20

So I found the dictate button. And I said the button? I found the button. I'm good at finding buttons. I know the guy. And I pushed the button and I was like, yeehaw.

SPEAKER_02 3:30

And I were like, what?

SPEAKER_01 3:32

I started talking away, and of course.

SPEAKER_02 3:36

Did you pick under languages, Redneck?

SPEAKER_01 3:38

No. And my wife is in the background yelling, wait, stop.

SPEAKER_02 3:51

So and he's like, What'd you quit?

SPEAKER_01 3:54

That's what's going on, pickle.

SPEAKER_02 3:55

Pickle. Why is everything you talk about like like got girth?

Bowling Night And Family Roasts

SPEAKER_01 4:01

My daughter out bowled me, y'all. I just let me put that out there. She kicked my ass. She was like Wait, did you have baby bumpers? I did have them up. How'd you know? And they got a freaking slide for your bowling ball now.

SPEAKER_02 4:15

What do you mean they have a slide? Like you go up and then.

SPEAKER_01 4:18

No, you put a slide in front of your alley, in front of your lane. You used it. I pleaded fifth. And you put your ball. The kid's slide for the ball and it rolls down a string.

SPEAKER_02 4:32

So not only did you use the slide, but you used the baby bumpers and you still lost.

SPEAKER_01 4:37

72 to 58.

SPEAKER_02 4:40

So obviously she got a strike.

SPEAKER_01 4:42

Oh, she can't she wiped my butt both games.

SPEAKER_02 4:45

Oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 4:46

And then I had to buy the funnel fries for for the funnel, the funnel fries? Funnifries.

SPEAKER_02 4:51

Say that five times fast.

SPEAKER_01 4:52

Funnel fries with chocolate?

SPEAKER_02 4:54

She didn't eat the chocolate.

SPEAKER_01 4:55

No, I did.

SPEAKER_02 4:56

Go figure.

SPEAKER_01 4:58

Stucco, stop licking my boot, man.

SPEAKER_02 5:01

That's not bad. Well, they're the size of a boat. You can't help it.

SPEAKER_01 5:07

Speaking of which, she had to hunt for my shoes at the bowling alley.

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Because they don't carry them in boat size.

SPEAKER_01 5:16

I'm just saying.

SPEAKER_02 5:18

I mean, seriously.

SPEAKER_01 5:19

I had a good time. My wife went out and visited her a good how would you say parent, non-parent dad? I don't know how you say what what is he to use? And I took my daughter.

SPEAKER_02 5:34

He's like my bonus dad.

SPEAKER_01 5:36

That didn't sound right. But I took my daughter out. We had dinner at Olive Garden and we went bowling.

SPEAKER_02 5:44

You went bowling?

SPEAKER_01 5:45

Bowling.

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Bowling.

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Bowling.

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Oh my lord.

SPEAKER_01 5:49

How'd you say it?

SPEAKER_02 5:50

Bowling.

SPEAKER_01 5:51

Bowling?

SPEAKER_02 5:52

Not boil. That's not a boil.

SPEAKER_01 5:54

I didn't say a boil like on your toe.

SPEAKER_02 5:56

That's boil is in hot water. Bowl? Like you're gonna get in here in a minute. But I'm gonna get in hot water.

SPEAKER_01 6:03

Okay. As long as it's with you, babe. I'll get anything.

SPEAKER_02 6:07

I know.

SPEAKER_01 6:08

Oh shit.

Post-Surgery Follow-Up Gone Wrong

SPEAKER_02 6:12

So I had a couple people ask me how my follow-in-up doctor's appointment went when I went back from the reaction. And is there a way for you to summarize this? That some of these doctors are mixed. I don't know. Like, I've never in my entire life, and I have been to plenty of medical doctors between my daughter and mine.

SPEAKER_01 6:37

Doctors, I swear.

SPEAKER_02 6:38

Hey, watch it. And for them, for this doctor to walk in the room and drop the F bomb as many times as he did, he kept saying F F F F F. And then even asked if I was the right patient who had the allergy. And then, you know, he proceeded to continue saying he does 15 surgeries a day, which is physically impossible.

SPEAKER_01 6:58

Is that a double negative? He proceeded to continue.

SPEAKER_02 7:02

Probably. I'm caffeine deficient today. Well probably.

SPEAKER_01 7:06

I'm English deficient.

SPEAKER_02 7:07

We know that.

SPEAKER_01 7:08

I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 7:09

You like to press two for Spanish.

SPEAKER_01 7:12

So I'm good at pressing buttons.

SPEAKER_02 7:14

He goes on to the first out of his mouth is you're being readmitted. And we're gonna can consult with plastics. And then we are there is no fly on my foot. And I advocate against that.

SPEAKER_01 7:27

Stop picking.

SPEAKER_02 7:29

What if it was your daughter who picked it?

SPEAKER_01 7:31

I popped her this morning.

SPEAKER_02 7:32

You better not.

SPEAKER_01 7:33

I popped her.

SPEAKER_02 7:34

You like having the taste in your mouth?

SPEAKER_01 7:36

Oh yeah, I love that.

SPEAKER_02 7:37

Then you better knock it off.

SPEAKER_01 7:40

How many of y'all guys out there love that taste in it? Oh, wait.

SPEAKER_02 7:43

Holy crap!

SPEAKER_01 7:45

Oh, you were speaking non-literal.

SPEAKER_02 7:48

Anyway, so he's like, we're gonna admit you and consult with plastics, and then they're gonna do surgery and redo all of your incisions. So, and there's three, technically maybe four, depending if you want to count that hole. They drilled in my back first.

SPEAKER_01 8:03

You got another hole?

SPEAKER_02 8:05

Do you want to wear that mud? Do you want a mud bath?

SPEAKER_01 8:10

Are you in a bikini?

SPEAKER_02 8:12

Hell no.

SPEAKER_01 8:13

Give me my cup of mud.

SPEAKER_02 8:15

So, anyhow, Boninski, he goes on, he's like, Yep, we're gonna admit you. I'm like, no, we're not. He's like, Yes, you are, no, we're not. Yes, I mean it's like a ping pong game. And then I said, How about you look at it first?

SPEAKER_01 8:27

And sure, I'll look at your hole.

SPEAKER_02 8:30

And so, no, my back.

SPEAKER_01 8:32

And then Okay, sure.

SPEAKER_02 8:34

He he was like, Well, it's not as bad as I thought it was. I'd give myself an A, not an A plus, but an A. And we go back and forth about this. And then I read my notes after the fact on the my chart, and it says patients admitted to hospital for consulting with plastics for rev revision of incision sites. Are you freaking kidding me? I mean, first of all, and then it goes in there, you know, previously during the other surgery and says I was in there for the critical part. And yes, we are aware of our allergies, but we use this stuff anyway. And it's like, are you kidding? What's the point? What's the point in going in there? And then he made sure to put in my notes. She refused any and all payment not only promptly after surgery, post op and during admission. And what is that supposed to prove? I mean, I don't get it. Like, I don't understand why that needed to be included in this, but sure. But it does, it makes you really like, what is the point in, you know, like allergy band? They didn't put one on me, even though I mentioned it, I can't tell you how many times. And then even my husband was like, she's considered a fall risk right now. I mean, can you imagine if I fell, it'd be like Inspector Gadget like everywhere, and they didn't even have the uh the rails up on the hospital bed. And it's like so minimal now that they want to do to just get by. I mean, you okay, you wait six, eight months to get in to see a surgeon. Obviously, you're hurting, and then you have to wait to get on the calendar. Then you get there and they treat you like you're waiting in line at a restaurant with a buzzer, you know, that that tells you your approximate wait time is, and here's where you are in the lineup now. And then they don't even see you again after massive major surgery. I mean, they remove part of my vertebrae, and the surgeon doesn't see the need for follow-up. Is it just me, or is that like wonky donkey? Like, are you kidding me? Don't look at me crazy.

SPEAKER_01 10:47

You said wonky donkey.

SPEAKER_02 10:49

Right, because I it's better than saying what I was gonna say.

SPEAKER_01 10:52

This is your show.

SPEAKER_02 10:54

Really effed up shit.

SPEAKER_01 10:55

Uh there you go, you just said it.

SPEAKER_02 10:57

Well, I was gonna say the whole thing. But anyway, how do you do that? How do you you know you go in there and now whenever you call a doctor, like so often when I am advocating for people with medical needs, and you know, you say you need to get into pain management or whatever other facility, oh, they're booked till December or they're booked till January. How are you gonna know you have an ear infection? Should we play roulette and say, hey, I think January 14th, I'm gonna have an ear infection. Let me see if I can go ahead and get on the books. Because a doctor's supposed to have openings for sick patients. Like if you get an ear infection, you're supposed to be able to get in to see your doctor, right? Or you're supposed to be able to get in. And then if you leave a message for me in my chart, it says, please accept five to seven business days for an answer. Well, if we have some kind of chronic reaction, our body's not going to give you five or seven days before it responds. I just don't understand the mentality of how. And so many people are like, well, they're doing their best or they're doing their whatever. Okay, let's say you have, and we're just hypothetical here, you have product A and product B. And this is true. You can actually go and research this, because I have and find this out to be true. And product A, pharmaceutical people will come in and say, Hey, doc, here's what we're offering. If you use our product only for XYZ condition or implantation of whatever condition, if you only use our device, this is what we'll give you. And they do, they get kickbacks. Doctors get kickbacks. So instead of saying, hey, you know, here's an array of things that you can use. Oh, well, if I sell or I get this many dispersed of this medication or this device, I get to go to Aruba for the quarterly conference, or I get to go play golf on, you know, the master's green or whatever the case is. What about the patient? When does the care come down to the patient? Because believe it or not, they really do get kickbacks, and it's not chump change. A lot of times, some of the kickbacks, depending on the the field they're in, are as much as some people make it here.

SPEAKER_01 13:19

What was the rush that the doctor wanted to exit the time that he had with you?

SPEAKER_02 13:29

He didn't have he said he does 15 surgeries a day.

SPEAKER_01 13:31

And what else?

SPEAKER_02 13:33

He did remain on campus.

SPEAKER_01 13:35

He said, I had, I need to go.

SPEAKER_02 13:39

I have I have a grant call.

SPEAKER_01 13:41

I have a grant call.

SPEAKER_02 13:44

And then he just like literally walked out.

SPEAKER_01 13:46

That is that is so insulting to a patient. You you are meaningless, you you you're worth like two minutes of my time. That's it.

SPEAKER_02 13:57

But you can wait and be miserable for five weeks.

SPEAKER_01 13:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 13:59

But the thing is, when he came in the room, the nurse, I was in a triage room, and I kept telling them my husband and daughter wanted to come back, and they put you in a triage room first, which is much smaller. And they were doing my blood pressure, which has to be done on one side only, and then they were doing the temperature, which goes in your ear, right? Well, my right ear is closed off completely. So, how do you explain it? There, I mean, there literally is something where it's just it's like it's just a wall of skin. There you can't you can't get through my ear canal anymore. So they have to do the ear temperature in my left. Okay. So in walks the doctor, and my husband will tell you when he tries to talk to me, if my left ear is on the pillow, I can't hear him. So here he comes walking in, and he is just mile a minute. I put my index finger up and said, wait one second, please. And he looked at me like, what? And then he the the nurse took the temperature thing out, and I said, You have to remember I'm deaf in the right ear, 100%. And I can't hear you. And I'm 88% deaf in the left, and I don't have my hearing aid on. And he was like, Is there anything about you medically that's simple? I mean, that's kind of offensive. What if I didn't have the thick skin that I did? And I was, you know, more than a lot of people. It's not a fact joke. No, she's down 60 60.4 pounds. I'm down 60.4 pounds. But what if I was in the beginning of my healing journey? That would have really offended me. I'd have gotten up and left. I'd have felt like I, I would have felt like I offended him, even though he was the one who offended me, right? So he just looked like, how can you know? And then he's like, you have so many allergies and da da da. And I said to him, Well, let's recall that I've had well over a hundred other surgeries and never had this happen. Ever. I mean, look at my amputation, right? I had hundreds and hundreds of stitches. I took them out myself. My husband laughed profusely when I did it, but there was no irritation. I had no reaction, I had no infection, nothing, right? Nothing. And that was, I mean, hundreds and hundreds of stitches. No infection, no reaction. And I told him that. I said, I've never had this kind of reaction before. This by far was the worst surgery. And I even told him it's worse than amputation or both of my jaws being replaced. And he was like, Well, an amputation really isn't that big of a deal. What? Yes, it is. You're losing a limb. Like, it's a big deal, right? And he was like, Well, this is your spine. And we took part of that out. And then we did this, we did that. And it was everywhere, including my mouth in the timeout when I was like, hey. And he said to me, his staff even kept saying, uh-uh, she's allergic to da-da-da-da-da-da-da. And it like went one ear out the other.

SPEAKER_01 16:58

Not in your case.

SPEAKER_02 16:59

Not in my case, it stayed right there. But I mean, how hard would it be to do something so simple as like, I'm sorry, I messed up. I screwed up, you know? I'm not perfect. I am by no means even close to it. But when I screw up, I own it. I absolutely own it. I'll say I screwed up, I sure did, and I'm sorry. And I do it genuinely.

SPEAKER_01 17:17

And we know they can still screw up and get away with it without getting booting.

SPEAKER_02 17:22

You know, it was five weeks. Well, let's go back a little bit more than the five weeks. I had to have this surgery because of a surgeon who A was sick, B, came in unsterile into the OR, not even wearing booties on his shoes, telling me he's sick. I asked to postpone. They put me to sleep immediately when I said that. And then I got an incredibly raw, incredibly rare infection that made me have to get the first device removed because of this. I wouldn't have had to have this last surgery had that not happened. But it's not catastrophic. I look like a railroad track. My back looks like railroad tracks, like or latitude and longitude, right? Can you imagine if I ever decided to wear something backless and some kids behind me going, what the hell is that? I mean, my back is like you could teach geography on it. Because, you know, here's north, south, east, west. It's like a compass. There's all these lines of latitude and longitude. There's like all this all over my back. These poor kids would come up behind me going, I still think you're beautiful.

SPEAKER_01 18:31

I know it.

SPEAKER_02 18:32

Oh, thank you. And you're doing great on your weight loss, by the way. You've lost 30.

SPEAKER_01 18:36

And you just changed subject.

SPEAKER_02 18:37

Well, still, you've lost 30.

SPEAKER_01 18:39

Stuff's my dog.

SPEAKER_02 18:40

That's not your dog. Stucco's my dog.

SPEAKER_01 18:42

He's right. Don't don't move.

SPEAKER_02 18:43

You've lost 30 something pounds?

SPEAKER_01 18:45

30 pounds. Yeah. So tonight at dinner. Let me bring this up. I I scrolled through TikTok a lot.

SPEAKER_02 18:54

Oh, dear Lord.

SPEAKER_01 18:55

And I quickly saw something

Situational Awareness And Carry Training

SPEAKER_01 18:57

about shooting between two individuals. I don't know where. Looked like they had maybe AR rifles or some type of rifle. And I believe two were killed and several injured, right? And the suspects were shooting at vehicles, from what I saw. And then the report said the gunman was taken down by a civilian. That just absolutely tickles my fancies. Okay?

SPEAKER_02 19:24

It tickles your fancy.

SPEAKER_01 19:25

Tickles my fancy because my wife and I, we carry everywhere.

SPEAKER_02 19:30

Everywhere.

SPEAKER_01 19:31

Okay. We we we go to the gun range quite often. We we've trained for this. We've went through a couple different law enforcement academies. We know how to handle our firearms. We know about firearm safety. We know about weapon retention. And we teach some of this to our daughter, and she goes out on the range with us, right? Let me grab that for you, babe. Thanks, babe. And so my wife and I are always vigilant. Now, if we go in a restaurant, I don't tell my wife where to sit. She automatically knows where to sit. Now, this is not a male bravado thing, but my wife knows always carrying, and I'm always gonna watch the door.

SPEAKER_02 20:14

I'm always carrying.

SPEAKER_01 20:17

But there are times when my daughter likes to sit beside me, okay? So then my wife will sit across from me. Well, that's what happened tonight. And does it make my wife any less vigilant? No. She watched everyone that came through that door, okay? And I'm talking from head to toe.

SPEAKER_02 20:36

And I ain't eye, I'm not doing eye candy.

SPEAKER_01 20:38

Do I get jealous? No. Does she get jealous? No. Because she knows what I'm thinking and I know what she's thinking. We're watching for suspects, we're watching hands, we're watching now. Now, don't get this wrong, ladies. We're watching for bulges in the pants around the waistline, pockets, dedicate weapons and whatnot. And then we'll oftentimes we'll point this out to our daughter. Now, our daughter has seen this going on for years, right? And she picks up on this shit. And she wants to be a criminal profiler. Is that correct?

SPEAKER_02 21:13

You don't even know what our daughter wants to do with her name.

SPEAKER_01 21:16

Is it a criminal profiler? Or what's it called?

SPEAKER_02 21:19

Well, yeah, that's fine.

SPEAKER_01 21:21

Okay. And and and and and I ask her tonight. I'll notice out my periphery that she kept staring at one individual outside the restaurant. And and I quickly looked at her and I said, baby, what are you looking at? And she describes the man to me, right? And tells me what she's thinking of how he is. She's doing a profile on him. And I said, Is he I went even further. I said, Does he look straight or gay? And uh she told me, and then and I blocked her vision and I said, What? color shoes does he have on? I blocked her vision where she couldn't see the individual and she immediately told me the color blue. And that was correct. Right? Because when I was taught as a as a cop, most suspects don't change shoes. Alright now, you know, a guy may have 30 pairs of shoes, you know, it's quite common. But that was one thing we were taught to specifically pay attention to the color of the shoes. And and I was quite proud of my daughter. I was very proud. And of course my wife owns up says uh that's my kid that's my daughter. That's right. Even though she outbowled me she's now out shooting me in my old ass age. And she'll tell you she got the targets on her bedroom door to prove it.

SPEAKER_02 22:47

Oh yeah she does.

SPEAKER_01 22:48

There's so yeah so I I just I just want to say kudos to the civilians out there who have taken it upon themselves to become familiar and trained and legally carry their farm and a willingness to act in the face of violence in the face of harm to protect themselves, their loved ones or others.

SPEAKER_02 23:16

But see in these days like it was in Idaho that there was a fast food restaurant that got shot. I think there was three devs seven injured or something like that over the weekend. And then there was like four other shootings I heard and it's every single day. And I mean it's in fast food. We've seen it in schools we've seen it in movie theaters you see it everywhere now and you need to be completely and utterly ready. Now another thing I've taught her is you always look everybody in the eye like even if you know they're caring and they look questionable look them in the eye.

SPEAKER_01 23:49

Why you tell me why you're gonna interrupt me you tell them why Hadunsky it if you look a predator in their eyes now you've made eye contact they now know you've spotted them they know that you see them for what they are and what they're going to do. This gives them pause up now my prey knows I'm here they're not they're not unsuspecting anymore now I may think twice about doing whatever I was going to do maliciously to that individual so my wife has done a great job teaching our daughter you may proceed I'm good you just what are you writing me?

SPEAKER_02 24:32

You're writing doing our I'm working you can't be working we're doing a podcast yes Ken I have too much to do you have one hand pay attention what seriously I have too much to do I have so much work to do I run four companies I have a lot to do you do I do I don't get a break like I did take a break though today I did you did you got your nails done and I don't I don't like them but that's fine. They're black I hope that Lee is listening. No my toes are black but what the shit is on my fingers I have no idea like this is it's called ombre on my fingers it's ombre ombre ombre you loved it and she even said she even said your husband loved when I did have an ombre and I was like well I didn't and then she's like I know but you're so boring with your nails I'm like no I've done green and blue and purple and shut up Alexa and that's rude Alexa has feelings and Alexa doesn't have feelings Alexa do you have feelings see I process information and respond to it but whether that counts as feelings is a fascinating question okay we don't care I definitely have preferences though shut up Alexa will be good don't hurt Alexa's feelings with your rudeness I'm just straightforward oh you want me to be more direct no I want you to shut up Alexa shut up so that uh that is us when we go out to dinner okay and it's not just going out to dinner it's even when we're driving like we make sure oh yeah especially when we go down to the city oh yeah we make sure there's always she's always like why is there so much space between you and all the other cars I'm like because I will make plenty of room to get away get around I mean you know like stop sign red light you can the cool thing is now the new thing is is that people will come up and you know they're saying that they make between 50 and 60 thousand tax free a year when they the the people who are out there asking for money. The homeless right or so called right and then we've seen people get in cars after I have but the thing is is that now there's been so many reports where you offer them money or you offer them some food or whatever and then they roll down the window to come get it and then they pull out a gun and they carjack you or they take somebody prisoner or hostage or you know whatever the case may be and I'm like not today not happening can't do that.

SPEAKER_01 27:13

Just remember these words people I was in fear of my life for the life of my loved one I have to stop the threat. That's right. You if it takes the whole magazine and another one to stop the threat that's what it takes okay one bullet may not stop the threat okay you may not be Annie Oakley like my daughter man I take her to the gun range and when I when I say go for a headshot boy she is not shooting up high. I mean she is shooting down low.

SPEAKER_02 27:49

Well you told her headshot you didn't specify I need to specify you did not specify which head needed to be shot at so that's our daughter for you hell yes and school's about to start again holy crap yeah y'all just if if you I don't know you know we have firearms we have a safe we keep fire like five safes in honestly oh we do but you know we also teach our daughter or teach our kids and we train them or we train our daughter the other two knuckleheads but you know I I I believe it goes back to you know the parents training the kids properly you know or grandparents who whoever you got they need to properly train you I know the video games are bad I know you know school shootings but I don't know I to me it starts with the parents and I and my wife and I were old well at least I'm old you're old my wife's still and tell everybody about peer to peer before we go peer to peer support from a contagious smile where it originated and we have gotten two more awards so we are a multi multi award winning platform with 14 awards now carry on y'all will see some copycats out there doing peer to peer not doing that I didn't say it I didn't say it I didn't say it but they may have been I didn't say it linked to us somehow in the past and plagiarized copyright infringement I didn't

Peer Support, Books, Condolences, Closing

SPEAKER_02 29:35

say it stolen you know what we wish you all the best in your success andor failure hopefully the latter I didn't say that either but look at peer-to-peer support through a contagious smile y'all it's it's incredible we got some great people I I I won't mention his name but there's a spectacular fella coming aboard absolutely wonderful three time Guinness book world records Henry champion with the biggest heart he has three daughters he's amazing he's the newest to join us he should be coming in the next couple weeks we're just starting the process to get him up and going now and just a downright nice guy I mean super nice and really works with men a lot and helps them get out of their own way I mean really if you want to check out John Graham go check out our latest podcast for Contagious Mile because I actually did a one-on-one podcast with him last week and also he was on this is what it takes with myself and Mike Magnaak also as well and I mean he is just I mean he's just a nice guy who lives and breathes for his girls and his wife and they're about to have a baby any day now he's gonna have his first son so he's like finally the numbers are coming my way and I mean just amazing human being with a lot to offer and uh he's getting ready to be on a show over in Japan. Yes it's like got 400 million views to it's bigger than a Super Bowl over there can't tell you excuse me I can't tell you what happens you got to watch it and see I know but I promise secrecy so we can't tell so we welcome John aboard and you know appreciate you know what he does. Along with everyone else and we are still taking applications for people who want to help other people you know and this is a great opportunity this platform is unlike any other you're a part of a multi-award winning platform as well you can go to contagious smile.com look up how to apply to become a specialist and we'll see if it's a good fit I mean it really is a great way to help others and also help yourself we had a a young lady that started a couple weeks ago maybe three weeks now and Misha she's out there her clients are coming in and you know they're they're working under with her and Danielle and Sam Danielle Sam they're also out there and Danielle's had somebody come out so far. So the the program works y'all and it's only been like not even a week or two that it's been out it was because of my surgery and and everything it has not been able to be launched the way I wanted it to be but we're still slowly getting out there and it's already getting reached. So that's amazing. And there's there's enough bio about the individuals and we all offer free 15 minutes so you can talk and see if it's a good fit or not and then you can either work with them from there or try somebody else to make sure because it's all about helping you in your healing journey and understand that this is from lived experience and that's so critical in abling you to help heal.

SPEAKER_01 32:44

That's right. Like me you know if I if I get on there y'all I I don't have a degree you know I didn't go to college for any of this shit. But you're a first degree pain in my butt sometimes I have lived it a lot less than my wife has gone through but I'll I I give it to you from the male male perspective just as I lived it and you know for all them years. So reach out to us get on the contagious smile website go to peer to peer there support and if y'all are interested in any of my wife's 72 books some of them are on Amazon.

SPEAKER_02 33:25

Really my daughter's folks are on Amazon and we are Faith Cure Solomon and hold on we are actually in the process of seeing if our workbooks that I've created will be in schools to help which is really cool. That's right that's super cool.

SPEAKER_01 33:44

Yep if you're if your school that you attend or you you're employed at needs some workbooks let me know. The stucco squad series is so is excellent.

SPEAKER_02 33:55

Before I forget I want to mention you don't forget anything just I'm not John Graham. I want to take a look at I would like for y'all to compete.

SPEAKER_01 34:03

No way you have a perfect photographic memory compete against John.

SPEAKER_02 34:08

Okay I'll I'll I'm gonna challenge you to him whatever keep memorizing a complete deck of cards in 21 and a half seconds have you tried you don't know if you could do it no but I want to take a minute in realness and send again our heart filled condolences to Jesse Tyler Williams. She is just light she's so unbelievably sweet we're in the process of seeing she was going to do peer-to-peer with us but then she lost her daughter and her daughter's passing was not her daughter like in in other words her legacy is not that she passed of an overdose her legacy is who she was and she was just a light and I was honored to be able to sit by her when she did her first live after the passing of her beautiful daughter. And so she is trying to still come back from handling everything else and then still trying to figure out if she can do the peer-to-peer which we're really hoping she can because she's an amazing person. And her book Rising Through Hell is amazing as well. And I'm in the process of reading it and I literally have had to stop several points and just take a deep breath because the content of it is so real and so eye-opening and if you can't afford the book she will get it to you for free and she is just an amazing angel on earth. So check her out as well and Jesse Tyler Williams yes yes so that was a good show babe yeah you're gonna go back to dictating really why not really why not no because if I sat stand up here trying to write a book you're gonna mess with me you have computers downstairs too that's my t shirt computer you have a computer in the engraving room y'all be on lookout website's almost done all right thanks guys thanks for listening babe you have boxes at the front door by the way that need to get moved thanks guys yes dear yes dear